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Topic: What's wrong with nice?
goodman30's photo
Wed 07/08/09 08:44 PM
Edited by goodman30 on Wed 07/08/09 08:49 PM
What's up ladies? Just wondering what most women really want today? I'm the type of guy that women say does'nt exists but when a girl hooks up with me i either have to break up with her because she's crazy or because she's too scared to be with a really good guy. That's been my luck with women over the years. Just wondering why women say they want a really good guy, but, when it comes down to it, they really don't have any idea what to do with a nice guy. I do not have problems getting women, just getting them to bring the wall down and let me in.I'm not a bad boy, never will be, i'm just a sraight up good, laid back guy, trying to give a girl the respect she deserves. Just wondering why women are scared of nice? Well, with that out there, go ahead and rate my profile.

PATSFAN's photo
Wed 07/08/09 08:46 PM
Nothing wrong with being a good guy.

Queene123's photo
Wed 07/08/09 08:48 PM
im not scared of guys being nice
its just they can be way to nice as sometimes they have something up there sleave..

there was a lady i used to take care of yrs ago she was married to a guy that was way to good for her and she divorced him.... (weird huh)

lonetar25's photo
Wed 07/08/09 08:48 PM
so are you an alcoholic or a drug addict

goodman30's photo
Wed 07/08/09 08:50 PM

so are you an alcoholic or a drug addict


I am not, have no desire to be

Roco's photo
Wed 07/08/09 08:57 PM
Just wondering why women are scared of nice?

Perhaps because some of them just don't want to hurt your feelings..you sound like a nice guy, even boring.

roko

eyes_blue's photo
Wed 07/08/09 09:03 PM
they think were just nice till later and must wont give us the chance to prove were nice period

hellkitten54's photo
Wed 07/08/09 09:05 PM
I'm not scared of nice, depends on a lot of things. Guys can be too nice in a sense. A little rough around the edge won't hurt. But it all depends on the girl! Good luck to ya!happy

goodman30's photo
Wed 07/08/09 09:13 PM

Just wondering why women are scared of nice?

Perhaps because some of them just don't want to hurt your feelings..you sound like a nice guy, even boring.

roko


No i'm not boring at all, i did'nt post this because i can't get a woman.I just recently broke up with my last one because she had a wall up. I simply don't get why women want respect and when they get it, it really scares them. I know most women i date have been abused in their life, and maybe that's what they expect. I've had women try to piss me off on purpose just so i would hit them. Of course i did'nt, and then they would turn nice and wanted to make love. It was weird, but, i went along with the lovemaking.

darkowl1's photo
Wed 07/08/09 09:20 PM
you are dating women with patterns that are used to being abused, and YOU are out of their comfort zone. they feel more comfortable being treated like doo doo, and sometimes it takes years for them to get over it, and sometimes they just never do. check back with them at about 39. they are usually tired of it by then.

hellkitten54's photo
Wed 07/08/09 09:21 PM


Just wondering why women are scared of nice?

Perhaps because some of them just don't want to hurt your feelings..you sound like a nice guy, even boring.

roko


No i'm not boring at all, i did'nt post this because i can't get a woman.I just recently broke up with my last one because she had a wall up. I simply don't get why women want respect and when they get it, it really scares them. I know most women i date have been abused in their life, and maybe that's what they expect. I've had women try to piss me off on purpose just so i would hit them. Of course i did'nt, and then they would turn nice and wanted to make love. It was weird, but, i went along with the lovemaking.


Maybe you should date a woman with not so many issues?

goodman30's photo
Wed 07/08/09 09:34 PM



Just wondering why women are scared of nice?

Perhaps because some of them just don't want to hurt your feelings..you sound like a nice guy, even boring.

roko


No i'm not boring at all, i did'nt post this because i can't get a woman.I just recently broke up with my last one because she had a wall up. I simply don't get why women want respect and when they get it, it really scares them. I know most women i date have been abused in their life, and maybe that's what they expect. I've had women try to piss me off on purpose just so i would hit them. Of course i did'nt, and then they would turn nice and wanted to make love. It was weird, but, i went along with the lovemaking.


