Topic: Question for the Men
cuda58's photo
Mon 01/08/07 05:52 AM
He may have some mental issues, in the mind??
Just sit him down and talk to him, when the mood is right, not when
there's tention in the air.
I have a friend, that married for one year, and not yet have had any
intimate with her new husband, he has mental issues, but won't do
anything about it. So, all's ya can do is try .
Good Luck, girl!

TxsGal3333's photo
Mon 01/08/07 07:39 AM
Hummm first of all the ones that are jumping right off the bat and
saying he is gay or he is not normal cause all men want sex ya need to
back off and re-group! Yeah I said that I don't care if you are men.
First of all you have most likely never been in that situation so you
don't understand why and ya say spice it up with playboy or porn lol
yeah right. How would I know about this. Well a guy I was dating I
assumed he just had a very low sex drive when it came down to it he
could not hold an erection for long. We sat and talked about it told him
that sex was not everthing yeah it took time to convince him of that. I
had found a male clinic that dealt with Men only with this problem gave
him the info. But.... did not push the issue. about 2 months later he
finally went. Come to find out due to medical problems he had had
surgerys and meds he had to take plus being a smoker the oxygen level in
his blood was real low which caused some of his problems. In turn it was
affecting his sef estem as well and did not know how to talk about it
which made the problem even worse. So my advice is sit and talk to him
bring up some info on low sex drive and the problems see if you can get
him to a doctor to see about what is going on. It can also be other
things too that need to be checked out. His solution instead of viargra
was the shots which work 100% better than viargra has ever thought of.
After all was said and done he said he wished he had went to the doctor
much sooner but just could not bring his self to admit he had a sexual
problem. He got his manhood back hell then found out several of his
budies all were having problems too but would not go to the doctor till
they found out he did and what the results were. So the gay thing is not
always the reason for a man to have a low sex drive. Could have
something to do with the blood flow.

Tneal's photo
Mon 01/08/07 07:48 AM
I hate when people just jump on the gay thing. There are other things
out there that cause this.

I agree with TXGAL... make sure you don't talk down to him though when
ya speak with him. Make sure you let him know that it's his health your
worried about and not just the sex.

Let us know how it went.

T

ShagnaC's photo
Mon 01/08/07 08:39 AM
Does he give you any signs he is cheating on you or using drugs?

TxsGal3333's photo
Mon 01/08/07 08:45 AM
Those are good points too shagna but funny thing even when mine was
cheating he still had a very good sex drive at home 4-5 times every
week. But.,.... now you do get a gut feeling when they are cheating at
least I did and his answer was it dont mean anything hunmmm huhhh yeah
buddy. lol

slowtogetit's photo
Mon 01/08/07 09:40 AM
damn i need to find me a woman like that.......lmao

Dreamweaverangel's photo
Mon 01/08/07 09:44 AM
I agree with Tx! And Slow...too bad you are so far off! LOL! Cutie!

slowtogetit's photo
Mon 01/08/07 09:45 AM
hmi'll scrounge for bus fare...lol

TxsGal3333's photo
Mon 01/08/07 09:46 AM
OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhhhh Noooooooooo not the penny jar!!!



ROFLMAO

slowtogetit's photo
Mon 01/08/07 09:48 AM
no way gal, that's my lifes savings, i'm looking under the couch
cushions...lol

TxsGal3333's photo
Mon 01/08/07 09:56 AM
Whewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww lol I actually have a 5 gal water jug that is very
close to the top with pennys lol. Keep threaten that I'm gonna go
through it and check make sure no pennies are worth more and cash them
in and take me a cruise lol. But.. ohhhh what a chore that would be lol.

zack100's photo
Mon 01/08/07 11:29 AM
There could be several causes for the lack of sex in your marriage...of
which you could be the cause of....do you ever provoke cozy....are you
often fussy, maybe it,s you...that,s lost that loving feeling....?

chopperdan's photo
Mon 01/08/07 11:49 AM
First and foremost ask him to see a specialist. Someone who specializes
in this field or even his doctor. The first thing to rule out is the
physical or metal thing before dropping him. Drugs & therapy these days
can do wonders for both male & females. People need to understand that
it could be physical and try to get help before just moving on.

ShagnaC's photo
Mon 01/08/07 12:18 PM
Hello Sexy Dan!!

Fanta46's photo
Mon 01/08/07 12:36 PM
I think I saw him on another site complaining about how his wife will
not give him any!!!!LOL

no photo
Mon 01/08/07 12:45 PM
There could be a variety of different reasons for his lack of interest
but first and formost open honest communication should be initiated,
talk to your husband, openly , honestly without talking down to him,
with out belittling him, make him feel as comfortable as possible with
the discussion. Ask him how he feels, what he thinks etc.

ellgee1976's photo
Mon 01/08/07 12:48 PM
talk to him about it, or..you could always break out in song..


*sings* You've lost, that looooovin feeelin"

ok..don't do that :P

Fanta46's photo
Mon 01/08/07 01:07 PM
CCP, thats a tactful way of saying exactly what I was thinking!
How can anyone be expected to solve her problems from hearing only one
side of the story! Or even give helpful advice,

no photo
Mon 01/08/07 01:11 PM
wow I'm tactful lol well sometimes I can be lol

no photo
Tue 01/09/07 06:18 AM
that is good advice txs. i wouldn't jump on the gay bandwagon just yet.
you said it's just since the marriage and it won't make him feel any
better to have you ask him if he's gay lol.
you shouldn't let it get to your self confidence either because it's
rarely ever an issue of whether he is attracted to you.