It doesn't. You move on, yet love never ends.

This a great thing man...I wish I could have had this opportunity for my kids..Any woman in thier right mine can see through that you are responsible. I wouldn't think this would create any problems. Good luck out there

If she doesn't check my package out within five minutes of the date, she will get herself a cab.

Make good decisions; use common sense. That's a formula everyone should use in dating whether they have kids or not.

There are plenty of women who date men with kids and visa versa. Just don't get defensive and annoyed when you meet someone who does not date men with kids. Everyone is entitled to their own choices.

Good luck!

see, there are so many reasons why i should move to he US...guys are hot, they talk in southern accent-major turn on btw, beer is cheap

that's it i just need an American lad to want me

Well I will be honest the words luggage or baggage to me is de-meaning big time. If a man ever referred his kids or his life as baggage or luggage to me they need to take the time out and deal with life and take a stronger look within.

So I can see were others do not like their kids referred to in that sense. I assure you a man would only refer to my kids one time as luggage or baggage for he would not get a second chance to call them that again.

Even though I don't feel the OP meant anything by those words or meant it the way some of us sees those words. For I have seen others refer to kids and issue in another's life with those same words.

At times the words we pick and choose makes a big difference of how we come across to others.

I think in dating ..luggage, refers to any responsibility beyond the one on one that comes with the adults involved. I dont think it is usually derogatory when one uses it in their own situation although it would not be welcomed for others to use it about that person.

one definition of baggage, which is used synonymously with luggage is

things that encumber one's freedom, progress, development, or adaptability; impediments: intellectual baggage that keeps one from thinking clearly; neurotic conflicts that arise from struggling with too much emotional baggage.


in this sense,, for me anyhow, children are a type of baggage. The Louis Vatton of baggage, but baggage none the less. One is much less FREE with them than they are without them,,but that is not a bad thing. I love my baggage, I love my children, I understand life could be easier as a single adult with no responsibility for children, but I wouldnt trade them for anything.

luggage? i hate when people refer to children as luggage.

i've heard that it's one of the hardest things to do; blend families.

why do someone's kids have to be someone else's responsibility anyway? my kids already have a dad, they don't need another one. all i would hope for is that the kids and the guy like and respect one another.

Very true...My kids have gotten attached to someone (my oldest hasn't even met him) and they ask about him every day..when are we going there, when are we going to see them...and when I tell them I don't know, they ask why and think it's my fault. Their dad walked away from them and is only in their lives when it works for him. I don't want them to go through the hurt of losing someone have they become attached to.

she wanted a hot dog.....

I have no problems with dating a single father. The only thing that bothers me is that I tend to get attached to their child/children and when it doesn't work out, I not only lose the man I cared for, but his child/children as well.

If you are having trouble, find other single parents.

Well, your frustration and confusion and fear of the unknown is commom. And I am sure if you ask any of the women on here that have raised multiple male children will have expressed the same concerns.

Adopt the single parent mantra 'You just do it!'

I don't know how many people have said to me... I don't know how you do it. (I am a single mother of one young son and graduate student). And I always tell them, I just do it!

Breath! Focus on your children. Don't forget to do self-care and get breaks. If someone comes along and fits into your life, great!... if not, be happy with yourself and your life as is.

Never 'quit holding on to hope'... finding the 'right' person takes time.. and this is no different with or without children