I'd settle for
a little TLC
once in awhile.

You come across as a person who thinks that finding chemistry with someone is as easy as 1...2...3. Here are a few questions for you: How long did you chat with them online? How many times did you talk on the telephone? How well did those chats and conversations go? How soon after first contact did you set up the date? Did you feel any connection with that person during the date? How did the date go in your opinion?

One last question: Are you just looking for someone or are you looking for someone special?

Lastly, just some friendly advise. Double check your spelling and punctuation in your profile. People actually do look at those types of things.

cause i rather hookup with someone get to know them and if their for me be with them

Dating in this day and age is a different animal than before online communities. It's evolved and the lack of a second date doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or with the men, just that you've not met the right one yet. There are far more choices for dating these days. It can be exhausting and, at times, disappointing but if you want to find a relationship (it sounds like you do), just keep working at it. Sooner or later you'll find that second date and will be glad that you met the one that was worth spending that amount of time with.

By the way, I applaud you not sleeping with someone on the first date....get to know someone first...once you do have sex you can't go back and it changes the relationship...if you do it first thing then many women find out later this is a relationship that is not for you. Everyone is usually on their best behavior the first couple months after all when it comes to relatioinships. By the time you learn someone is not right for you (and usually you can figure it out quickly) if you jumped into a physical relationship, things have come to a different level that makes a break up more difficult in my opinion. Many people may disagree with me which is fine as casual sex works for them and I can't judge, but my opinion for what works for me is that it's good to wait a little while and get to know each other before the jump into the bed time.