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Topic: Many Friends
9CORNERPOCKET Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 2072	Sat 03/29/08 08:29 PM
why does it have to be a he? but since it is a he, he should be respectable to the one he is with and realize the field closed when the relationship started........ I agree and I should of said or vice-versa so that's it? You have to ditch all of your friends because you are in a relationship? That makes being in a relationship even less enticing. not saying that at all.......friends can only be trusted so far, but true friends will not interfere or make things difficult in you and your partners life......that's my story and i'm sticking to it....... no, they wouldn't interfere or make things difficult, but they wouldn't just go away either. Relationships come and go, but friends are for life. to have a relationship, you had to be friends first.............very contradictive of what you just qouted.........

Jillybean31 Joined Thu 03/20/08 Posts: 815	Sat 03/29/08 08:29 PM
why does it have to be a he? but since it is a he, he should be respectable to the one he is with and realize the field closed when the relationship started........ I agree and I should of said or vice-versa so that's it? You have to ditch all of your friends because you are in a relationship? That makes being in a relationship even less enticing. not saying that at all.......friends can only be trusted so far, but true friends will not interfere or make things difficult in you and your partners life......that's my story and i'm sticking to it....... I quite agree!!

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Sat 03/29/08 08:30 PM
I would never give up my friends and anyone with me will have to accept that. I go out and shoot pool with my friends with or with my guy. I have nothing to hide and he would know where I am and can show up anytime. I would introduce him to everyone. I won't sit at home with nothing to do if i can't see my guy. i would never ask him to get rid of his friends eiher. but again, i would expect the same respect from him that i would show

pkh Joined Sat 05/26/07 Posts: 14961	Sat 03/29/08 08:31 PM
why does it have to be a he? but since it is a he, he should be respectable to the one he is with and realize the field closed when the relationship started........ I agree and I should of said or vice-versa so that's it? You have to ditch all of your friends because you are in a relationship? That makes being in a relationship even less enticing. not saying that at all.......friends can only be trusted so far, but true friends will not interfere or make things difficult in you and your partners life......that's my story and i'm sticking to it....... I quite agree!! I ALSO AGREE

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Sat 03/29/08 08:31 PM
why does it have to be a he? but since it is a he, he should be respectable to the one he is with and realize the field closed when the relationship started........ I agree and I should of said or vice-versa so that's it? You have to ditch all of your friends because you are in a relationship? That makes being in a relationship even less enticing. not saying that at all.......friends can only be trusted so far, but true friends will not interfere or make things difficult in you and your partners life......that's my story and i'm sticking to it....... no, they wouldn't interfere or make things difficult, but they wouldn't just go away either. Relationships come and go, but friends are for life. to have a relationship, you had to be friends first.............very contradictive of what you just qouted......... that's not always true. I was engaged to my best friend. we were best friends for a year before dating. we used to talk about everything...then when we got together he turned into mr jekyll.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 03/29/08 08:31 PM
why does it have to be a he? but since it is a he, he should be respectable to the one he is with and realize the field closed when the relationship started........ I agree and I should of said or vice-versa so that's it? You have to ditch all of your friends because you are in a relationship? That makes being in a relationship even less enticing. not saying that at all.......friends can only be trusted so far, but true friends will not interfere or make things difficult in you and your partners life......that's my story and i'm sticking to it....... no, they wouldn't interfere or make things difficult, but they wouldn't just go away either. Relationships come and go, but friends are for life. to have a relationship, you had to be friends first.............very contradictive of what you just qouted......... when did I say that you had to be friends first?

wyatt1844 Joined Sat 01/26/08 Posts: 6761	Sat 03/29/08 08:32 PM
If he told me they were just friends, then I'd have to believe him...any new female friends should, out of respect for our relationship, befriend us both. That nails it right there.... If they are my friends, then they should be her friends as well.

willy_cents Joined Sat 07/14/07 Posts: 4471	Sat 03/29/08 08:33 PM
I would never give up my friends and anyone with me will have to accept that. I go out and shoot pool with my friends with or with my guy. I have nothing to hide and he would know where I am and can show up anytime. I would introduce him to everyone. I won't sit at home with nothing to do if i can't see my guy. i would never ask him to get rid of his friends eiher. but again, i would expect the same respect from him that i would show Does that include friends with benefits?

