I lie to make my life seem more interesting.

The BEST thing to do is talk about religion, politics, and sex. Everybody likes talking about that.

Okay, bad joke, I know. I find that just talking about things that have happened to you recently are interesting to talk about. These things may seem boring to you but they'll be new to someone else.

Ghosts are not real.

The thing you've gotta realize is that once anything supernatural is supported by science, it stops being supernatural and is just natural. Nothing supernatural is real.

I suspect many christians think they'll just be in eternal bliss or whatever... I never understand. I think after the first 1000 years, I'd want to die forever.

You're brave. Nobody wants to admit a weakness but I suspect everybody gets lonely. I know I am.

... It's just an example, no need to look to much into it.

Look, I'm not ashamed to meet someone online. I've met 3 girls who I was in a very happy relationship with online. From a man's point of view, there was something kind of disappointing about introducing myself to one of her friends and having them ask "Where did you two meet?" and then saying, "on a dating website." I'm sure they didn't think it was really that weird but it certainly felt like I took as little risk as possible when meeting her.

It didn't damper the relationship. Every time I had to say I met her online I wished that I could have been more outgoing and took a chance with some more real emotional consequences.

Let me also say that even though I've been a member of this site for a long time, I definitely haven't been active on this site for that long, not by a long shot. I, like most people, have had girlfriends and long periods of time when I wasn't on any online dating sites.

Oh I did date a lot online and because I wanted to get a good feel for it. I couldn't make a judgment if I had only met one or two people online. I guess I'm just leaning towards meeting people in person now after having experienced both worlds.

Certainly, if this works for you, don't stop. This is just one man's opinion.

Hate is a strong word, which is why I used it. As an experienced online dater, I want to share with you why exactly I'm giving up on this medium in favor of public embarrassment that comes with taking risks of regular dating.

A man on a dating site is almost certainly doomed to an inevitable hell. Think about it. By signing up for this site, every man and woman here is showing that they have an agenda. I'll be honest, I don't believe girls when they say "oh, I just wanted to make some friends" and then proceed to post the most attractive pictures they can find on what happens to be a <em>dating</em> website.

It's such an awkward way to meet people. I've done this a lot. A LOT. I've met at least 2 dozen girls in person that I've met online first. It always sucks, even if you do hit it off well because there's always that thought of "but we met online" present. Then, if you do end up moving the relationship forward, there's that inevitable talk about how to explain to people where you met. Awkward.

On top of that, first dates are really weird. Most of us don't meet people online through a chemistry that is really only found face to face so it's far more often a miss. Not only that, but it takes away the rush a guy receives from approaching a woman successfully. Nothing can replace that, nothing.

There's a lot to be said about meeting a stranger who you are attracted to and working to find out more about them. Maybe they're already taken. Maybe they're not interested. Maybe, just maybe they're interested and it seems like they respond perfectly to you. What a rush. This sure beats looking at a profile, seeing "single, no children, wants children, likes to hang out at bars with friends, drinks sometimes."

To the men here: let's grow some balls (me included) and approach women in real life and get rejected 9/10 times like we're supposed to rather than just messaging a girl who never responds. Let's just face our rejection and be a man about it.

To the women here: I'm really no expert on what girls go through, but I'll try. The way to meet guys is just be more approachable. Those big sunglasses and ipod headphones say "don't bother me, I'm absolutely not interested in anything you have to say." If that's the case, so be it. If you want to meet guys just make it easier for us to approach, that's all.


Well that's all I have to say for now.