The assumption that men, or women, who are married and look outside their marriage for friends and/or companions are simply nasty people "cheating" on their spouse. It's not always so.

"Get a divorce first" is not always the answer. It may be if a couple are absolutely incompatible. But sometimes there are legal problems, financial problems, financial obligations or something else that makes divorce impractical to impossible.

I really don't care what people think of me but it's unfair to judge anybody when you've not walked in their shoes. Not all men are "pigs" looking for a little on the side. Some are just trapped in bad situations. That's all marriage is to me, a trap.

This is not true. I am real. Of course I'm really not like the vast majority of men either, but at least I know I'm real. I pinched myself and it hurt!

I know how you feel. Fakes and catfish are claiming to be both genders and going after people our age with a vengeance. I wade through them unendingly but keep going because I know there's just one person out there somewhere who will be what I'm looking for and vice-versa.

On the other side, many "real" people are just looking to satisfy their sexual desires or fantasies or make money. I get plenty of hookers, who I get to give me a price and then report. Don't know if that happens to women but I do know women get trashed and have men come on to them, want nudes, etc., and that's infuriating too.

It's discouraging and frustrating, and time consuming, but keep looking if you really want someone. I'm sorry you're discouraged but keep working on it and hopefully you'll find the guy you're looking for.

Not everyone thinks that marriage is a good idea. Marriage is a trap that prevent people who've changed to move on without a lot of legal and emotional trouble. Marriage is a custom that has outlived its usefulness. Marriage as it was originally was meant to give men power over their women, to "own" them as possessions. This thinking only holds now for religious nutcases.

I have been married for a very long time and I've found myself totally trapped. Anything I do is screamed at by society as "immoral" or "wrong" or whatever. I can't just walk away and divorce is something that rips people apart. So what to do?

These days many people do not get married but just live together. That is the way it should be. Religious views and religious "morality" are wrong. I don't care what religious people think but there are many who do and it brings them unspeakable emotional harm.

Sure, I'm different and my views are different. But after observing people and lives for all these years, listening to men and women in miserable marriages, and trying to find a way to have friendship and companionship that evaporated here over a decade ago I see how marriage does no good and does much harm.

Women are not objects, they're not sex toys, they're not subhuman or somehow less than men in any way. Women are and should always be equal to men. They should not be looked down upon or seen as possessions by a man they married. Honor? Yes. Obey? Absolutely not.

Just a bit of food for thought.

It has been my experience for quite some time that men over 50, certainly men over 60, are targets of catfish by the bucketful. Yes, they think we are desperate. But actually, 99% of catfish are not just fake but men posing as women in Nigeria. I have talked with two of them who do it.

My block list is very long and grows by the dozen every day. Learn the signs and nip them in the bud.

I think those ******** over in Nigeria think all old guys like me are an easy mark. Men are stupid, I guess. Sorry, I'm not stupid. I know when you're yanking my chain and I'll cut it and block it in a heartbeat.

That wasn't much of an introduction but I thought I'd throw it in...

HI, I'm Ted. I'm on this site to find a friend, a woman, to see and shake hands with and hug and get to know. I'm not the usual guy and my girl would be like me. She is not hung up on religion, is free-spirited, open-minded, non-judgmental. She's not bigoted or prejudice and certainly not an Trumpass supporter. She can live with who I am and appreciate my silly humor. She is close to my age and lives within a few hundred miles, three hours driving time, from Lufkin, Texas.

thanks for the opportunity to express myself.

I think those ******** over in Nigeria think all old guys like me are an easy mark. Men are stupid, I guess. Sorry, I'm not stupid. I know when you're yanking my chain and I'll cut it and block it in a heartbeat.

That wasn't much of an introduction but I thought I'd throw it in...

HI, I'm Ted. I'm on this site to find a friend, a woman, to see and shake hands with and hug and get to know. I'm not the usual guy and my girl would be like me. She is not hung up on religion, is free-spirited, open-minded, non-judgmental. She's not bigoted or prejudice and certainly not an Trumpass supporter. She can live with who I am and appreciate my silly humor. She is close to my age and lives within a few hundred miles, three hours driving time, from Lufkin, Texas.

thanks for the opportunity to express myself.