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Topic: HELP! He cant kiss!
starryeyed346 Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 412	Wed 03/12/08 12:31 PM Edited by starryeyed346 on Wed 03/12/08 12:32 PM
I sat down and talked with my boyfriend about needing more intimacy in our relationship... and a huge part of that included kissing. I think he genuinely doesn't know how to kiss. He doesn't kiss me often... and by often I mean never. He'll wake me in the morning sometimes when he kisses my cheek before going to work. He doesnt even kiss during sex, which I NEED... so its just causing all sorts of problems. So he tried to make up for it... and he made an attempt to "make love" to me... and he tried to incorporate some kissing. Let me tell you.. it was awful. He licked my face like a dog, and I dont even know if I can describe what he did as a kiss. It wasnt french-kiss tongue... it was like dog-licking-face-when-you-get-home-from-work tongue. I dont even know if our lips touched as he sucked my face off. I stopped him every time he attempted. Later on, when he mentioned it, I was like "You cant honestly call that kissing.. it was more like mauling my face off" I am mortified by my reaction towards his attempt... at least he's trying. I know it must not be easy on his ego, and I should have focused on positive reenforcement. He is one of those REALLY smart guys... and he must be panicking that he cant learn how to kiss well on wikipedia. I mean, in theory.. you can learn anything by studying... but even doctors need to practice. I want to kiss him... how can I teach him without injuring his ego?

elviszim Joined Fri 02/15/08 Posts: 365	Wed 03/12/08 12:33 PM
Use his best friend to show him how it's done

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Wed 03/12/08 12:33 PM
That sounds kinda unusual

starryeyed346 Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 412	Wed 03/12/08 12:34 PM
IT IS SO UNUSUAL!!!!! I love kissing.... and this lack-of-intimacy is sending our relationship right down the toilet.

sexi_PHAT Joined Fri 02/01/08 Posts: 1301	Wed 03/12/08 12:34 PM
I sat down and talked with my boyfriend about needing more intimacy in our relationship... and a huge part of that included kissing. I think he genuinely doesn't know how to kiss. He doesn't kiss me often... and by often I mean never. He'll wake me in the morning sometimes when he kisses my cheek before going to work. He doesnt even kiss during sex, which I NEED... so its just causing all sorts of problems. So he tried to make up for it... and he made an attempt to "make love" to me... and he tried to incorporate some kissing. Let me tell you.. it was awful. He licked my face like a dog, and I dont even know if I can describe what he did as a kiss. It wasnt french-kiss tongue... it was like dog-licking-face-when-you-get-home-from-work tongue. I dont even know if our lips touched as he sucked my face off. I stopped him every time he attempted. Later on, when he mentioned it, I was like "You cant honestly call that kissing.. it was more like mauling my face off" I am mortified by my reaction towards his attempt... at least he's trying. I know it must not be easy on his ego, and I should have focused on positive reenforcement. He is one of those REALLY smart guys... and he must be panicking that he cant learn how to kiss well on wikipedia. I mean, in theory.. you can learn anything by studying... but even doctors need to practice. I want to kiss him... how can I teach him without injuring his ego? OMG...that sucks...good luck wiht that..maybe when u are kissing him..maybe you can kinda tell him "Here..this is how i like it" and show him..Or something..good luck!

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Wed 03/12/08 12:35 PM
I sat down and talked with my boyfriend about needing more intimacy in our relationship... and a huge part of that included kissing. I think he genuinely doesn't know how to kiss. He doesn't kiss me often... and by often I mean never. He'll wake me in the morning sometimes when he kisses my cheek before going to work. He doesnt even kiss during sex, which I NEED... so its just causing all sorts of problems. So he tried to make up for it... and he made an attempt to "make love" to me... and he tried to incorporate some kissing. Let me tell you.. it was awful. He licked my face like a dog, and I dont even know if I can describe what he did as a kiss. It wasnt french-kiss tongue... it was like dog-licking-face-when-you-get-home-from-work tongue. I dont even know if our lips touched as he sucked my face off. I stopped him every time he attempted. Later on, when he mentioned it, I was like "You cant honestly call that kissing.. it was more like mauling my face off" I am mortified by my reaction towards his attempt... at least he's trying. I know it must not be easy on his ego, and I should have focused on positive reenforcement. He is one of those REALLY smart guys... and he must be panicking that he cant learn how to kiss well on wikipedia. I mean, in theory.. you can learn anything by studying... but even doctors need to practice. I want to kiss him... how can I teach him without injuring his ego? IDK, teach how you like to be kissed and practice with him.

starryeyed346 Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 412	Wed 03/12/08 12:35 PM
The problem is getting him to practice with me. When I try to kiss him, he pulls away. Talk about sensitive ego!