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 03/29/08 08:34 PM
If he told me they were just friends, then I'd have to believe him...any new female friends should, out of respect for our relationship, befriend us both. That nails it right there.... If they are my friends, then they should be her friends as well. I have no problem with that idea. The more, the merrier! Anyway any of my male friends would be happy for me if I found someone. How could they be a threat to my relationship? The reason we are friends and not more than that is because we don't want to be more than that. I don't see how that would change if I was in a relationship.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 03/29/08 08:35 PM
I would never give up my friends and anyone with me will have to accept that. I go out and shoot pool with my friends with or with my guy. I have nothing to hide and he would know where I am and can show up anytime. I would introduce him to everyone. I won't sit at home with nothing to do if i can't see my guy. i would never ask him to get rid of his friends eiher. but again, i would expect the same respect from him that i would show Does that include friends with benefits? I thought we were talking about platonic friends. Friends with benefits is a whole other topic. I don't think there is a need for friends with benefits once you have gotten into a serious relationship.

Jillybean31 Joined Thu 03/20/08 Posts: 815	Sat 03/29/08 08:36 PM
If he told me they were just friends, then I'd have to believe him...any new female friends should, out of respect for our relationship, befriend us both. That nails it right there.... If they are my friends, then they should be her friends as well. I think that's the ideal solution...but nothing ever works perfectly does it? The bottom line is that if your partner has friends of the opposite sex and something inappropriate were to happen, you have to have faith that they will rise above it and put the relationship first. If you can't trust your partner...who can you trust?

willy_cents Joined Sat 07/14/07 Posts: 4471	Sat 03/29/08 08:37 PM
Quite an interesting discussion. No one wants players or cheaters to date. If a guy is "shopping the field,' he is a player and a cheat, but, if he is married or committed, then it is ok to have all these female friends? Sounds a lot like a paradox to me.

Single_Rob Joined Mon 02/04/08 Posts: 8233	Sat 03/29/08 08:39 PM
I don;t care who they are friends with. Do people not have any trust in someone they are supposed to care so much about, and want to sped the rest of their life with?

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Sat 03/29/08 08:40 PM
Quite an interesting discussion. No one wants players or cheaters to date. If a guy is "shopping the field,' he is a player and a cheat, but, if he is married or committed, then it is ok to have all these female friends? Sounds a lot like a paradox to me. who said that?

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 03/29/08 08:41 PM
Quite an interesting discussion. No one wants players or cheaters to date. If a guy is "shopping the field,' he is a player and a cheat, but, if he is married or committed, then it is ok to have all these female friends? Sounds a lot like a paradox to me. Perhaps you have a different definition of friend. I have male friends who are much younger, or who don't like women, or whatever. I will NEVER hook up with them. I don't feel like it would be "shopping the field" to continue to be friends with them after I am in a relationship. Don't you have platonic female friends? Women you like as people, but not in a sexual way? Or do you try to have sex with every woman you know?

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 03/29/08 08:41 PM
I don;t care who they are friends with. Do people not have any trust in someone they are supposed to care so much about, and want to sped the rest of their life with? Who would have thought that YOU would be the voice of reason?

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Sat 03/29/08 08:46 PM
I don't care how many female friends he has...again I said I most of my friends are guys. They are JUST FRIENDS. and I won't give up my friends. I did that once for some guy and stopped talking to friends. The time he tried to beat the SH*T out of me...my friends came to help despite me blowing them off for the loser. I will not do that again for anyone. my guy can accept my friends as my friends should accept him

SharpShooter10 Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 11271	Sat 03/29/08 08:47 PM
i got lots of female friends

Jillybean31 Joined Thu 03/20/08 Posts: 815	Sat 03/29/08 08:49 PM
I don;t care who they are friends with. Do people not have any trust in someone they are supposed to care so much about, and want to sped the rest of their life with? That's what I'm talking about!

willy_cents Joined Sat 07/14/07 Posts: 4471	Sat 03/29/08 08:52 PM
Perhaps you have a different definition of friend. I have male friends who are much younger, or who don't like women, or whatever. I will NEVER hook up with them. I don't feel like it would be "shopping the field" to continue to be friends with them after I am in a relationship. Don't you have platonic female friends? Women you like as people, but not in a sexual way? Or do you try to have sex with every woman you know? Because I have a half dozen female friends on my list on here, I have been accused of being a "Player" What I am saying is that, what difference does it make whether you are married/committed or not? If I am a "player" because I have multiple female friends and I am single, what the heck does that make me if/when I am married/committed. How does that change the definition? As I said, my ex had male friends, and I did not mind. Then they became friends with benefits. Not a problem for me now...lol...she is lying in a hospital bed dying from hiv and hep C. Wonder now why I question the friends after marriage thing? I lucked out and did not catch what she has, but, scared the crap right out of me forever. Mutual friends ok, personal friends of the opp sex...no way for me.