Drinking coffee before doing laundry

^^^ Wrong letter (each post progresses from A - Z)
Nice try though.

Gas Can

Thinking I should, but I don't think they have an adequate replacement within my budget.

Oops, wrong thread.

I takes me 1 - 2 hours to fully wake up in the morning.

Host

Scintillating

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Quiet Riot

I was about to post something similar to this.

When people do this, they are blatantly dismissing your own personal feelings. It doesn't **appear** to be rude, it actually IS rude. That's because they don't want to be bothered wasting their own time to validate your feelings before giving any advice. They just want to extract themselves from the topic. They don't care about what emotional or psychological damage it may cause you. They are only thinking about themselves, not you.

There is an appropriate time to say stuff like this though -- when someone needs a shock to open their eyes. That's where the tricky part comes in.

For instance, let's say you haven't dated for 3 years because you're still moping and pining over your ex-girlfriend. This would be a case where you need a shock to snap you out of it.

Feelings and emotions often need validation from other people. Holding them in, or having others ignore or dismiss your emotions often just makes the situation worse. But in instances like the example above, validation may only enable the person to continue sulking indefinitely.

But other than that, having emotions ignored or dismissed - especially rudely - is akin to being allowed to have no voice, feeling invisible. It's a recipe for confrontation. People generally don't like being ignored.



I agree. It's one of my pet peeves that I'm constantly biting my tongue on.

The part in bold italics is the true elephant in the room on Mingle....not the scammers and spammers.

Trust me, I've found the scammers and spammers on every dating site I've been on - Match, POF, Chemisty, SingleParentsMeet, Zoosk, OkCupid, etc. They just go with the territory.

But the people who aren't looking, who linger around, telling everyone that online dating doesn't work, or how they've given up on looking, or how they found someone somewhere else, etc. ad nauseaum....those are the people that make new members who are sincerely looking for someone choose to avoid the forums.

Thinking my new blinds aren't what they said they were.

@Dub:
Clearly the blood has rushed to your head as you tried to write while standing on your head.

Now stand aside, and bask in my winningness.

Toblerone - the dark chocolate one

People used to give me bundle packs of it for Christmas just because they knew how much I liked them.

Thank you!

Finally, someone who gets it.

My experience with being "friend zoned" is the former, not the latter. Meaning, the woman doesn't make any attempt to get to know me better. She calls me a friend, but really just remains more of an acquaintance.

On the flip side, maybe she might claim that I'm not making any attempt to get to know her better. But at that point, I've already approached and made efforts to know her. It just hasn't been reciprocated well. So I'm being sent a signal that she's not really interested in going any further, even as friends.

If she had the latter view, a person might think she would actually make a reciprocal effort to know me. That would be a positive signal, even if only as friends.

This where all the confusion seems to stem from. Not all women define "friend zone" the same way. It's not necessarily how the man views it. It's how the woman herself defines it.

Be careful what you rope. You might get dragged around instead.

Hotter than an atomic blast

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Ironically, compared to Crystal's accident, I completed my Red Cross First Aid/CPR/AED certification today.