dont know, love my step daughter as much as my own, never use step, just here for the topic, I just want a easy goin sweet lady, not bad on the eyes and with a brain, kids or no kids, geez, I wouldn't give a chit

Let's look at this another way...

My kids are grown
Out of the house
(Well most of the time)
Do I wanna help someone I care about raise teenagers

Sounds kinds risky to me

Thats awsome!

because guys or should say some guys cannot handle it,but on other half guys like me would take you and all your kids along with package

(((((sharp))))) You are one of the good ones, lots of men wouldn't do that

You are, as well, one of the good guys

If I'm going to date someone, with the intention of something more than casual dating, I'd want to know if he had children. I don't have an issue with it, but some people do. Then, I knew a police officer who refused to date women with kids, but it bit him in the butt. He fell in love with her AND HER THREE KIDS, happily ever after.
The other issue IMPLIED with having a kid is there's usually an ex to go along with them, and that's not always pleasant. Live & let live. If someone knows what they want, or DON'T WANT, it's time to move on.
Bringing up the matter of being a parent should be part of a general conversation in the beginning, though. Not something hidden.

If, and I mean IF.. I could find someone that would take Me, my son, AND my dogs and be happy with that whole package... I guess I'd be happy and not heartbroken


My name says it all.. I dont hide the fact I have a child and I always tell anyone about my dogs..they go with me where ever I go! that is NOT and option.. yet there is always someone who is tryin to talk me into gettin rid of my dogs...guess they DON'T get the whole package then!!

oh nicki, i wuv you, marry me, today, k

They might be smarter than me if thats possible

yep, what she said, gotta take my dog too

Your friend made a big mistake by waiting until the first date to tell a guy that she had children. Some guys won't date women with children or women who have children at home. There are a lot of reasons.

The number one reason men may not want to date a single mom is the difficulty in spending time alone without the children. Hiring a sitter is an expense. Hanging out at her place may not be too appealing with children running around.

Another reason is that some men aren't ready to be fathers and may not want to become fathers soon. Your friend will probably have more luck seeking out men who already have children and may have children living with them. Then they can understand each other's situation a lot better.

I don't really know. Any of the people that I have dated never had a problem with me having kids.Of course I really dont do a whole lot of dating. My choice though. I always let them know up front though. My kids are my life and I let anyone and everyone that will listen know that.

I have to say one other thing..lol. I was raised my my mom and stepfather... I consider my stepfather more my dad than my real father. Love them both but my stepdad was the one that picked me up when I fell and gave me hugs. He was the one I went to when I needed a sounding board. As an adult? I'm still closer to my stepfather than my biological one.

If the dog is a part of the package, then the dog comes with!

For me, it's a matter of having tried it and finding out it simply doesn't work for me. But I make it very clear -- both in real life and on line -- that I absolutely will not get involved with anyone who has kids. And I don't want any of my own, either, so my situation has nothing to do with raising "someone else's baby."

just a matter of personal preference

I think his number one reason has merit. I've had no problem with men I've met having any issues with the fact I have a daughter. There IS a factor, though, that sometimes this makes it difficult to make plans for dates, etc.

Not all of us. I am currently dating a woman who has a two year old girl. And I have made a bond with the kid. I was never afraid to date her just because she had a kid. But, if a guy doesn't want to date a single woman with kids(s) then that is for them to decide.

I think alot of the problem is the "stigma" that single parents get (especially women). Generally speaking, most women who have children, well...when they date, there is this perception that they are looking for a guy who will help them take care of them and there kids. I know that not every guy feels this way, and I also know that women with kids (most of them) do not look for a guy for financial or moral support. They, like all of us, want to meet someone they can build a relationship with. There are some women who do look for a man for the wrong reasons. And I feel that because of this, most guys turn away from single women with kids.

I can vouch that if you pass up on a woman just because she has a kid then you could miss out. I know I am thankful that I didn't feel the need to pass up on the lady in my life now. Cause I surely would have missed out.

Well, i'm incredibly young, but I think most guys just don't want to feel pressured that they think the girl will make them be a father to the child. Also some guys want to stay as far away from kids as possible for various reasons. Personally I wouldn't date a girl with a kid because sometimes I'm still a kid myself and I don't want kids myself for another 8-10 years.

Perfectly acceptable to me, honest & responsable. I just hope you make this clear before you end up on a date with a mom.