Maybe you should date a woman with not so many issues?


Well, i don't go into it like that. This last one i had no idea until she saw her ex somewhere that used to rape her all the time just so he could hear her scream in fear. She then got drunk and decided to text me her whole life of abuse starting at age five. All that time i had no idea that stuff happen to her. So it's not that easy to just find someone that has'nt been abused, because like that one, i did'nt know until she got drunk and told me everthing.

longhairbiker's photo
Wed 07/08/09 10:40 PM
Dating women is like a box of chocolate forrest. You never know what you're gonna get. But everyone knows that the big round ones are those nasty a$$ orange cream ones that noone likes. I call em "Jennys".

PacificStar48's photo
Wed 07/08/09 11:56 PM
Personally I don't think there is a thing wrong with nice.

It isn't something you advertise as self assigned. Women like to draw that conclusion themself rather than have you dictate it to them.

This profile doesn't tell a woman a thing about you except you contradict yourself. None of the photo's are flattering. You might want to try again. List some interests. Get a photo smileing.

Stop advertiseing your failures in judgement in dateing. No woman wants to follow a crazy.

no photo
Thu 07/09/09 12:22 AM
Nothing wrong with naturally nice. But some guys and girls too, are trying sooo hard to be nice. Just to be the person the other one wants to see(actually it is that they think the other one will like that better.)
I would say, just be yourself. Nobody can be nice all the time. WIll get boring if you say yes and amen to everything. At least I would definitely get bored.

goodman30's photo
Thu 07/09/09 12:50 AM

Personally I don't think there is a thing wrong with nice.

It isn't something you advertise as self assigned. Women like to draw that conclusion themself rather than have you dictate it to them.

This profile doesn't tell a woman a thing about you except you contradict yourself. None of the photo's are flattering. You might want to try again. List some interests. Get a photo smileing.

Stop advertiseing your failures in judgement in dateing. No woman wants to follow a crazy.


Wow!! you sound really angry or like i struck a nerve. And there is nothing crazy about me. You make it sound like i'm talking about all the women on here by making it about my profile or pictures. I apologize if i'm not happy enough in those pictures, i did'nt have them taken for this site alone. So let's not make it about all of that. All i'm doing is asking a simple queston for people to answer. Alot of what i'm saying is true, i'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm not a women hater, i respect women very much and that's why i think women deserve better treatment than what they exept sometimes. So with that said, let's drop the attitude!!

earthytaurus76's photo
Thu 07/09/09 01:09 AM
Edited by earthytaurus76 on Thu 07/09/09 01:10 AM

What's up ladies? Just wondering what most women really want today? I'm the type of guy that women say does'nt exists but when a girl hooks up with me i either have to break up with her because she's crazy or because she's too scared to be with a really good guy. That's been my luck with women over the years. Just wondering why women say they want a really good guy, but, when it comes down to it, they really don't have any idea what to do with a nice guy. I do not have problems getting women, just getting them to bring the wall down and let me in.I'm not a bad boy, never will be, i'm just a sraight up good, laid back guy, trying to give a girl the respect she deserves. Just wondering why women are scared of nice? Well, with that out there, go ahead and rate my profile.




Noones afraid of nice my friend, its not a problem with "nice" I guarantee it.. You know what it is?


Too much too soon. Seen it a million times.

You gotta WAIT with the niceness.. dont spill all your feelings right away.. it just freaks people right on out. IM TELLING YOU!

Ya take it sloww.. be cool, get to know her, dont act desperate, or you want something like sex, or whatever, if ya do, shes outta there.

Its not even a woman thing. Its just a people thing.

Never let go of the feelings til ya know her for a long time. At very least she will think your all just doing this because you expect something in return.

A statement about the fact your open to stuff, and your general beliefs at a snails pace should be given, unless prompted.

Just starting with compliments is enough.

