Nice ..has so many definitions ...and depending on its context can be just another word for you are not my type . People can fake nice .. They can certainly over do it ... And that nice quality becomes a major turn off . Like everything in life .. balance is key . As for expectations .. When it comes to finding a mate .. Sex appeal, will for most , always be the initial drawcard . Personality , characteristics and preferences are a factor but without sex appeal ..the connection will in most cases become just a "nice " friendship :-)