Why are so many people so possesive of "things" in relationships? Sure, we give our hearts to our significant other, but when it comes to possessions, the truth comes out about how selfish and materialistic they(or we) are. And, even more so when a relationship ends, often not only will they take everything they own, they'll clean you out too. I know there are exceptions to this, but it is a curious observation I have made over the years. Gifts, I find it interesting that a girlfriend you have been with for 4 years gives you a Christmas gift last year, but when she moves out, she takes it back. Selfish, selfish, greedy people.

What you are going through is just a Rehearsal of what Marriage will be.!!

I'm not totally clear on what you mean by hanging out?Guess i'm asking are you sleeping together if so..whew, then you do have some problems.Truly you need to communicate, sounds like your both on 2 different pages.Best of luck getting answers you need.And if you don't get answer,hun then he's not worth having you.

Well...here's a hint.

You have everything to gain and nothing to lose by letting him know.

You may THINK you have a lot to lose, but you have much more to gain.

If you don't tell him how you feel, then you don't give him the opportunity to reciprocate. If he doesn't, then ask yourself, seriously, what have you lost?? A " hang out " buddy??

There comes a point where you are just going to have to take a chance.

If you don't do it now, then you are only going to continue to make yourself miserable by not getting what you really want.

Ok. Wait a second. I wanna make sure I have this right.

1) When you two go out or " hang out ", he's all cool and talks nice and all that good stuff.

2) When you aren't actually " hanging out " or out together somewhere, he doesn't say much.

I am assuming, from your post, that you like this dude.

Does he KNOW this??

Does he know that you are wanting more than you are getting at this point??

I feel ya homegirl, definitely been in that position myself (being twenty as well) except obviously, I'm sure of differences. Sounds like you got a firm head and a soft heart and hope you find somebody to truly appreciate your being.
Respect

You need to do some work on your own. Figure out the guy, and hold yourself to a set of standards and see if he is out of line, then there is something else he wants.

When I was in the Army, I absolutely hated to walk around somewhere in my dress greens, with that stupid ****-cap on. We had to do that in basic and advanced training and whenever we went home on leave, even in permanent party. The whole outfit was uncomfortable and ugly, except maybe for the ribbons and patches, because they at least made you look like you had accomplished something after you had been in awhile.

I could never understand why they wouldn't let us clean and press our B.D.U.s and where them around town - I guess it was so everyone would know we were newbies.

The only ones that had it worse, were those sorry-a$$ squids, in the Navy. They had to run around town in their white uniforms, with their Gilligan hats on.