It is quite possible to scare people away, sadly, it happens far too often. Its like a dog humping your leg.

Good luck.

s1owhand's photo
Thu 07/09/09 01:18 AM
it's the nice guy "kiss of death" thing....that's all

laugh

goodman30's photo
Thu 07/09/09 01:47 AM


What's up ladies? Just wondering what most women really want today? I'm the type of guy that women say does'nt exists but when a girl hooks up with me i either have to break up with her because she's crazy or because she's too scared to be with a really good guy. That's been my luck with women over the years. Just wondering why women say they want a really good guy, but, when it comes down to it, they really don't have any idea what to do with a nice guy. I do not have problems getting women, just getting them to bring the wall down and let me in.I'm not a bad boy, never will be, i'm just a sraight up good, laid back guy, trying to give a girl the respect she deserves. Just wondering why women are scared of nice? Well, with that out there, go ahead and rate my profile.




Noones afraid of nice my friend, its not a problem with "nice" I guarantee it.. You know what it is?


Too much too soon. Seen it a million times.

You gotta WAIT with the niceness.. dont spill all your feelings right away.. it just freaks people right on out. IM TELLING YOU!

Ya take it sloww.. be cool, get to know her, dont act desperate, or you want something like sex, or whatever, if ya do, shes outta there.

Its not even a woman thing. Its just a people thing.

Never let go of the feelings til ya know her for a long time. At very least she will think your all just doing this because you expect something in return.

A statement about the fact your open to stuff, and your general beliefs at a snails pace should be given, unless prompted.

Just starting with compliments is enough.

It is quite possible to scare people away, sadly, it happens far too often. Its like a dog humping your leg.

Good luck.



Well i don't know about all that, but, the thing is, most of the women i've dated tried to push things too fast, i never was the one. They wanted commitment because they really wanted the nice thing. As time went on,i saw a wounded woman that i could'nt fix no matter how nice i was to them. They had a huge wall up that i could'nt tear down, so i always had to break up with them. I guess there's a pattern there, i've just seen so much of it. I don't agree with taking time to be nice because i'm naturally nice, so of course i'm going in that way.

earthytaurus76's photo
Thu 07/09/09 01:49 AM



What's up ladies? Just wondering what most women really want today? I'm the type of guy that women say does'nt exists but when a girl hooks up with me i either have to break up with her because she's crazy or because she's too scared to be with a really good guy. That's been my luck with women over the years. Just wondering why women say they want a really good guy, but, when it comes down to it, they really don't have any idea what to do with a nice guy. I do not have problems getting women, just getting them to bring the wall down and let me in.I'm not a bad boy, never will be, i'm just a sraight up good, laid back guy, trying to give a girl the respect she deserves. Just wondering why women are scared of nice? Well, with that out there, go ahead and rate my profile.




Noones afraid of nice my friend, its not a problem with "nice" I guarantee it.. You know what it is?


Too much too soon. Seen it a million times.

You gotta WAIT with the niceness.. dont spill all your feelings right away.. it just freaks people right on out. IM TELLING YOU!

Ya take it sloww.. be cool, get to know her, dont act desperate, or you want something like sex, or whatever, if ya do, shes outta there.

Its not even a woman thing. Its just a people thing.

Never let go of the feelings til ya know her for a long time. At very least she will think your all just doing this because you expect something in return.

A statement about the fact your open to stuff, and your general beliefs at a snails pace should be given, unless prompted.

Just starting with compliments is enough.

It is quite possible to scare people away, sadly, it happens far too often. Its like a dog humping your leg.

Good luck.



Well i don't know about all that, but, the thing is, most of the women i've dated tried to push things too fast, i never was the one. They wanted commitment because they really wanted the nice thing. As time went on,i saw a wounded woman that i could'nt fix no matter how nice i was to them. They had a huge wall up that i could'nt tear down, so i always had to break up with them. I guess there's a pattern there, i've just seen so much of it. I don't agree with taking time to be nice because i'm naturally nice, so of course i'm going in that way.



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