Well where do I begin? I'm not sure what being in love and loving
somebody really means..that's my main reason why I fall so fast. Once
you really search deep within your heart sure your grasp onto the
conclusion. But I'm completely cluesless. I've been with my boyfriend
for 6 years. He's the only guy I've ever been with and never really
experienced "the dating world" so to speak. For sure like a few other
guys. I'm just utterly confused. Have a close friend that everyone
thinks I've feelings for. Maybe fallin for him, I'm not so sure
anymore. What really is "falling in love" ?

To me that is a question that will have many diffrent answers. Everybody
has there own prespective on what falling in love is. To me falling in
love is when you are with a person and everyday is like the first day.
When you go out and and can't wait to get home just so you can see them
or talk to them. Or when you go to bed and can't wait to get up in the
morning just to see them een though they are right there. Or when you
cuddle and it feels so warm and safe that you never want it to end. When
you get butterflies in your tummy from just kissing him. That to me is
when you know you are in love.

wispertoascream you are very right!!

Trying to help with this topic, i remember something I read, "Falling in
love and love are two quiet different feeling. Falling in love can be
either a flash of emotions or a first step towards love".

When you fall in love, you feel an inexplicable attraction and the need
to be with that person 24/7. You want that person and need to be with
that person no matter what. There is no rationality and analyzing the
future here, just getting to know each other and living the moment.

Being with someone you love is being with the one who shares your
dreams, goals, ambitions, needs and wants. It is being with the one that
you know that no matter what will be there for you and you for him. You
know that you will be protected and secured and he feels the same. Being
in LOVE it’s knowing that the both of you will be together in good and
bad times. It is knowing that both of you are willing to deal with the
wrongs and bads of each other and willing to make each other a better
person.

There is much to say, and if I do, I’ll never finish…I hope this can
help and give an idea. It is just how I feel about this topic.

i think love is you tack the good with the bad and never go to bed mad
or the fight still gose on forever

Falling in love is like feeling the sunlight for the first time. You'll
completely know it when it happens. And when it does, hold on tight,
because the ride is about to begin!

I agree wirh wisper!!

love is when you look at your partner its like the frist day all over
again never ever wanting to hurt each other never saying you are soory
knowing every thing about them there moods the feallings there hops
dreams and all ways nowing how to make them feel good when they are down
to take the good times and the bad no matter what when its right yell
from the rofe tops because its hard to find thats what i think a true
love will be like dizzy dean5

Love is a feeling that gets you all flustered, excited, and thinking
irrationally. It's like the high you get from winning a big race,
performing in front of 100's of people and getting a standing ovation,
or getting that licking from your dog after you have been away for a
month.
It's is everything that feels good rolled into one, yet it lasts longer
than any of the other aformentioned feelings. Yet, like all the others,
it is also ...just a feeling. And feelings (hate, love, happiness,
sadness, fear) are fickle, they come and go. Some last long, some dont.
But in the end, they all end.
What i would love for you to understand, but i'm almost sure everyone
here will disagree, is that like all feelings. you should allow them to
run their course, but dont let them run your life. You don't let fear
from letting you follow your dreams, right? Don't let love do it either.
Allow yourself to fall in and out of love, but keep your head on
straight...don't allow your dreams get squashed because u may think "he
is the one". Chances are he is not.
So date him, love him, and at the first sign that you are unhappy with
him, dump him. Compromise is only for losers. Think of yourself first
and foremost.

dammmm!!! latin, didn't know that about you men!!
but you really know about love!!!

true, but still...knowing about love doesnt make me stupid about it. I
live alone now, had wife once. been in love many times and it's the
greatest, but irrational thinking got me to where i am now. And it will
not happen again. The most important person to me....now....is me. I
LOVE ME and because of that, i can love others yet not allow them to
stop loving myself.

very well said!!

ya but a good parner is hard to find

HUM?

LOVE??? What is it??? I thought I was in love. I met this guy @ Yahoo
Personals beginning of Nov. We met at a local diner. Not quiet my type
but...nice. We starting going out all the time. (movies, dinner,
hanging at my place watching TV). He told me it was love at 1st sight
for him. I don't believe in that. Lust maybe...I went to his sisters
for a xmas party, his friends xmas party. I even took him to meet my
family for dinner xmas day. We got along GREAT! We just CLICKED! Or so
I thought. I was so happy!!! Sex was the best!!! Now...New Years Eve
day. I called him in the morning. He didn't sound like himself. We
never made plans for New Year's Eve. Now...instead of asking "Are we
doing anything?" I just hung up!!! That was the last I heard of him.
Never called. He was suppose to come over New Years day for dinner. I
let a week go by. I was devastated. Still am!!! I went to his house.
Told him that I think he owed me an explanation. He looked like ****!
(good) He told me things were going to fast and we didn't know each
other quite welland he need to be alone!!! Do you believe it??? I told
him...that's what dating is all about!!! Getting to know someone!!! I
didn't ask him to marry me or force him into anything he didn't want
too!!! It's been a month now!!! I know I shouldn't cry over him but I
miss him terribly!!! He is not worth my tears!!! So...What Is Love???
It is different between men & woman...That's for Sure!!!

Latin said . and at the first sign that you are unhappy with
him, dump him.. .

I totally disagree with that. The first sign? Come on!! How many
divorces would we have if everyone left after the first sign.
Relationships are give and take and not 50/50 - it has to be 100% on
each side.

I gave my 100% to my marriage; unfortunately, my ex thought that I was
giving my 50% and his 50%, so he didn't have to.

Laurielynn, Yeah you have that right but I'm not sure if it's a
difference between Men & Woman or just different trains of thought.

To "Me" and the way I was brought up, I feel some people treat having a
person they are casually dating over for a Family gathering or to meet
the Children way too lightly.

I was brought up in an Ethnic Family were we don't bring someone over
unless we're serious (Way too much Sh*t can go down to chance that in my
family for a casual situation). Additionally I view that there is
nothing "casual" about meeting the children and I'd rather know where I
stand with a girl I'm seeing and how we get along with each other before
that situation arises.

Getting to Really know someone can take a long while and forcing
situations can spook people into second guessing themselves or where
they feel that they are in a relationship (or where they think the other
person is in a relationship).

Laura, he got what he wanted...to get into your pants. then he got
bored. it's simple like that

OnALark, and how many unhappy relationships do you know because the DOES
NOT happen. like i said, the most important person in your life should
be you. Just like the most important person in my life is me. If your
partner can't, or wont give you what you need, he/she is not right for
you. One thing you gotta realize...PEOPLE DONT CHANGE. they may for a
day, week, or month. But in the end, they will revert to the person they
were prior to meeting you.

Can't agree w/ latin, compromise is NOT for losers. I think true love
is full of compromise. Compromise is when different thoughts are
blended for the sake of peace & getting along. Without compromise you
have WAR.

Latin, Irespect your right to your opinion, but really feel sorry for
you. My opinion, a person can never find love, thinking as you do. If
I could have taken my wife's cancer, I would have. Is it scripture that
says, there is no greater love than that of one who will lay down their
life for another? Wouldn't you lay down your life for a child? How is
that thinking of yourself first?