Well, when I go grocery shopping, I look at prices, and I consider which one is cheapest, and I usually end up buying that way. I don't shop at expensive stores unless it's a special occasion. (YAY ROSS)

So honestly, I don't see why anyone would think that spending more money means more fun.

Like, if I want to go out with someone, I'd offer to make dinner for me and the man or woman, as going out to dinner is expensive! That and I love cooking.

So I'd have to say you took the wrong person. Fun doesn't need to cost a cent, heck, I'd have fun on a date if we went to the park or something.

Just a response to those playing devil's advocate (which I already did with my first post in this thread)...

I would say this woman has expensive tastes, and likes being pampered. However, once she knew that the OP didn't have to pay for the trip, she came to question whether he was willing to spend the money to afford her own tastes. Therefore, disappointment set in.

Truth is, if that is what she wants, then shouldn't she put herself in a situation to pursue it by her own work and merit using her own money? If her tastes are too expensive for her own means, then she should adapt her tastes to what she can afford but still enjoy. Anything beyond that, the proverbial gift horse, should either be accepted with modesty and appreciated, or outright refused with humility.

Since A happened and B didn't, isn't that pretty much the definition of a gold digger? Especially since the OP already admitted that she knew he had money, or at least money in the family?

Is it possible that amoungst all the (supposed)premeditation and hidden agendas that she just didn't find you to be her "type"?
And in demonstrating that in her off-beat way... you now know that she's not your type either?
Just wondering...?

(just wanted to add... I do see that it was hurtful to you OP, there's no taking that back for her... and that's important for you to note and verbalize. Still, try not to let it eat you... my hope, that.)

maybe, just maybe...
she thought you were paying for a lavish weekend so she was being appreciative by showing that she was impressed and once she found out it wasnt costing you much she felt more comfortable saying how she really felt about the place. some people dont like being all fancy pants, a date taking you somewhere you might not otherwise go is sort of pressure to act/react a certain way. maybe she isnt complaining that a $5k ring could be outdone by $6k, but rather that a $300 ring could mean just as much. just sayin

If you consider yourself a real genius, you'll dump her gold digging butt.

IMHO - she had fun on the weekend... and once she found out it did not cost you much, YOU lost YOUR appeal to HER!...

sorry man, she's definately a "digger"...!!

$.02

OK ladies lets get down to it. Next time I think he should take one of you!

Honestly though, sorry she treated you like this, not cool.

At first reading, I felt the OP's frustration, then I began thinking about it more...

There could be another side of this story - one that hasn't been brought up. We haven't been told in what terms "it lost some of its appeal". That part has been left open to interpretation by a lack of detail.

Does she think you were trying to impress her when she felt it unnecessary?

Does she now think you are a bit of a mooch or a phony?

Have you ever led her to believe you had more money than you actually have?

For this woman to be a gold-digger, she needs to have the impression there is gold to be dug.

So, I am thinking there may be some miscommunication going on here. Therefore, I have no way to judge where the blame should be laid.

cheap or genius? i'd say, neither. you just took the wrong person. an appreciative person would find that awesome. besides that, fun doesn't have to cost a dime.

So has anyone had someone tweet a picture of their wiener to them?

So has anyone had someone tweet a picture of their wiener to them?