This is the best one I've found, and I've tried a bunch of them.

Most don't have forums, so you're stuck with profiles (usually empty, poorly filled-out, or completely incomprehensible) as your only way to learn about people.

The ones that do have forums, the forums tend to be either acrimonious snake pits or nothing but sex-spam competitions.

I heard about one free site last year and -- I am not making this up -- EVERY e-mail I've gotten on that site (and that's a lot) has been from a scammer. I don't think there's a real person on that whole site!

Even the sites that aren't total train wrecks have their downsides -- few or no local members, no way to contact the site owners if there's a problem, bad layouts, no mail filtering options, etc.

If there's one that's anywhere near as good as JSH, I haven't found it.

Ok, I think I'm in love! We haven't been together but a couple of weeks, but I really think this is going to go places. What's a way to say "I think I love you" with actually using those words, and so I don't make an awkward moment?