Omg, and school. My daughter was messed with by kids all the time because she was shy. She would come home just wounded from all the name calling. It was horrible. I tried to tell her to ignore it, but how can you ignore somebody in your face calling you names like that. She got thru it and never had one fight, thank god. Now, she is one of the biggest (tallest) kids in her class and she does not take the mess anymore. She puts these kids right in their place if they say something crazy to her.

Is she wrong for defending herself when somebody messes with her. That's the only way she can keep the idiots away.
It's kind of a defence mechanism I guess. It's a reflex, but I figure once you get to be an adult, that would all dissappear, but no, there are adults who are just as mean and rude as those kids.

You sure could. It you have the will, you will find a way.

I wish I could do that. I convert mine by picking up a bat

Does it matter why? It might be because they had a bad day, or they're crazy, or whatever. You know your not whatever they called you, but how do you deal. Do you walk away? How do you deal with a difficult situation like that or how would the Zen book advise?

Let's say somebody comes up to you and calls you a dumb a$$ jerk biotch. I mean how do you walk away from that without wanting to rip their head off.

Just get in there and get started. You will feel like a new man.

This is so true sincere, but what I have a problem with is how I let their behaviour affect ME. And to date, I feel like all the sleep I've lost and things I've said to people in the process just have not been worth it.

Sounds like a plan, Thanks.

I can take the truth even if it hurts. Truthful people are not the people I'm taking about here. I think any normal thinking and reasonalbe person can appreciate a person being honest, if not while your telling them, definately when they're alone.

I am going to get that Zen book tomorrow and thanks for that information.

I don't want to become a hard person, but I tell you, dealing with difficult people and adversity will make you that way.
Am I am too soft and beautiful to become a hard a$$

When I'm sitting in the insane asylum, the people who put me there will be long gone and not even thinking about me.

But Sincere, you're shutting down. Is that the right way to handle things? Aren't you afraid you'll shut down to the point where you'll become senicle.

I don't think they even have a clue to tell you the truth, and that's kinda sad.

In the past, my way of dealing with people who I feel have done me wrong is to just erase them from my life.

I just don't feel that's right deep down inside.

OMG, the late folks, Oh I could just kill em.

I guess it comes down to feeling disrespected in a way.

Either way, being able to forgive and forget is not my forte and I really want to change that somehow.

I really need to read somebodys book and soon and I will look into that. I let people get to me to the point where I can't even sleep at night sometimes, depending on the situation.

One thing that really bothers me is when people say their going to do something and they don't. And when they don't apologize or at least try to explain their actions, I get mad as hell.

It must have been something in my past that causes me to hold on to that anger, instead of just letting it go.

And then by the time I do let it go, they go along right with it because I will not deal with them anymore.

You're welcome Ma.

Man, this week has been very hard for me. I've been eating a bunch of stuff I shouldn't.

Mainly because I had no food on hand like I normally do.

Ever since I started my (style of eating change) in July, I refuse to call it a diet for obvious reasons, I keep on hand fruit, breakfast bars and low calorie prepared meals for lunch and dinner, and snack packs.

This entire week I had nothing because I didn't go to the store and stock up. I'm the type that wants to eat all day long and I have accepted that fact. So, I keep stuff on hand that I know won't hurt me.

My drawer at work is chocked full of these 100 calorie snack packs. I buys these dinners from our grocery store Dominicks
that are about 250 to 300 calories. As long as I have this stuff on hand, I am good to go. But when I'm without it, I eat whatever is available which is normally not good food.

Being prepared is aa big part of mine and your plan. Don't get caught like I did this week with nothing on hand that will keep your weight in check like I did.

I just mean in general.

Mine was a thumbelina doll. It was so ragedy by the time my Mother threw it away I felt sorry for the doll and let her do it.

difficult situations, people?

I am not. This is a problem that I have always had.
I have a problem with tact sometimes and will tell a person to get da hell out of my face with that BS in a minute, but then feel terrible about it later, even if I think they deserved it.

How do you handle grown folks who have personal problems who always seem to want to take their frusterations out on you? You know the type. Bossy types, people with inferiority complexes, and people who are just plain jerks.

There's one in every crowd. Too bad.


Anyway, good for you bear. We that care are very proud of your recent accomplishments. Girl, you are on your way and keep up the good work.