THat's a crap reason to get married. Asking for problems.
The only reason for marriage, or a romantic relationship, is love. The desire to be together because you love one another and want to build a life and future together.
Intimacy is part of that, but never the reason to get involved.
Unless you want a loveless relationship that won't work out and won't make anyone happy in the long run.

Yes. You're right

I gave up exchanging experiences years ago.

They have better stuff to do?


That's what college and vocational schools and mentorships and paying attention to the people that have been at the same company longer than you have are for.
Not to mention, you can always volunteer at an old folks home.


Or are you "really" asking "why are the women I find sexually attractive averse to perceiving me as a peer and allowing me to build up a false friendship I'm really hoping will lead to some sort of pseudo romance and sex, and when it inevitably fails I don't have to feel bad for using them for sex because I built this fake friendship with them first, gave them what I think they wanted, all in a way that was safe for me emotionally?"

Minds are not one and can not read intentions

It is too complex to quantify so simply. For each person it has a different meaning. For two people love is not the same animal. If you can successfully coexist, if you needs are met, then you are given a passing grade. For some people it can be physical and others more contemplative. Rarely do you find any non caustic mix. Something meant to last.
It takes a special type of person to endure, we all weren't build that way. Some of us are more high maintenance than others. Some have an insatiable wanderlust. I think most fill up their buckets with rules and anecdotes, experience so you know the dance. No one really knows though, it is still a point of awe and wonder trying to make sense of it. Maybe just accepting what we have and leaving it at that.

Relationships are only as "Tricky' as you make them.

You can reverse the gender in what I say.
Him/her, he/she and so on.

In a relationship, it is nearly always a matter of roles.
He is expected to provide something and she is expected to provide something.
We get so caught up in those roles we tend to forget that each of us is a human being that has a mind of our own.

The way to prevent a relationship from being tricky is to constantly remember that the other is a person in their own right.
Too often we get stuck on ideas of what he is supposed to do and what she is supposed to do and forget that each of us are individual people in our own right.

He works, she manages the home.
Established roles that do not account for individuality.
The relationship gets tricky when one individual breaks the traditional role.
Now you are forced to think outside the traditional thinking.
The roles are not so clear anymore.

In progressive societies it is commonplace but in the older, long established societies of old world it is still pretty foreign.
However, the world is becoming smaller via communication.
Those new ideas are invading the old world traditions and people are thinking independently.
You either embrace it or you live in a world of 'tricky relationships'.
Since it isn't really going away, best to embrace it.

In this new world of individual realization, love and relationships can still flourish.
You embrace the person as they are and actively work to help them become what they seek to become.
This involves putting away the archaic idea of gender roles and embracing that potential of the individual. The relationship requires a commitment to the person and no longer a commitment to the idea of the union.
As individuals you become stronger and wiser.

If the relationship is built on the dedication and commitment to one another as a whole, it is wiser to have both as strong as possible. It makes the union strong.

no ., not that Layla .lol..but she is just as famous ., I have put a link on another post . You cannot know the poetry and not know the story

As if sex was that important. There is much more than that to maintain a decent relationship.

Wow, you really believe that????

I don' t agree with your view. Have you ever watched Titanic? Jack saved rose and jack himself dead in the ocean. True love is what director of Titanic showing to us, love is beyond everything, even life!

Tell to Leila what I have said...
Al-Gharam is...
From Qabbani's poetry

"My lover asks me: 'What is the difference between me and the sky?' The difference, my love, is that when you laugh, I forget about the sky.

Layla said to tell you ...Al-Gharam between a man and a woman is felt with the heart

What's your point.
You didn't take it far enough.
And the ultimate point of sex is pregnancy.
And the ultimate point of love and sex is for the protection of offspring.
...So they can grow up, have sex, and have more kids.
All of which allows the individual/dna a type of immortality, and perpetuates the group, which protects and fulfills the individual.

There is no such thing as love between a man and a woman, but holding each other for the sake of immortality and homeostasis.
Even admiration comes from them to open the way for them to find common ground so they stick together for mutual benefit for the individual and group(s) to which they belong.


this is convince opinion in one case 'immortalized love '
but how come some one make sex with one that he/she is hated or unaccepted

Have you been giving lots of love ashra

60% divorce rate and rising. You lose everything she splits it with the lawyer and Donny and the Gov.

I suppose a lot of guys get cut off when they say I do, but she feels free to cheat.

Most guys don't want a woman treating them like little boys.

There IS that dreaded "honey do" list.

Most women seem to have little respect for men these days.