Nickinolosers Joined Thu 06/07/07 Posts: 15208	Wed 03/12/08 12:36 PM
I sat down and talked with my boyfriend about needing more intimacy in our relationship... and a huge part of that included kissing. I think he genuinely doesn't know how to kiss. He doesn't kiss me often... and by often I mean never. He'll wake me in the morning sometimes when he kisses my cheek before going to work. He doesnt even kiss during sex, which I NEED... so its just causing all sorts of problems. So he tried to make up for it... and he made an attempt to "make love" to me... and he tried to incorporate some kissing. Let me tell you.. it was awful. He licked my face like a dog, and I dont even know if I can describe what he did as a kiss. It wasnt french-kiss tongue... it was like dog-licking-face-when-you-get-home-from-work tongue. I dont even know if our lips touched as he sucked my face off. I stopped him every time he attempted. Later on, when he mentioned it, I was like "You cant honestly call that kissing.. it was more like mauling my face off" I am mortified by my reaction towards his attempt... at least he's trying. I know it must not be easy on his ego, and I should have focused on positive reenforcement. He is one of those REALLY smart guys... and he must be panicking that he cant learn how to kiss well on wikipedia. I mean, in theory.. you can learn anything by studying... but even doctors need to practice. I want to kiss him... how can I teach him without injuring his ego? Men learn by example

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Wed 03/12/08 12:37 PM
ohhhhhhhhhh I had a dog licker bf too!!!1 ewwwwwwwwwww like wtf are you doing licking my face?????

OrangeCat Joined Tue 10/23/07 Posts: 76874	Wed 03/12/08 12:37 PM
Use his best friend to show him how it's done

OrangeCat Joined Tue 10/23/07 Posts: 76874	Wed 03/12/08 12:38 PM
ohhhhhhhhhh I had a dog licker bf too!!!1 ewwwwwwwwwww like wtf are you doing licking my face?????

iRon Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 2786	Wed 03/12/08 12:38 PM
They way my first girlfriend tought me was to set me down and practiced tell i got it right and I did not mind. I have been told I am a great kisser and i owe it to her.. So I am thankful to her and so have 2 wifes and few outher ladies... Practice Make perfect and I agree....... A side note for ya, from what I understand there are guys don't like to kiss....Not that understand that but I have had guy friends tell me that...

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Wed 03/12/08 12:39 PM
Show him what you mean. Have him sit still and tell him you are going to show him what you call a kiss and you put your mouth on his mouth and gently move your lips the way you would like and touch his mouth with your tongue. If he opens his lips a little then show him how to use his tongue. I have had to show a few guys how to kiss. I am not sure how they ever learned opening your mouth as far as it will go almost and sticking the tongue as deep as possible to make sure that slob is all over your face when they get done and you had to gag on their tongue.

starryeyed346 Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 412	Wed 03/12/08 12:39 PM
ohhhhhhhhhh I had a dog licker bf too!!!1 ewwwwwwwwwww like wtf are you doing licking my face????? oh no.. that obviously didnt last... "had"

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Wed 03/12/08 12:39 PM
The problem is getting him to practice with me. When I try to kiss him, he pulls away. Talk about sensitive ego! IDK, keep trying

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Wed 03/12/08 12:40 PM
ohhhhhhhhhh I had a dog licker bf too!!!1 ewwwwwwwwwww like wtf are you doing licking my face????? oh no.. that obviously didnt last... "had" well it lasted 5 years!!! It was my son's father and I had to teach him how a woman likes to be kissed!!!

starryeyed346 Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 412	Wed 03/12/08 12:41 PM
Im afraid to ask him to sit down and practice. I dont want to hurt his feelings.

butters1988 Joined Sun 03/09/08 Posts: 7	Wed 03/12/08 12:41 PM
what you need to do is sit him down and tell him srait up that he can't kiss worth ****. And you should show him how to kiss, to tell you the truth I have never heard of any one not knowing how to kiss but if he needs to learn it should be from you

OrangeCat Joined Tue 10/23/07 Posts: 76874	Wed 03/12/08 12:42 PM Edited by OrangeCat on Wed 03/12/08 12:42 PM
Im afraid to ask him to sit down and practice. I dont want to hurt his feelings. you be hurting more not

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Wed 03/12/08 12:42 PM
Im afraid to ask him to sit down and practice. I dont want to hurt his feelings. Well, hurt his feelings now a little or later alot when you leave him, pick which is worse.