Do you really? Are you sure? Am I really Awesome? I'm not crazy.. I just need a little assurance once in a while... So Im awesome? In this dress? with my hair this way? I could dye it... Are my boobs big enough? Is my butt small enough? Do you think other people think I'm awesome? Are you just saying that? Are you sure?

** I think you're awesome too :) ****
(can't do smiley's at work)

After 15,000 posts --

The good: More great people here than on all of the 14,232 other sites I've tried put together. REAL people, friends, people I have come to know over two years, people I have exchanged e-mails and IMs and phone calls and even some packages with. People who are supportive and understanding and surprisingly tolerant of someone with radically opposing views. Encouragement. People who are quick with a kind word when I'm having a bad day. This isn't my typical expectation of a dating site, two years in.

The bad: Still haven't run across anyone remotely compatible in a "dating" sense. The self-proclaimed "interested parties" are always far enough away that there's no realistic chance of pursuing things -- (safety in numbers? -- but I say there is safety in distance -- a project for a future mathematician) -- the locals sign up and then turn to pillars of salt (or giant bottles of beer) and are never heard from again.

The ugly: I see -- still -- too much rudeness, cliquishness, insensitivity....we are a community, and a community is a living thing, evolving and growing and changing, and there are even now some who dwell on the past -- the "good old days" -- longing for what was, in a smaller, more manageable (?) venue, a past that even THEN was lamented as horrific by those who went even farther back. Is this the inevitable cycle? We are doomed to repeat a lamentation for what WAS and can never be again? And to have those who come after us do the same? And so on, for all eternity?

Where is the ability to absorb the NOW, the TODAY, the "it is what it is" of the moment, and bask in it, as imperfect as it may be?

Change is not always bad. Many times, change is all that keeps us going.

My mother is extremly beautiful. Even when I last saw, her 8 years ago when she was 72, she was still beautiful. She has the ageless beauty of Lena Horn, Joan Collins & Liz Taylor. No one cares how awful a woman is when she looks like that.

When my boyfriend kicked me out & I had a young daughter my mother would not let her grandchild spend the night with her. I slept in the car, didn't expect otherwise but the old ***** would not help her little granddaughter. It was 20 degrees. My sister took her.

She did not come when my daughter graduated from college. My daughter was the 1st kid in our family to go. My mother apparently would rather have seen her having babies as a teenager like the rest of the girls.

She's driven past me in the rain carrying a baby.

When my grandmother died, my sister called me to tell me, & when I showed up at the funeral my mother yelled at my sister & didn't speak to her for 2 years.I sat at my grandmother's funeral 3 rows back & alone.


She told me I was just like my father, who died when I was 5. Like that was the worst insult ever.

I'm waiting for the old ***** to die, so I can go back home, but she probably will outlive me.

I guess everyone here will think I am a horrible person now.

they didn't make me fiifnssh my engleesh hoomwurk!

No child should be afraid that your crazy mother was going to call the cops on you for some made up crap. (in the mean time she is on the other side of the country calling the cops) Also, you shouldnt have to hide from class mates because your mother called and told them that my dad was going to come to the school with a bomb. (My dad was on the other side of the country, at home, high, he had no clue what was going on. She did that twice, my class mates thought I was as crazy as her, and tried to beat me up.

oh let us not even go there...

whats the chances of us being on the same dating site arcat?!!!
slim to none


i reckon we really need to tie the knot, how about a romantic scottish wedding in a castle of your choice?


redhead444 come on now can't you see im proposing here?!
no more running after me, i might be a taken man