The reason i feel there is still hope is because shes always been smarter than this and any girl that has left before has come back. the thing is we have kids and they dont deserve all this. and its a waste to through ten years away.

Why didnt you give him a second chance?

I gave him years of chances. He chose not to use them wisely.

Now there is another thing I don't get here. You come on and post looking for advice. Almost everyone is telling you the pretty much the same thing and you do not want to hear it!!!


Why bother asking?

After you left him did you feel depressed? Did you miss him? Did you think about going back? How long were you with him?

We were together over 10 years and have a son.

No, I never looked back. I resigned myself to the fact that he was not going to give me what I needed and prepared my mind and my heart to move on with my life.

I was never depressed. In fact I felt released from the agony of beating my head against the wall.

LOL,,,,,LOL,,,,,LOL

I never looked or thought much about why he was here on a singles sight but NOW that I see what he's reaching for on replies.lol I see he istrying to meet other women and is already seperated, or SO HIS PROFILE says...

DUDE,,,Mr. Sophisticated,,,,IF YOU WANT YOUR MARRAGE TO WORK,
Spend your time NOT SERCHING the internet for SOMEONE NEW!!

UNTIL,,,,YOUR A FREE MAN!!!

Where do they come from?

The thing that irritates me is that guys like this reflect badly on our gender. Makes ya wanna b!tch slap him.

Ive already bought another house and moved out and it is over im just trying to understand it all and not looking for pity only other opinions and that doesnt make me a bad person nor deos it reflect anything on you.

You're busted!!! You're not looking for advice. You're looking for a date!!!! You're going to make LOTS of friends out here. You're off to a stellar start.




You contradict yourself!!! Why write this nonsense if you believe it is over?


"The reason i feel there is still hope is because shes always been smarter than this and any girl that has left before has come back. the thing is we have kids and they dont deserve all this. and its a waste to through ten years away."



Did you already forget what you posted? You're a waste of time, and my work is done here.

Your question makes it sound like YOUR still together and nothing about already being broke up?
NOW,,,YOU say, YOU KNOW ITS OVER!
Then what a waste of my time and heart to reply to your invalid question..

IF YOUR wanting to MEET ladies here, then BE REAL, and ask THAT.
And I can only hope that when you were with your wife that YOU were NOT on any single sites...

Its all good to be YOU on here, just be 'YOU'...

My lst marriage crashed and burned because of my stupidity. I didn't listen to my wife, spend enough time with her or treat her right. If I'd been walking with the Lord and treatine her with respect, we'd still be together.

I think there's evil forces afoot that want to tear marriages, people and families apart. Absent the Lord's help, there were problems in my marriages. Consulting a clergyman would've helped, I think. Even better would've been taking my wife to church so we were both walking with the Lord and respecting each other. Then you have some principles to go on, at least.
If you get in the church, maybe your wife'll follow. I believe a man is meant to be a spiritual leader in a marriage, not dominant, but a leader and a spiritual contributor with the wife.

My second marriage was beautifl because my wife was so understanding. It still would've benefitted if we'd been going to church and I'd been walking with the Lord. The kids would've turned out better and my wife'd probably still be here cause I would've took better care of her and I would've had help caring for her medical problems.

Anyway, that's what worked for me and I thought I'd offer what I could here. Listen to your wife's love style and accommodate it. If she likes cards, gifts, flowers, money, whatever, accommodate, within reason. If she likes attention, likewise (sound like she likes compliments about her looks and figure).

Good luck to you and God Bless You. Pray about it, too. It helps. Can't hurt, at any rate. And, get your friends praying for you too, if you have friends that are close enough to do that.

I think what I'm reading here was that you and your wife had communication issues. What I do not understand is why you seek understanding from us, and not her.

If you have children, there is no time like the present to at least develop solid communication for the sake of co-parenting.

It sounds like a crisis alright

sorry, but anymore that is fairly typical. this is a microwave society and everyone wants everything now and with little effort. counseling sounds like your best bet, if she'll attend.

that's how i got married at 40!

only if you die at seventy

i think ima have one at 21

Crisis at 35? Very possible, that's about the age that my ex started posting on naughty sites and seeing married guys, disappointing but what do you do? I'm thinking I'm overdue for a crisis myself, probably past my mid-life now, but no signs yet. Sorry for your situation sophisticated but at least she was honest and up front, mine cheated for 1 1/2 years before telling me. Rough way to go but I'm meeting better quality women now than I ever have. Being 41 and single isn't that bad at all, and I think my next long-term relationship will be my best yet. Have a great weekend!

Thanx its good to hear something positive for a change!!!