I'm looking and talking to other women because i'm not with her, not really considering it either. I'm was just looking for advice from everyone to see if they would say what i've been feeling, and everyone pretty much has. Thanks for all the advice!!

You all make good points and i am trying to just be her friend, but, when she sends me pictures of her girls and have them talk to me on the phone where they tell me they miss me and love me and blow kisses through the phone to me, it's just not easy to break away fast. I know in some ways she is using her kids to keep me as a backup plan. I really think she is scared of being treated good because she has been abused most of her life. She told me she had this wall up that could never come down, then when i let her go, the wall drops for this guy like it was never there. She told me over and over again that he is a nice guy, but, i think deep down inside her, she knew what he's all about.

Well, i have struggled with that queston myself about the commitment thing and she just tells me that i just don't understand. It was just some stuff that he told her that night with me out of the picture that made her fall for this guy. I could see he was full of it all along but she just could'nt until now when she's already commited to him. You are right i am a safety blanket for her because when i do move on and don't call her for days that's when she starts telling me of the problems. Trust me!! I'm trying to move on, i'm talking to some other women right now. I'm just not going to let anyone hurt those two little girls and they may be the only reason i'm sticking around. I mean i'm in deep with them. I still come around and spend time with the kids, i pick them up and take them places, it's not that i can just run.

Well, something happen from the time they got together, i think they may have had sex that night he talked to her about commiting. She may just feel loyal because of that reason. I do feel she cares about me because this whole thing happen because of me moving on and talking to other women.I feel he was in the right place at the right time and jumped in on a weak moment.

The kids are 4 and 5 and have two diffrent fathers. The 5 year olds dad has vanished and the 4 year olds is a story full of more drama. First it was a guy that is in prison and now i've come to find out that the kid belongs to another guy that she is not sure of because she was gang raped. She could belong to any of those losers that did it to her. And that's just sad because this 4 year old girl is just an awesome, beautiful little girl who deserves way better.

Well you are right, it's just something that happen. It's very easy to get attached to kids. Believe it or not you can fall for someone in 3 months. I would'nt say it's manipulation, she did'nt force that bond with the kids on me it just happen. Also keep in mind that we had already made plans to commit, so that's just a give in i'm going to step up and be daddy if we are together, because it's a package deal.

I was with a girl for 3 months, at the end of those 3 months she saw an ex of hers that used to rape and abuse her. She then got drunk that night and revealed to me through text message her whole life of abuse starting at age five, which i never knew of the 3 months i was with her. She said that she wanted to still be with me, but could'nt commit. So i decided to give her some space and just be friends until she was able to bring that wall down that she said would take awhile. I made my peace with the fact that we were not going to be together at all in the future, so i started talking to other women. That made her jealous, and she started talking to a guy that was her friend for many years. She told him about us and how i had moved on and how much it hurt her. He then jumped in at the right moment and started telling her that he has always loved her and her kids. He then asked her for a commitment and she said yes, only because she thought i had moved on. She called me and told me this like i was supposed to be happy or something. I told her how i really felt and that i never wanted to break up, but had to because i was trying to give her what she wanted. Well, she just could'nt leave this guy for some strange reason even after knowing how i truly felt. She said that they already made plans for her and her kids to move in with him and he is being shipped off to Iraq in a few weeks. So again i make my peace and start talking to other women. Now she's calling me telling me things are not going so well with him. She told me that he seems controlling and he is the jealous type and after sex he does'nt say anything to her he just turns his back to her and goes to sleep. She tells me that she feels used. She sent me pictures today of her kids, which is cool because i do remain in their lives because of the daddy like bond i have with them. When i call her she starts talking about more things not going right. Keep in mind that this guy, when he came in, started buying things for her and her mom and her kids. Now what should i do? I think she regrets losing me and wants to get back with me, just does'nt know how to say it. All she does is tell me the problems she has with him. I do love her and her two little girls, but, i have also moved on and started talking to other women. Should i move on and just remain a friend to her and a daddy figure to her kids? Or should i get back with her and be her lover and the live in daddy to her girls? Also, does this guy sound like he has diffrent motives for her and the kids than what he's saying? From what she's telling me he seems like he might be one of those nice at first then abusive later type guys and if that's the case, i feel the need to protect her and her kids from this guy. I would love some advice if you got it.

