I am from the USA, and men and woman here are totally different as far as looking for friendship, companionship, relationships! Here in the USA we seem to be totally looking for a woman or a man, judged on age and looks! Visual is very important to us Americans! I have noticed that woman in Asia, especially from the Philippines seem to look at age as just a number, and look beyond the surface, and look for a person for their inner self as well! Just different cultures I guess!...what do you think, am I right?

I am 60 years young and female. I just want a casual dating relationship that starts as friendship and ma or may not lead to more. I have a full time job, care for my grandkids several times a week, and am studying horticulture. I am not averse to developing an intimate relationship but not on the first or second date. In other words, not looking for a "hookup." Is this the wrong site for me?
I was on POF, and three times I found a man who seemed to want what I want; until we met for the first time, and then the follow-up emails came. One sent 62 in one day; the next asked if I would perform very graphic services; the last wanted to watch me have sex with a friend.
Are there any decent men out there??

Uh, yeah, thanks for the info. I'll be sure to file it away in the circular file.

Men's profile with rude usernames are usually ignored, so it's their loss.

I don't know what or who Pearl Jam is so I can't say if I did or didn't like it.

hey the thinking of man is if a woman's is single for a long time she would be filled alot so she would be needing a man for her satisfaction so they ask you and when you say know they think we shold go littile naughty to heat you up so they go downnasty

But does that answer the OP's question?
Women also go through all that, they also suffer, they also lose out incl financially and materially, they're often the ones left with the kids, having to carry both their own pain as well as the kids' and having to keep a normal life together for the kids' sake. Their dreams and hope for the future are also in ruins, and they possibly had to endure a crap sexlife (I think more often than not).

Yet... women recover, find their feet and want a new relationship, are able and willing to take the risk of getting hurt again as that's the only way to love.
Why can't men do that?
I know some do, but what you see and come across is that most don't. All they do is what you see here: biotch at women and blame women.

There are several experiences most divorced men have gone through:
1. Long time lack of sex
2. Many years without freedom
3. Significant loss of financial resources.

Ladies, you have to be something really special for a man to be interested in you for the long term in a serious relationship!