Or you can help yourself by reading the Basic Keys of ZEN

Think this when you are in that situation:

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

Where are the people coming from? How do you meet them?

Why would you want him/her back? If they are gone, it's time to find a new one. Resentment will creep up if you get back together.

Then walk away when you feel they are full of it. Where do you meet these women?

Look for the body language. Look at how often she looks into your eyes, brushing her hair with her hand, her body facing you, etc.

Play their games JPMU57. Use them. Sounds mean, but they have put you in that position, or just stop talking to them. Continue to talk to as many women as possible. One will be the "RIGHT ONE". Just remember, don't apply your past experiences to the new women. That'll scare them away.

Thank you copperhugs

NancyM1957,

Friends can't make you feel the same things a girlfriend/boyfriend can. Good to have friends, better to have someone by your side.

When anyone starts looking too hard, the smell of desperation permeates the air. Let go of everything, (ZEN). Be happy while you're on your path alone. She/he will notice you.

Do not look. Have fun and get into some activity groups. She'll show up one day.

Talking on phone sucks, most of the time. Too many awkward moments