well my guess is she will not tell you stuff any more

sorry but cant trust you was wrong thing to say \

hope it works out for ya

IMO, this is not a matter of trust, at least not in your way of thinking. Try this perspective, she truste you and your relationship enough to confide in you about something most kids would never dream of doing. In her eyes, you have probably betrayed her trust as much as she has yours.

Unfortunately, sex at that age is pretty common and despite her upbringing (or anyone's), it's more likely kids will than won't. So, let's look at it this way. She was safe by using a condom, she came to you to talk to and confide in. She's obviously doing something right. You've done well just getting her to that point. You should be proud of her for just doing those things. Granted, yes, it's probably better if she had waited but since she didn't, at least she's being as safe and as responsible as she can be. Your job, now, is to keep the lines of communication open, and do what you can to keep her protecting herself as much as possible. It's a done deal, so look to the future

I just got a really nice initial mail from a guy who actually took the time to read my profile and wrote a thoughtful and coherent note, the problem, he is 79.

I wrote him a kind and respectful reponse, thanked him for actually reading my profile and for his kind e-mail, but thought our age difference was too great.

He writes me a snotty note back saying it's too bad I have limitations and I obviously have a hang-up about age, telling me I would do well to look beyond age.

I am the one on here preachin' think beyond your limitations, think outside the box! The only hang-up I have is dating someone who's old enough to be my father.