I dont get why people deactivate their account when theyre talking to one person, it makes no sense to me.
Were here to meet people and in theory find the best match for us, (were not sleeping with everyone we chat with) so why deactivate just cause your having a simple chat?

So..why are people offended when you dont deactivate when your talking to them? And why do they deactivate when talking to you? From my experience thats what a scatfish does, tries to hide their profile you you cant report them.(Copy the member link to your shortcut bar, even if they deactivate you can still report them.)

It makes no sense to me completely! Im supposed to deactivate because the THUMBNAIL of their profile is attractive? Most "conversations" last less than a paragraph, and then they poof for weeks.. Because theyre on different profiles.. ( I aint stupid.)
WHY THE GAMES?

And its a simple chat.. its not like we been talking for days/weeks and I wont deactivate thats another different story.
Please someone enlighten me on this cat n mouse bs.

This is the way..

Aye, Im on pc. Seems they added more char space, when I got on here awhile back, you could barely squeeze a para in there. Thanks for the help.

There are many good single men on here, we come in flavors. Were like a box of chocolates without the flavors in the lid. You have to bite into us to see if you like us or not. <3

There are many good single men on here, we come in flavors. Were like a box of chocolates without the flavors in the lid. You have to bite into us to see if you like us or not. <3

As in life, the best way to learn something in life is unfortunately the hard way. Were supposed to learn from our mistakes and not repeat them. If we all did that we wouldn't bee here, unfortunately that takes time, and failures.

The truth, is to sit back and spend time searching within yourself and reflecting on what went wrong, and how.. then figure out how to fix it, and learn from it. Forgive, yes..but never forget.. next time youll see "that" coming, and dodge a bullet.

Even if the past relation was a failure, spend time reflecting..if you learn from those mistakes youll make less next time, and then eventually none.. you will then find your Love within yourself and somebody else too!

Break the patterns we get into, dont go for that same "type" of person, (thats very common, and repeat failures.)
(yes, we come in flavors) ;)

And you have to love yourself to love someone else, this is 100% true. If your not happy with yourself, it shows even with a simple picture, much less a date.. often before we even speak.

Some people just need to work on bettering themselves to bring good into a new relationship. (many) <3

Right!?

The most seductive a woman can get is know what she wants, have the drive to do it.. and she'll get it.

She doesnt even have to have the means..just the drive..and she Will succeed by ANY means.

TRUST ME motivated females can do anything, especially when theyre mad. haha!
Im like that too, naturally motivated.

"To me the question is a oxymoron you don't need neither one to enjoy the other"
Ahh.. incorrect, now weve moved past love and sex and moved into the friend zone. Every human on this planet needs physical affection.

"all that lust and desire morphs into comfort and contentment."
Im impressed with her observation!

She nailed it. Dont mistake contentment and wealth for love, life tip. If your not happy money isnt gonna fix it, being comfortable isnt gonna fix it, its lack of love or trust in your life.

Usually its damage done that both will never recover from and it destroys the relation within, youve been together so long, you think youll get past it, but you dont.. sometimes it chews for years until it destroys the relation completely.
I know this from experience.

"Love & sex. Love to do both. But only with the same person.That way she doesn't have to worry about me cheating & I always have to hurry home because I've got a good thing going on."
This is a small piece of a successful ltr. Why would a man spend time walking around looking for a steak, when he can get off work and go home and bbq, keep the grill hot.

Yes theres loyal men. I was loyal in both my 22 year ltr, but thats not the only glue that holds a relation together, thats a basic cornerstone.

If loyalty is an issue, one of them should have seen the signs long ago. The TRUTH is the #1 key to success in a ltr. Because when one lies, immediately the other loses a degree of trust forever, and its VERY hard to get back.
After that its a bad seed that destroys the relationship from within after that.

BOOM! Zeeb nailed it, people get stuck in patterns. I've met people who still think that a perfect "man" or "woman" exists.

A waste of time, relations are a compromise, and ideally if they both work on their flaws in each relation theyll be even better in the next.

Pretty soon, were ALL the perfect person and there's no struggling anymore for relations, because were all made for eachother with no hangups. After that it whittles down to looks and whims. Its backwards people go by looks, get drunk and find out the bad news later.

Females spend too much time "feeling men out" what many dont understand is people change in time regardless of age or sex, trust me I know.

The truth is every relation takes work, work to make it good, and work (or lack of) to make it bad. Its all about energy.

"My guess? you’re trying to connect to women that are not interested in older men"
I've run into this issue before, and the answer is that users cant set their max age preference ( or minimum) in matches. So you never know if your barking up the wrong tree until they unmatch you.

And as far as being a "dirty old man" theres a zillion reasons men want younger women besides the obvious, it occur to anyone that just cause were older doesnt mean that we dont want kids?
or start a new family? Sure Ill be 67 by the time our kids 20, that means NOTHING, because Ill never stop.
Maybe were high energy, in shape and looking for the same in a mate, too many past 40 look 60+ And are in terrible shape/health..

And then theres life damage, damage from past relations that many cant seem to shake off.. I run into that ALOTT at 40+. Theres a GIANT list why to date younger, both sides! There's not even a debate, I could write a book of reasons.

Energy has nothing to do with weight. I've seen very large men climb ladders and squeeze into a attic access, walk around and come back.

Its all about energy and self motivation. Weight is usually a sign of lack of energy is all.
But like I said, I've seen large people who are very active too, so theres no one fits all. Some people literally are just big boned and framed Im serious.
Customers cant tell how old I am I get it all the time, and when I tell them I'm almost 50 they fall over. most say "Im too old for that." As they go back to sitting down and watch TV.. Age is a mentality, not a number.

Bingo! Minimal games, they know what they want, the question is are they being truthful, now its the mans turn to feel like the female in that situation lol!

Impossible, when on a date both parties have sex hovering in the background, if she says theres not somethings wrong, shes not in it for you, (or he) theyre in it for (cough) $omething else.

ROFL, no theres obvious many benefits to dating older. Were generally more mature,more educated,wise in the world. Usually by close to 50 we have careers that have taken off, we know exactly what we want in life, (generally.) Dependable, and more fun, because after 40 you get that "you only live once" attitude. 8D And usually have the finances to do it too!

"Alot of women like to be wooed."
Traditionally yes, but theres been a wave change since I was single inbetween my 2 -22 year ltr's.

It seems more of a fit and settling with their current circumstances to benefit both.
Im noticing relationships benefit both parties financially and situationally more nowdays than chemistry. Its a sign of the times, and its not getting better.

"Honestly a video chat proves nothing other than the pictures match, but you still don't know where the other person is located since most won't show a recognizable background where they are located."

Its simple, take their cell phone outside on cam and show a license plate for the state theyre in. And the rest is pretty simple.