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Wed 03/12/08 11:41 PM
How do you win over a guy who is enviromental, doesn't trust anyone anymore, and his mental shield is to be mean. He says that when he's mean to someone, it's cuz he likes her. I want to help him believe again, but I dont know how. Any tips?

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Wed 03/12/08 11:44 PM

How do you win over a guy who is enviromental, doesn't trust anyone anymore, and his mental shield is to be mean. He says that when he's mean to someone, it's cuz he likes her. I want to help him believe again, but I dont know how. Any tips?
you can help by being there for him as a friend and he will have trust in you and treat him special he will become a better person

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Wed 03/12/08 11:45 PM
dittolaugh

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Wed 03/12/08 11:46 PM
you are in for heartbreak. You are not trained to deal with it, and it will only serve to spiral you into a one sided, miserable relationship

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Wed 03/12/08 11:46 PM
Edited by Kg1 on Wed 03/12/08 11:48 PM
You can never change a guy thats womens most comon mistake, he can only change himself... you can't take on someone elses baggage... if you let him treat you like **** from the start he will think he can always treat you like **** and always will... so if he's mean now he always will be

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Wed 03/12/08 11:48 PM

You can never change a guy thats womens most comon mistake, he can only change himself...

*most* men get with women hoping they will never change
*most* women get with men for what they think they can change them into

*popcorn smilie*

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Wed 03/12/08 11:48 PM
Edited by davidben1 on Wed 03/12/08 11:49 PM
nothing can be mean less they blame others for there own past, in a relationship

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Wed 03/12/08 11:51 PM

nothing can be mean less they blame others for there own past, in a relationship
huh huh huh huh

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Wed 03/12/08 11:51 PM
Run!!!!!laugh noway laugh

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Wed 03/12/08 11:52 PM

you are in for heartbreak. You are not trained to deal with it, and it will only serve to spiral you into a one sided, miserable relationship


i totally agree with rob here. Trust is a very hard thing to earn...either the person has it or they don't and you cannot change that

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Wed 03/12/08 11:53 PM
I understand what you are all saying, and I agree, I really do, but just to let you know, I'm not trying to change him, not at all. He doesn't want to be the way he is, but right now, his mind is set on the fact that he has been cheated on in the past, and doesn't trust. I have been cheated on by every one of my boyfriends, but I still learn to trust. I just want to help him. He knows I'm there for him, but is there something in particular I can do?

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Wed 03/12/08 11:54 PM

Run!!!!!laugh noway laugh


who is that gorgeous one?blushing

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Wed 03/12/08 11:54 PM
wow is this deja vu????noway laugh noway

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Wed 03/12/08 11:55 PM


Run!!!!!laugh noway laugh


who is that gorgeous one?blushing
Heya scotty!!!:wink: laugh laugh laugh laugh

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Wed 03/12/08 11:55 PM

I understand what you are all saying, and I agree, I really do, but just to let you know, I'm not trying to change him, not at all. He doesn't want to be the way he is, but right now, his mind is set on the fact that he has been cheated on in the past, and doesn't trust. I have been cheated on by every one of my boyfriends, but I still learn to trust. I just want to help him. He knows I'm there for him, but is there something in particular I can do?

I am telling you girlie, if he hasn't moved on he is in no way ready to start a relationship. You will be in for some bad times, and so will he. The road to happiness is first forgiving things in your past, and accepting things for what they are. If there is no trust to start with, there never will be

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Wed 03/12/08 11:55 PM


Run!!!!!laugh noway laugh


who is that gorgeous one?blushing

oh, my name is robert. Nice to meet you

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Wed 03/12/08 11:56 PM



Run!!!!!laugh noway laugh


who is that gorgeous one?blushing

oh, my name is robert. Nice to meet you


lol

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Wed 03/12/08 11:57 PM




Run!!!!!laugh noway laugh


who is that gorgeous one?blushing

oh, my name is robert. Nice to meet you


lol


bigsmile

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Wed 03/12/08 11:57 PM



Run!!!!!laugh noway laugh


who is that gorgeous one?blushing

oh, my name is robert. Nice to meet you

laugh laugh laugh did someone call me scottymad

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Wed 03/12/08 11:57 PM
Well, we decided that when we meet, we are going to see if we click as well as we do on the phone. If so, then we are going to work things out. But I just want to prove to him that he can trust me. Is there anything special that all guys wish a woman would do when they first meet?

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