Topic: life with ex's
ADiamond's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:00 AM

wasn't implying that people aren't nice, but i guess a lot depends on how things ended. I mean if you are up front with me and honest, then i dont see why people cannot remain friends. Now if you lie to me or cheat on me, then i can become quite the as*****

Did not take it that way....laugh and I agree that I so not understand why you would want out after investing 12 years but, crap happens huh??????

romeo1975's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:01 AM
now see, that is what i am talking about, now i have no kids(at least that i know of)and most of my friends(females) are ones that i dated one time or another.

romeo1975's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:01 AM


wasn't implying that people aren't nice, but i guess a lot depends on how things ended. I mean if you are up front with me and honest, then i dont see why people cannot remain friends. Now if you lie to me or cheat on me, then i can become quite the as*****

Did not take it that way....laugh and I agree that I so not understand why you would want out after investing 12 years but, crap happens huh??????
i suppose so diamond

shoesmonkey's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:02 AM

I do not think he considered me a friend while we were married and I know he is not my friend

I agree........enemie's at the gate.

PATSFAN's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:03 AM
Way to go Romeo your a jerk & everybody knows it now!!laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh ( joking)

PragmaticMind's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:04 AM

So how many people in here are still good friends with their ex... i know with me i have not had a lot of g/f's and was engaged once, but i am still pretty good friends with most, except for 1, who broke up with me by leaving a message on my answering machine saying she had been cheating on me for 2 months, and never wanted to see me again.


I'm good friends w/ my ex-husband (father of my girls) & his g/f. Took a lot of work after our divorce to get to this point.. we didn't have the greatest relationship (ever).. but we've always managed to be good friends before and a few yrs. after our divorce! No since in hating those who simply aren't meant for you.. you can only do your best to be civil (being the better person) and show respect and consideration to what is most important (children & individual happiness) :wink:

ADiamond's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:04 AM



wasn't implying that people aren't nice, but i guess a lot depends on how things ended. I mean if you are up front with me and honest, then i dont see why people cannot remain friends. Now if you lie to me or cheat on me, then i can become quite the as*****

Did not take it that way....laugh and I agree that I so not understand why you would want out after investing 12 years but, crap happens huh??????
i suppose so diamond

I certainly, wish I understood-----I would be RICH!!!!!laugh laugh

monkdog8888's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:04 AM
My ex is a drug addict. We get alone alright when she is clean but most of the time when she calls, she is messed up. She is usually real hateful when she is like that. So weather we get along , depends on what condition she is in.

romeo1975's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:05 AM
thanks pats, but it takes one to know one, LOL, especially one with the taste of football teams...LOL just kidding buddy

lilith401's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:07 AM
After several months.... I'm now friendly again with my ex-boyfriend. I'm not so much with my ex-husband~ as is his choice. I think that it depends on the circumstances of the break-up and/or the divorce.

My ex just is not willing to let go of whatever anger or resentment he still holds for me. And that is not at all my problem. I do find it interesting, though, since he divorced me. I guess he is upset I did not roll over and give up custody of my son for his new family? I'll never really know for sure and I don't waste my time wondering.

romeo1975's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:08 AM

After several months.... I'm now friendly again with my ex-boyfriend. I'm not so much with my ex-husband~ as is his choice. I think that it depends on the circumstances of the break-up and/or the divorce.

My ex just is not willing to let go of whatever anger or resentment he still holds for me. And that is not at all my problem. I do find it interesting, though, since he divorced me. I guess he is upset I did not roll over and give up custody of my son for his new family? I'll never really know for sure and I don't waste my time wondering.
well then shame on him lilith, cause he is missing out on something wonderful

hikerchick's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:08 AM
My ex sister-in-law told me that my ex husband was upset that I went on with my life after he left - he thought I would just roll over and die.

I guess he overestimated what he meant to me.

azrae1l's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:09 AM
given what my ex's have done to me they don't deserve my repsect or forgiveness nor friendship. they are not welcome in my life in any manner at all.

lilith401's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:12 AM

well then shame on him lilith, cause he is missing out on something wonderful


Actually Romeo ~ I lost respect for him during the relationship and I let him know it. I hold blame there. However, I do think it takes two to build mutual respect for the sake of parenting. And he is not willing to do that. It is sad. Not everyone can get over themselves.

romeo1975's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:12 AM
just dont show up on some talk show....that is all i ask

ADiamond's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:13 AM
It is funny......after all that has happened, I do not H-A-T-E him but, I really do feel sad for our Son because the kids always pay for the damages adults make.......:cry:

I pray one day he will see he is the worse friend to himself.....

lilith401's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:14 AM

just dont show up on some talk show....that is all i ask


You can rest easy on that one. I'm a Dr. Phil fan... but I keep my dirty laundry off national television. laugh

romeo1975's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:14 AM
LOL thats good to hear my dear..

lilith401's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:15 AM

LOL thats good to hear my dear..


How are things going with the lucky lady?

romeo1975's photo
Sat 03/22/08 09:17 AM
long story, still waiting to meet, she is supposed to go to her doctor on tuesday, and then see if she needs surgery