You're right on the money and you express yourself really well!

John1992- Little ole me? I sent you to the dictionary? What about LivingByBeats? I was just trying to rise to the ocassion :-)

I don't believe I said that trust must be earned. But clearly, one does learn to "not trust" by first having trust broken. On that point, I agree. Because many more people will abuse trust that's been given than will cherish it, unfortunately, we all learn to distrust. (Could I tell you a story!)
I have always been someone who prefers to give trust, rescinding it only after it has been abused. That has gotten me hurt over and over again. I am finally a creature who has been taught to be wary upfront. Its a shame.

Uhm yeah on the topic of DATES....What's up with this site? I have been on here for 7 days, have 18 "mutual matches," none of whom have contacted me for a DATE, or even a CHAT as PRELUDE to a DATE. There is one nice gentleman who has asked for a date, but he found me without being a "match." Who can explain to me how this is supposed to work? What's the point of both people saying they'd be amenable to getting to know each other, but then, no one makes a move?

I believe I understand most of what you were saying, though you are quite erudite in your presentation. Reminds me of a favorite poster from years ago. "I am more eruditer" than you :-) My college roommate had it posted in our dorm room.

You do seem to have a point in that people of both sexes on these sites do seem to post a laundry list of what they want versus a collection of things they have to offer. I have to wonder, though, if that isn't done in an effort (conciously or otherwise) to not seem too eager for love. While lately I am hearing many stories from men about how they were mistreated by a loved one, gentlemen are still taking advantage of the ladies in record numbers. Perhaps we are afraid to appear weak or as easy prey. That would be a shame, because I'm sure that many of us, for the right gentleman, would become kittens very willingly. Trust is a commodity that is very tough to come by these days.

Sadly, there seem to be many more people in the world today that will confuse, use and dispose of others than there are genuine, giving and honest ones.

(I'm going to go check my profile to make sure its not a laundry list of "wants") Chow for now ;-)

You been dating my ex too? I think we all hear ya and have lived at least some of what you're talking about. For me, I lived a lot of that in the last few months, the rest of it in the last 5 years!

Well, he obviously wasn't raised right. Besides, all of America is getting heavier- men and women both. If what we look like under the covers is all a particular man cares about, who wants him anyway? He wouldn't be around long after he got what he came for.

Sorry, I really can spell and string together a coherent sentence. Its just that I have very "happy fingers."

You've got to like a snese o fhumor in a guy. Anyone tell you you kind of resemble Tom Selleck??
I'm sure my experience is the same as everyopne else's. Once you're done with school, if you don't meet people you like at your job, then what else is there? Its a challenge these days to find a social life.