Well, like i said, i have had women of all sizes, and out of all of them i did perfer the short girls with a curvy body.

This is simply to get oppinions and to make conversation. It's not really about me and what i want, just pretty much what everyone thinks on it.

Nah man, the show still good

I know, kind of confusing, when i say petite, i mean short girls, i've always like that. I also mean that just because i like short girls, does'nt mean i won't date a taller girl. I don't judge on looks, it was just a preference. which means i perfer it, but does'nt have to be that. What i meant by thicker women being better women was just out of my experience of dating, like i said i have dated all shapes and sizes, from really skinny to plus size.

I have dated women of all sizes and was just curious if or even why size makes a diffrence? If i had a preference, i would date petite girls, but, not nessasarily bone skinny. I like them average, but, don't really judge on size. In my experience, i have found that the thicker women made better women. Of course that's just me and i'm not saying that it's true. What does everyone think about this?

Just wondering if there are any fans of the tv show Lost on here? If so or not, what do you think of the show? Personally, i think it's the greatest tv show of all time.

My sister went to the hospital to have surgery because she had tumors growing on tumors in her body. The doctors said that she would die, that their was no hope. Well, my family knew better, and we prayed hard. My sister came out of it just fine and she is back to living life. Simple fact people, THERE IS A GOD!!!! My sister was healed. People suffer, animals suffer, that's life!! We do not have the mind of God. He is in control of our lives and every breath you take. He can flick you off this earth in a heartbeat if He wanted to. It amazes me that people who want to talk about God allowing suffering are the same people who are for mudering babies through abortion. Which is a proven fact that it is very painful for the baby. But, then again why would anyone care about a babies life when they have no belief in God? Here's the deal, everyone will die, you can't change that. After death i guess we will see who's right.

Well i don't know about all that, but, the thing is, most of the women i've dated tried to push things too fast, i never was the one. They wanted commitment because they really wanted the nice thing. As time went on,i saw a wounded woman that i could'nt fix no matter how nice i was to them. They had a huge wall up that i could'nt tear down, so i always had to break up with them. I guess there's a pattern there, i've just seen so much of it. I don't agree with taking time to be nice because i'm naturally nice, so of course i'm going in that way.

Wow!! you sound really angry or like i struck a nerve. And there is nothing crazy about me. You make it sound like i'm talking about all the women on here by making it about my profile or pictures. I apologize if i'm not happy enough in those pictures, i did'nt have them taken for this site alone. So let's not make it about all of that. All i'm doing is asking a simple queston for people to answer. Alot of what i'm saying is true, i'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm not a women hater, i respect women very much and that's why i think women deserve better treatment than what they exept sometimes. So with that said, let's drop the attitude!!

I perfer to sleep alone because the last girlfriend would moan,snore, and even gurgle. Then she would wake up breathing all up in my face making me think that someone had turned on the heat in the middle of Summer. There was one time i woke up squashed against the wall. The girl just loved to cuddle while she slept. My rule on that is cuddle while you're awake and split when you're asleep.

Just wondering if there are any sraight up good girls here in the triad?

No i'm not boring at all, i did'nt post this because i can't get a woman.I just recently broke up with my last one because she had a wall up. I simply don't get why women want respect and when they get it, it really scares them. I know most women i date have been abused in their life, and maybe that's what they expect. I've had women try to piss me off on purpose just so i would hit them. Of course i did'nt, and then they would turn nice and wanted to make love. It was weird, but, i went along with the lovemaking.