You guys have been around for five years or more on this site. Why do you stick around? I'm not saying give up but don't you think you should look elsewhere? Unless you enjoy the circles that the threads go in. I mean even if you do love this place are you not tired of your computer.

5 Years old:
The little neighbor girl and I explored each other's bodies. She used to put my willy in her mouth and suck on it like a baby bottle. We were wrestling in the sand box one day and she bit my back. Needless to say I wouldn't let her put any of my body parts in her mouth anymore.

8 Years old:
My friend and I dated twins. They looked exactly like each other. We tried to do big people stuff in the barn. I never really knew if I was with the right one or not. Then one day we went skinny dipping at the reservoir and I found out they had birthmarks in different places. That Fall, my parents moved across town. We lost contact.

13-17 Years old:
The normal kissy face at school girlfriends kind of stuff. I used to ride my mini-bike to one girl's house so we could make-out by the pond. Lost my virginity at 13. All the other girls were just white hot make-out sessions with a lot of frustration.

18 Years old:
More white hot make-out sessions. One girl wanted me to go all the way but I was not into it because I was afraid of the responsibility of having a child. Then another and another. Started carrying a condom and that was a start of a few years of sex that lasted till I went into the service.

20-24 Years old:
You get laid a lot when you go into a bar with your navy dress uniform on. Lots of strip clubs and one night stands. No responsibility coupled with bad drinking habits and too much free money. I realized I needed to settle down or I would probably be dead in a few years.

24-50 Years old:
One woman, 4 children. Big bad decision. But I survived the lies.

50-55 Years Old:
Experience is wisdom, hard lessons were learned. The few women I have been close enough to actually call it a relationship have been less than desirable when the costumes come off. Of the four, none have had the qualities I am searching for in a mate. They all start off promising but as they get comfortable around me they revert into their normal personalities and the truth becomes apparent.

From the moment of my birth, I made the mistake of assuming that everyone and everything, was giving me truth and facts to build on. That was made worse, by my unfortunate timing: censorship and availability of alternative stories, meant that I thought ALL bad guys wore masks or black hats, and that ALL good guys and most of the people in the middle would do the right and honorable thing, if you just let them know what was going on.

Hence I had a very hard time learning first that people who look and act exactly like good guys, can be the worst bad guys of all, and that most people make horrible mistakes as they go along, so even the most good can't be counted on to do the right thing.

The worry about learning about how to be in a relationship is, that each experience both teaches us, and changes us. What we learn in one instance, can be both positive and negative at the same time, relative to the next chance we get. I came into contact with many women over the years, who I met at the wrong time, relative to each of our learnings. IN each case, we may have been the perfect mates for each other, but we couldn't tell, because one of us hadn't learned to appreciate some element the other had, or because the fears we'd acquired from the immediate previous mess were making us crazy. And by now, I too wonder if I might have been swept by happenstance, into a sort of eddy pool of existence, where what has been done to my psyche will make it impossible to see or be seen by someone who is truly compatible.

Timing, after all, is one of the many "Everythings" in our lives, and it is the one which we have the least control over.

Relationships can be like candles in that you just light it is pretty easy that a little draft can snuff it out but if it keeps going down the sides protect it from more.

Yes, I agree that a relationship is like a candle, it mainly represents LOVE which gives light to a relationship. The flame keeps on burning if you lit or rekindle it with love, passion, affection or trust. It could also mean light or darkness in the world of couples. The light or love or passion when it slowly dies down, it becomes dimmer until it eventually dies when you don't carefully watch it... In your relationship that's what happens, the love fades or dies when you leave it unattended, you have to nurture it with love. You have to keep the love burning in your hearts, let the light illuminate the darkness in your lives. In a relationship, both should be responsible most of all in sharing love, care, respect,trust and understanding. Take care and protect each other, never let the flame/love waver, be steadfast, vigilant and attentive.

this song just popped in my head : some good things never last . i guess i am being true to my profile name lol ice cream melts, candles blow over, coffee gets cold, maybe it could help when we are thrown lemons we just make lemonade

... and you think that's weird because....

jk cheerio lol

Hi,

I've been talking to someone on here I think things could go somewhere with them (it's at the point of so far so good, just not met in person yet).

We talk off here now daily for the past week and often chat on the phone. I notice she hasn't been on since, which is making me thinking "should I still be friendly with other girls?".

There's one other we've tentatively talked about going hiking which I wont commit to yet until I see where things go with the other girl.

Being in a past relationship where jealousy was an issue I'm wary of still being active here could an issue.

Thoughts?