after looking for a solid relationship for some years it seems like all the serious people are allready taken and whats left are game players,iam still going for what i want but sometimes i fell like giving up or giving in and being like everyone else,that wouldnt make me happy but at least i wont be alone.

well some are taken but you can have friends too

Don't give up or give in! You'll find your match someday. Maybe you're just looking too hard!

Giving up should never be an option. I think we all feel the way that you say you feel and we all have to remember that not ALL of the good ones are gone. That is just not true.

If you keep looking you have the possibility of finding someone which will give you some hope. If you give up and stop looking for her, you have no chance of meeting anyone and that leaves you with absolutely no hope.

I don't know about you but I prefer to live with atleast a little hope rather than none at all.

Good luck.

i think iam not looking hard enough.

I feel the exact same.. When should you settle for less then you need/want? You think the right answer is 'never settle' but then you spend a few years with a lot of casual sex and sometimes that just blows

Do not look. Have fun and get into some activity groups. She'll show up one day.

When anyone starts looking too hard, the smell of desperation permeates the air. Let go of everything, (ZEN). Be happy while you're on your path alone. She/he will notice you.

that's a good way to put it bigmaq

NancyM1957,

Friends can't make you feel the same things a girlfriend/boyfriend can. Good to have friends, better to have someone by your side.

but iam not lokking that hard,its just the woman that ive talked to are full of it.

Thank you copperhugs

and besides woman up here wont make that move so how am i to know if she noticed

Play their games JPMU57. Use them. Sounds mean, but they have put you in that position, or just stop talking to them. Continue to talk to as many women as possible. One will be the "RIGHT ONE". Just remember, don't apply your past experiences to the new women. That'll scare them away.

Look for the body language. Look at how often she looks into your eyes, brushing her hair with her hand, her body facing you, etc.

It is so easy to meet nice people. Open your eyes and when you see someone you think is possibly an interest to you hand them a Business Card with your Photo and your email on it and something like Wishing you a Great Day! It is a numbers game. I guarantee you if you give out three cards a day you will have a full email box and a busy calendar in no time.

i dont think i can bring myself do to that level,people get hurt like that and iam not the type of person to do that.

Then walk away when you feel they are full of it. Where do you meet these women?

We just have to be patient. For the right lady, something about you will standout in her mind. Good luck!

Great thread, JPMU57. I hope that you don't settle for less that what you want because it would seem that wouldn't make you happy or her either. You have managed for a few years on your own. I think that is really something as it shows you have a survivor spirit. Kudos