That is correct, I also believe that the female is in control as they choose whether if they are interested or not. A relationship is base on Chemistry, interest, things in common and other aspects. You need to look at yourself, be comfortable with yourself, before you go out and start a relationship as is base on two, not one.

When you travel with your partner, if both are compatible, the trip is pleasant. If you travel with a problematic companion, well that is a good signal that you need to reevaluate your relationship. By my own experience, I did not pay attention to this behavior. Huge red flag.

Good that you are not a Rocket Scientist.

I wonder if we can revisit this again for a second, I wonder, females tend to when intercourse, create link between the couple during and after the act. I wonder if males feel the same thing. Can we turn it off?, .

scepticalsoulmate and dreamerana, thank you for your post, I believe that for the most part, there are mix feelings about this topic, on the female side. Females tend to walk away from this type of lifestyle.

Hi David, I have not being here too long, from the start, always enjoy your humor and that you are part of Mingle, hopes and prayers to you, keep the faith and get better.

It does not take a Rocket Scientists to understand that my last post before this one, is my own experience.
What I will like to read, if possible, more brave women posting in here the own side of view. It is a two sided coin,
So far MsHarmony is the only brave one to post something significant here.

Now that I can see that we are open on this topic, by the way, thank you for the replies. I can add that at some point in my life I joint the one night stand club. But soon enough find it not my cup of tea. Few times in my life, even for the female clearly knowing that I was married, they wanted a one night stand. But my feelings directed me to walk away. Everytime I think about this, I wonder if it was the right thing to do. Also the feeling of rejection on the other side. But this is also a topic for another tread, .

Interesting points, CireTom, it really make me wonder. .

MsHarmony, very brave of you, thank you.

In society, how human beings, not all of coarse, tend to consent, two or more consenting adults agree to a one night affairs.
1. How can you separate the feelings from the act, physical intimacy happen and we forget it the following day.
2. Can we turn off our feelings.
3. Why do we go through this type of action.
4. Does affect our feelings.
5. What is the purpose.
6. Does it make us less human.

I am not the type that agree with this, I myself need to feel love and give love if I am going to be intimate with my partner. Maybe this is why I find this type of affair difficult to understand.

Let's not include prostitution, just average human beings.

Like I being saying it lately, "trolls" are welcome.

Ok, how can I approach this! First, no other human being is a reason for trying to commit suicide, no one. The first idea about trying to commit suicide, you and only you is responsible for doing it. It is not a cause for revenge, only hurt yourself and the ones that really love you.

Now, I know deep in my feelings, how it really hurts when we fall out of love, but it is not the end. The grass it is not greener on the other one yard. By this I mean, you can only take care of yourself, give love, hope you are loved too. It takes two to have a lovable relationship. If you fall out of love, trust your feelings, I always, always advise that. Feelings are there to tell you, to talk to you, how life is going.
Now, if you fall out of love, respect that and move forward. If you are a good person, good things will fall in your lap.
Does not matter what, go through the divorce with you head held high, respectful, with honor, does not matter what the other side trow at you. While taking the steps of the divorce, take good care of yourself. Finish it, move on, reinvent yourself, look at the bright side of life. Project yourself with your head held high. Be, very careful with this one, be open and mindful of what is yet to come. Learn from your mistakes and experience, learn about yourself, look for help if needed.
At the end, is your body, your soul that is bright and beautiful, be positive, stay away from the negative, stand tall, and take care of yourself. Do this and yourself will take care of you.

I was lucky to get private help, not cheap, but the best one I was able to afford, now there are free groups, you need to research them in your area for the times. The ones that talk about mind and spirit health. Not the AA 12steps one, those might help, but, depends on you. Hope it help.

You will know when is time again, just be careful and take your time, if needed, find help to learn your feelings, I did that, help me a lot. It hurt going through the step, but much better now.

My best advice, join the forums and be real.

Since I learn to pay attention to my feelings, I step as my feelings lead me. My faith also.

If you are asking time as type, you need to listen to your feelings, really pay attention to them.

Now, if you are asking time as a measurement, as long as you need.

Either way, trust your feelings.

Now, the cake topper, what happen to you, ten years!, You do not need to answer.

When I was young, I needed to turn the antenna every channel to watch TV,

This is crowded already,

Love alone does not complement the hole healing process, you need to take in consideration other aspects depending on what need healing. Trust, getting it back, feelings, trying to reach the initial strength of it was lost. Communication if it stop. Those are the top ones that come to mind at the moment. So point being, if you place Love in the center, like a spider web, all the other values and traits need to be considered to be able to move forward. Extremely important, is a process of two if base on a relationship.