How do you feel about being single?

When is a divorced person considered single not divorced? according to the irs your either married or single.

Is being single really a choice or the failure of not finding a realationship?

Im thinking the longer I stay divorced the more likely I will never live with another person so that makes me single. At first its hard to adjust to but the longer into it I see the advanages. One is called freedom. No fighting is good too. Being able to come and go as you please.I think you have to be ok with yourself to enjoy being single. Having a pet helps too. we still have that need to care for someone.I have one spoiled dog too. My girlfriend was really jealious of my dog.I always told her if I could find a woman as happy to see me as my dog was when I came home I would marry her. One time when I can home my girlfriend was on the floor on all fours waging her tail some how it wasnt the same. Mans best friend will always be his dog they cant talk back.

As a single person....I would have to say....I still want a mate to grow old with. Someone to share life with.

In many ways I agree, the freedom to come and go, is nice.
I sometimes wonder what is my malfunction. Why do I want to get married again, may be I just desire a companion, that desires to grow old together. I don't know anymore.

Now I am gonna live with someone, if I have to pull him in off the street! Ok, I exaggerated, but you get my drift!

You shouldnt have changed your 1st post it was ok.I especially like the part about the friends.I was going to comment on that.

Maybe you can try a pet that seems to work for me they make good friends.

With all the nice guys here at JSH you have to look else where ?

whats there to say. You only have 2 choices! You wanna be single,or, you can't find anyone that meets your expectations!

AWW! I was being pretty silly!

I agree with all the freedom comments but I still feel we weren't meant to be alone. I think, at the end of the day, it's nice to have someone to come home to. The key being someone you want to come home to!

Finding contentment has been the hardest thing for me with being single. That feeling of being ok by myself. It comes and goes. Got a pet but I don't feel like her master. I am glad that I have her around as I was with the dog I had before. I have liked sharing with her. She is a good dog. But she is just a dog. It isn't like we can have a conversation. She isn't able to ask how my day went and she is a worse house keeper than I am. I thought I was a bad cook but she can't even use a can opener or a microwave. I have never had a mate that would chase cars like she does or ones that had ticks or fleas. I guess having a pet versus having a mate both have their advantages.

Unlike a spouse... the dog will always be happy to see you when you get home.

silly is good it shows you have a good sense of humor.

Yeah, really. And with a pet you don't worry about being put in the dog house or being taught to fetch. That is why I gave up on teaching the Spitz to fetch the frisbee. I thought because she could jump so high she would be a natural with a frisbee. But she would just look at me like I was dumb. I guess we are both just dumb beasts. Both of us having trouble learning new tricks.

As a single lady,I hate it.I want someone to hold hands with,cuddle on the couch with,make love with,be there in good times and bad times,someone to grow old with.I know he is out there somewhere,I just have to find him.

I like being single.

There's advantages and disadvantages to being single OR matched up. Sometimes, being single is NOT a choice, and other times it is. Personally, I don't want to grow old alone. I want someone to do it with on the old rocking chair! And the companionship of course.

I think many of us choose singledom, particularly after coming out of devastating, destructive or abusive relationships. It takes a long time to be ready for a partner sometimes, and even though we miss companionship, the choice is often one of whether to be single and reasonably content, or paired up and miserable.
I also think as we get older, we are more selective about the persons we are open to becoming involved with. JMO.

somehow I knew you would say that.

some how in my kinky mind I have some weird images of that rocking chair and what it means.

it's the wheelchair that worries me,not the rocking chair

If I ever get old enough to need wheelchair you have my permission to put me out of my misery.

SHE HIT THE NAIL RIGHT ON THE HEAD!! Although I've been just fine for over 10 years as a single, I sometimes wish I had a special man in my life who made me feel appreciated & safe. Then, I think about the last doozy, and default to being single. I'm trying to change that; don't want the past to screw me out of a future.... If it's meant to be with one wonderful man....