Thinking...it's been a great day, now time to sleep!

There are also a lot of benefits to moving in together which I don't think anyone has mentioned...

The joy of seeing each other every day, cooking & dining together, sleeping & waking together, having someone to talk to, to laugh with, to watch movies with, do fun stuff together, the intimacy of course. Not just sex but also daily hugs and cuddles and kisses, fleeting touches maybe.
Someone there to talk to if something is up, to help you out with XYZ...

You're really together in every sense of the word. You can furnish the one place together with things you both love and enjoy.
In that sense it offers so much more emotionally & psychologically etc.

When LAT-ing you miss out on all that good stuff, you only have it occasionally...

And then there are the financial benefits: only 1 rent/mortgage instead of 2 meaning you save a helluva lot of money each month that you can then spend on the great things in life.
Insurances for only one house too... maybe it's possible to only have one car...

I too watched The Beekeeper the other day. I liked it a lot!
No nonsense action, no woolly storylines, great!

2nd season of Halo is out, and that of Fire Country as well.

Thank you so much! :D

Thanks, Julie!!

More work done today :)
That bay window is a real git to do. Had to Gesso over it 3 times already, hihi.
Hope next time I work on it I get it right!

What's left to do is that window, the trees, and some finishing touches around the lake.

In a way, yes, but then you got two damaged people in a relationship which thus can never be whole. It could be enough if both aren't willing to work on healing etc.
I mentioned all that in my post on pg 1, and the thing is that if you want a truly healthy fulfilling relationship you have to be willing to risk getting hurt again.
If you don't you keep most of your heart closed, protected and shielded.
That does keep you from getting hurt up to a point (not entirely!) but... it also keeps you from being able to feel love and to receive love.

Love is simply a thing that requires an open heart and with that the willingness to risk get hurt.
It's the only way to experience love.
Everything is just a shallow thing, not a full on love relationship.

That's not to say LAT relationships can't be that. But then it'd be between 2 healthy people with open hearts that for another reason wish to not move in together.
And financial reasons are also based on fear of losing & lack, so these don't count in that sense.

An okay reason could be that one for instance needed a house with garden in a village or small town to feel fulfilled and at piece, the other hates that, wants to live in an apartment in a city.
That's totally not related to any fear of lack, losing, etc. that would have the heart mostly closed.

Men have such blinders on when it comes to such matters.
How does a woman not lose half her stuff, but the man does?
I have never lived with a man who had proper stuff. I was the one who basically owned everything that was decent & good, from furniture to towels, pans, curtains etc. etc.
Yes, when I moved out his house was bare, but that was because he didn't have Jack chit when I move in but threadbare towels, settee that his dog dug a huge hole in etc.
I just took what was mine. All things that I myself bought after my divorce with my own money so this 2nd partner had no right whatsoever to any of it.
I took nothing that was his, wouldn't have wanted it either.

With my husband -which is longer ago- we divided things when we split up. So I lost half just the same.

Men always think they're the ones that get done over, but it's the same for the woman.
Men usually also think they're the only ones that got hurt. Women got hurt just the same, sometimes worse.
So typical men feel the need to make out that they're worse off and women gain by breaking up.

More work done tonight :)
You can now tell where's it's going.

It's not for me, wouldn't make me happy.
I want the whole enchilada to be and feel fulfilled.

I think for Lat relationship to work both would have to love each other as much to begin with so both have an equal desire to spend time together.

I also think many choose for this form because deep down they're afraid to open up fully as they've been hurt before.
It can be -and I suspect often is- a form of relationship to keep the other at arm's length and to maintain a built-in safety in case it goes wrong.
But having that sense of 'in case it goes wrong (again)' is not a healthy premise in a relationship.


Since some ask abut this... I have once read of a married couple who had a LAT relationship.
There's no reason you cannot choose this form and get married as well.

But it wouldn't work for me.

Thank you so much! :D

I've been painting again today :)
I believe the 3rd session for this one.
It's not done of course, but wanted to share what I have so far :)

Emerald Sky, Emerald Lake

Get a better profile photo...

Get a decent write up.

Men lie as they cannot handle aging.
Men generally have way more fragile egos than women and their egos can't handle it.
They notice at work they can't keep up with the younger generation of men, they notice their body isn't as toned and muscular anymore, his erection isn't as solid as it used to be and so on.
So he has a big problem with getting older and lies about his age.

