I love to golf, but cannot afford it as I have no steady income. SS benefits 1 1/2 months away (which I was previously hoping would have started this month) I am in poverty financially and fighting to keep my home out of foreclosure. I love to write but have suffered writers block until recently, but still can't get into the stuff I've already started. I started today with a plan to diet and exercise and already implemented it. When I stop to think, only the obvious comes to thought, and my energy and hope is zapped by reality.

Just curious does love and happiness really exist or is it a thing of the past...

Why is it hard to just find someone to see you for what is in your heart and not out, and same time accept a girl looks, I don't want to wear make up nor dress sexy to catch someones attention, I am not attractive but I have a loving heart and I know some girls think the same thing. some guys need to learn not everyone will look the same they do now when they get older . Inbox for comments. I don't need anyone trying to disrespect me online . If you have nothing nice to say move it along. I'm just thinking out loud

Looks definitely matter whether we like it or not. I met a pretty lady in a barbeque party some three years back who happened to be from my own place. We messaged each other for some weeks and then started jogging together every evening. We kissed before leaving every evening and I gradually fell for her. A few months later when I tried to know her views about me I was really shocked by what she implied. Although she considered me a great friend and wished me luck in relationships, she didn't see me a mate probably because I didn't meet her expectation in looks. She didn't tell it straight on my face but implied it many a times describing her dream man.

Well, life is like that...so we gotta accept it!!

I tend to agree with the above poster about the way someone looks and presents themselves being important. At the end of the day you either feel attracted to someone or you don't.

I don't even have good eyesight and when I meet someone it's a combination of appearances. First impressions are always how things appear to you. For example, the last time I met someone she did seem very pretty and wore makeup etc but it was possibly more about how we interacted and chemistry, if you want to call it that. She seemed to be a genuinely nice person and it was a bit like we already knew and understood each other. We only had a brief conversation on that first meeting but I assure you that I didn't just come out of it thinking that she was "hot". She was but there are attractive people everywhere that you meet and don't feel any connection with.

Conversely, I have met women that I didn't think were as physically attractive as I would have liked but I was prepared to lower my standards in that respect and then grew to see them as being good looking because tastes can change if you're prepared to try something new. There has to be a limit though and I would not date someone that I actually found physically repulsive.

Looks may only get you so far though. Sure, pretty girls can get lots of dates and sex at least but then they complain as well that guys don't see what's in their heart, or whatever.

Dear Mingle friends,
My baby sister just passed away on last February from breast cancer.
I flew far away to see her and do my best stay next to her for 24 hours ....
My heart was broken very deep seeing her condition. No hope.
I keep pray and keep give her hope even we all know no more hope. I keep telling her how much I love her. And sorry if I don't enough give her attention.

After 2 weeks, I fly back to US, my head was blank 24 hours. I don't even think want to eat or feeling hungry.
After few days aim in FL, she passed away....and in few days before she die, she keep asking me, and how much she love me.

Dear Mingle Friends,
Till today, my heart still feeling broken. It doesn't matter I was driving, having breakfast , at work, shower or when I sleep, in 24 hours always thinking about her and cry.
I never stop praying for her.

I keep asking GOD to give her forgiveness and good place.
(She was very smart, very kindness, humble and loving person).

Smileyface2013

Not the way I date.

But it's mostly to avoid stupid things like:
"I saw you online!"
"Well you had to be online to see me online!"
"I was only online to see if you were online!"
"OMG! You're a stalker!"
"You're playing games!"
"You're not really serious!"
"You're a cheater after our one date!"
"It's cause I'm fat, isn't it!"
"You're so insecure!"
"You're so judgmental!"

Not to mention:

"Why haven't you called?"
"I sent you an email on the dating site, why didn't you respond?!"
"I did using your regular email!"
"That's not what your facebook said!"
"I texted you the explanation!"
"I know, that's why I sent you a message on IM, kik'd you, tweeted you, instagrammed you, sent a whatapp, and dropped by your house to put a note on your door."
"You dropped by my house?! It's over! You're too clingy!"

It's too easy to turn into miscommunication of motives and such.

For me, it's best to minimize avenues of communication.
It leads to less miscommunication, IMO.

Communication is important to relationships at all times.
But that doesn't mean absolute access via any available channel in existence.



you crack me up! All what you said is so right!

Hi ! Thanx for your kindness but I want to contact you , I mean not just here if you don't mind.

I've noticed that there are a lot of users on here who are 30 or older... I'm wondering if mingle2 is generally for older people....?

It's nice when it comes to the forums and all Because I can actually have articulate and philosophical discussions with other people and on most social sites with people my age is just pure garbage, complete idiocy and Immaturity.

But its not so good for dating because I'm not really interested in dating a very older guy.
That sounds a little contradicting but what I mean is I don't want to date a guy who is forty-sixty years old. I prefer a guy who's in his late twenties to mid thirties.

But it seems that many guys in their forties and sixties have been messaging me more often.

I know it ain't a great place to talk to a lady but is there any real lady's still out there?

And it seems everyone has one. Do you think people really want opinions most the time they ask for them? If not what?

Unfortunately this is going to be a very hard process for you and I highly recommend counseling to help you process and deal with the pain and emotions you will feel as you go through this. Just remember there is ALWAYS a light at the end of the tunnel and you are stronger than you think you are. Decide to get through this, take one day at a time and be nice to yourself.

Hi! can we be friends? You look a very kind and loving woman I'd love to be your friend forever. Thank u.