I'm a teacher of 2 yr olds. If one of my kids falls down outside, gets back up and is crying ... I first inspect them for any blood. and if there's no blood I tell them to brush their hands off and then to go play. Sounds horrible but if the damages aren't worth a band aid and a clean up ... then I believe tough love should come into play. I was never a a fall down and cry kid. I just got back up and continued whatever it was I was doing.

Allow me to share a story. Maybe in so many words it can help you in some way.

When I was 15 I met this guy online. We became friends and talked every day online. His worst flaw was the fact that he had a habit of randomly disappearing on me .. sometimes for months. When he returned his excuses always consisted of computer problems. Eventually after a year of this I gave him my number. It took some odd months to actually convince him that he should call. He finally did but it was the only telephone convo we had for a long time. And he went back to his ways of randomly disappearing (this time his phone would be disconnected).

And like you and this guy, we fell for each other but this friendship we had was so crazy. It became crazier when he wanted to get involved with me yet I could never (for the life of me) get him to come visit me. He lived in michigan. To make a long story short ....

At last minuet, when I was 17, he decided to travel to NJ to go to my junior prom. I had my doubts to this actually happening but it did happen. It was like a fairytale the whole time he was here. It was also our first meet. For two years after we had a long distance relationship. He had since stopped disappearing on me. But there was always excuses as to why he wasn't able to visit again or that he was trying to. We loved each other but it was just too much so I cut it off.

Don't you know ... it's been 11 years since we first started talking and about once a year ... I'll get a text from him saying he still loves me. Crazy.

Word of advice ... always have hope but don't be naive. Because if someone truly loves you and wants to be with you ... they will find a way to make it work when you aren't able too.

It all depends on what you are looking for. Do you want a high energy dog? Labs, while quite loyal, are very hyper and can be a lot of work. They usually don't start calming down until they are around four years old. If you want a lab, I wouldn't go for a chocolate one because they tend to be the most hyper. Yellow labs are hyper but they aren't as crazy as chocolates. I love labs but I don't think I'd ever own one. I worked at a kennel for 6 years .. I've experienced my share of labs.

Border collies are usually rowdy (because of herding instincts) and they aren't as hyper as labs. They are easy to train too. English Springer Spaniels have good temperaments as do standard poodles, golden retrievers (can be a bit hyper too) ... It just all depends on how big of a dog you are looking for, and idea for personality traits, etc. Good luck!

Gmail asks for your phone number now. So if you lose your password .. they can text you a code to get back in.

I'm not gonna lie ... I'm attached to my cell phone. It charges all night next to me, haha. It is sad though that technology has become like this. I don't understand the point of iphones and such when all they do is cause you a bigger bill. I went to upgrade my phone last year to an NV3 and was told that my bill would be an extra 10 bucks because the internet automatically came with my phone. Even though I wasn't planning on using it, I still had to pay the extra. Well, I called verizon and apparently you can have that removed.

What's next? Are we gonna be living like the jetsons? Cause that's a little too much for me.

Every match that shows up for me has not been online in like forever. But I keep my account on this site because I've met some really great people.

As for the dating aspect, I use other free dating sites for that.

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Good luck! I have a suspicion people are intimidated by my profile as well .. although it was not nearly long as yours.

Lex, I really do think your profile may just be a bit too long. Do you think it's possible maybe a lot of people get intimidated by big words, fancy phrases and a lot of info about you? You might have killed the mystery there. I know you are a writer and all .. I am too but you gotta leave some mystery, lol.

Look, I am def so over him in so many ways and I could care less about him. It's the fact he's trying to play other people. But as some of you have said ... a real woman isn't going to fall for that.

I can't help that I care about others when all I get is crapped on. But it's life and yeah ... I learn lessons from every relationship I've had.

I thank everyone for their input, even yours, Krupa. Although I really have no emotion (not even anger) towards my ex in the way you think I do. I just like looking out for other people. It's what I do and I can't help it.

I"m going back to being numb now. I've gotten the strength I need to just shake it off and ... continue about life.

I know. You all are so right. I appreciate all the feedback. Some of you have points that I've never even thought about. The past is the past and I wish it would stay there ... without me coming across an ex every now or then ha. Wishful thinking, eh?

You're right .. Can't protect everyone I suppose.

Yeah, I know. I just want to warn everyone on PlentyofFish, lol.

Thanks guys I think I just went into a state of shock at how disgusted I felt.

You're right. And the ones who do are probably hoochies.

I just feel like I need to protect those who are honestly good people and don't deserve his crap.

I don't care about him, Storm. It just makes me sick that he's lying. I just feel for anyone that might get involved with him. Maybe I care too much about good women .. it just kills me to know someone might fall for his crap.

This is a first for me. Just a little bit ago, I came across my ex from three years ago on another dating website. Since curiosity often gets the best of me I decided to check his profile out.



His profile was disgusting and worth reporting. He claimed he had little to no baggage in his life. He took 8 years off his age, claimed he has no children and he ended his profile by stating quite clearly that "No fat chicks are allowed. Not fair? Life isn't fair. Go to the gym."

I feel physically sick because he's 38, he has 2 of the greatest kids who's mother (he's still married to her. He never told me but his mom did)is a crack whore on the streets of kensington. He also states he is undecided/open about having kids. Such a lie! and to top it off he's mean when he drinks sometimes.



I'm just so disgusted and don't want any other women to have to deal with what I went through with him.

yay .. good

yeah, that's good. Just make sure he doesn't secretly hate cats and just said he was joking when he wasn't. been there. done that.

Joking or not .. I never tolerate it. I think it's just mean.