It's not for nothing men get an ego boost out of having a much younger partner, or getting attention from much younger women.

Men are very sensitive to their status in the male hierarchy. That stems from ancient times, no longer the Alpha male. That stings.
(For women female hierarchy isn't important. For us it's sisterhood and oneness)

Why do you need to have a go at women?
All the stuff you mention women do come from not being valued in society, which is still mostly masculine based, unless we have big and firm boobs, no wrinkles, great @$$, nice tan, slender waist, and so on.
In short: we're only good enough when we look young and have a great body.
No one stays young forever, nor does everyone have what is considered to be a great body. We come in all shapes and sizes, just like men.
Difference being that men don't get judged for it, women do.
It's been like this for thousands of years which is why we don't know any better, we've been brainwashed to make sure we keep looking as young as possible, no matter what.
It has always been normal that a husband seeks out a younger woman as soon as his wife shows signs of aging. Have you any idea how soul destroying it is? The man you love clearly doesn't love you as it's only skin-deep.
As soon as she started aging, she was obsolete? WTF is that about?

It so sad we have to basically maim our natural bodies in order to be valued!
And you blame women for trying to stay young in appearance?
It's YOU men who couldn't & can't keep it in your pants that caused this.

Your profile text is quite bland.

Everyone wants someone who is loyal, responsible & mature. That's why you don't mention these as it is self-explanatory.
That leaves the question: what do you want / hope to find in a partner?

What you say about yourself is similarly vague and rather meaningless.

BIG MISTAKE: giving private contact info.

Your profile photo gets distorted as a thumbnail (the forum software tends to do that with certain sized photos).
It isn't clear, choose another one.
The one suggested above is much better as a profile photo.

The other photos you've got are good but might give you too much interest from sex-seeking men.
Also, they're all posing photos, showing clothes, not any of you doing some activity.
You're not auditioning for a fashion show. Photos of you doing something you like, an activity, are way more personal and thus much better for a dating site.

Summarized, your profile isn't very good and requires rewriting the whole lot, photos that are better suited for a dating site, a different profile photo.

Travelling in India isn't very safe, certainly not for a woman.
I've read stories on this from people who've been there. Having to sleep with a pair of scissors in their hands on a train in order to defend themselves. They all advised against taking normal open carriage, but getting a closed sleeping cabin, otherwise you would be in serious danger to get killed in your sleep.
Not fiction, they all said that.

And that's just on a train. Go figure about walking around. It's not safe.

An Australian friend of mine went there, had to walk around with a stick to literally hit people that were crowding her NON-STOP! You can't go anywhere without a crowd of people around you without keeping any distance, they're up against you, touching you etc. That's why she had the stick to at least keep them off of her body.
She was quite the bawsy woman, but even she wasn't comfy in India.

The travel stories I've read tell the exact same thing, incl. on the crowding, and being harassed non-stop, and that it's simply dangerous, especially when dark.

I will never go to India, for that reason. It's not safe.

Not good.

I am Texas,:
You are not Texas, you're Texan.


born and raised,:
unnecessary clutter, delete

but I have been told I am not very good at being Texas, if at all . :
Elaborating on that could raise interest.


I am not good with bios as I am just getting into this whole dating app shenanigans.:
So why didn't you educate yourself on the subject? A bit of Googling and you're an expert.
NOT a good selling point!



I don't have much experience when it comes to dating, :
So nobody wanted you? NOT a good selling point!


mostly because I was not ready until now.:
Why not? What was wrong? This paints the picture something is wrong with YOU! Not a good selling point.



I am pretty honest to a fault, I will tell you what I think and how it is.:
So you're blunt, possibly rude? And you think that's attractive? Have you not learnt to convey things in a loving, caring & subtle way?
NOT a good selling point



I'm just looking to find someone special in my life and that they be kind, generous, truthful, and that we both accept one another as we are.:
YAWN! Boring!


SUMMARIZED the picture you paint: You're lazy (can't even be bothered to find out about dating sites), clumsy, unattractive (never dated before), inconsiderate & blunt.

True self-love.

Absolutely!!!
I whole-heartedly second that!