Did you dig her up yourself?

Are you saying that having 2 roommates is a group home to you?

I had two roommates when I was young and in college.

Somebody I know has lived with 2 other men in recovery for the past year and a half. It's a good support system and helps him save money while he's getting back on his feet again.

He originally spent 5 weeks in a cognitive therapy rehab. Then he stayed 5 months at a 12 step half-way house. Now he has the 2 clean roommates and he'll be clean and sober for 2 years next month.

*plays along*

Snuffy's so off-setting that violence-porn recategorized itself so that it wouldn't be associated with this individual.

Have you considered a half-way house or a clean house? They help keep people from being lonely that first house.

You don't have to be a hero to be kind and honest.

Just say it honestly. There is no formula.

I agree with Pacific Star that you are still playing the "blame game". Don't sit back, make bad choices, and then say "oh well".

Yes totally willing to ignore what you have been told in treatment about fratenization, willing to ignore several of your AA tenants, willing to jump bones of someone who was not only vunerable as a recovering addict but as a widow AND a friend when you could have just said no. Nobody forced you. Least not by what you yourself admitted. This was consentual sex so you had responsibilities too.
Now you are facing the consequences. Not very heroiclly I might add.

Blameing others and passing the buck is submissive aggresive behavior that unchecked will cut you off at the knees.

You should have thought of that before you played at being room mates and then had another sexual rendevous that only met your needs knowing her emotional ones were a complication. The fork in the road is going to be the one you are going to stick in her heart when you finally tell the truth. For her sake the sooner the better. I have no doubt at least part of her desire to come to California and stay in touch is because she is carrying a torch for you that is quite likely to destroy both of your sobrieties.

While I am no chapter and verse proponient of AA some of their Rules make a lot of sense. I think you just trashed a big one.

EMO is a modern term for "whiner". I can't put it any nicer.

If you want to change the way people perceive you, take charge of your life.

I meant not disrespect, I was only trying to be playful -- seriously though. You are not making smart choices.

Melody......how many people do you know that will settle for the most horrendous disaster, simply because it is presented to them, when they are in a very vulnerable place?




Snuffs.... you are raw.... vulnerable.... and this woman has shown you attention.... very seducing...yeah?

Very noice feeling, yeah?

Feel valuable? yeah?

Mate..... the high you get from this woman's attention.... is no different to the high you used to chase.

Learn you.... empower you.... say not yet.... say do the work on you.... speak with your sponsor.... get support...

develop strength.

With all due respect, what are you thinking?

Do you see the train barreling down the track towards you? Get out of the way!

You asked for advice -- and got wonderful common sense replies -- but you are making excuses and trying to justify your situation.

Why not take some of this advice? Stop being a doormat! You seem to be a glutton for punishment. You are the oldest EMO kid I’ve ever seen!