I’ve seen where several Married women seek relationships. “Generally”
they say that they are in a Bad Marriage but have Kids and they are
staying in the marriage for the Kids. To me sticking with a bad marriage
seems to be worse on the kids than getting divorced because it shows
Kids how NOT to treat their spouses. However since the kids are young
they learn to treat their partners like crap and how to tolerate
miserable relationships and make their relationships self destructive
(perfect example, seeking support from a man other than their spouses).

We’ve had a few threads about Guys Cheating lately and I’m having
problems seeing the difference here, maybe some people can help me see
the difference?

To me it’s simple, if you’re married you fight to make the relationship
work (whatever it takes) and if you deem it’s unsalvageable then end it
mercifully before the marriage becomes too destructive.

This helps the parents keep a better future relationship and it shows
Kids how things should be done…..

sluggo, i was in a destructive relationship, it took almost 14 yrs for
me to get out of it, but i did and never during that time did i cheat.
it isn't a good thing for kids to see the parents constantly fighting
and/or not talking to each other.

if a woman is in a doomed relationship and she wants the comfort of
another man.. it is cheating period. plain and simple. i don't care what
their excuse is, your married.

Damn Sluggo.I think you are right on target!Had some friends in that
spot.Fought all the time.Devorced now.The kids are trouble makers now.

makes no difference which one does it if you are in a relationship and
step outside for companionship, then it is cheating regardless.

I agree to all the comments. I was in an abusive relationship, but did
everything I could to make it right. He refused counselling until after
he left us and realized that he was f***ed. In this state, if you
leave, you've lost everything. After nearly 25 yrs of marriage, we
finally divorced and my son took the brunt of it. He was only 15 and
had a very difficult time.

Thankfully, he is now very mature and successful . . . no thanks to his
dad

i agree with sluggo, my 1st marriage only lasted 5 years and would have
been shorter if not for my 2 sons, i had to come to the realization that
it was better for their mom to not be a depressed basket case than to
stay with their miserable dad for the sake of the nuclear famlily
concept and my kids do great btw
unless both parties agree there shouldnt be any otside relations, so if
u needc one that bad, get a divorce

Regardless what is going on in a relantionship if one or the other is
seeing someone else its cheating plain and simple. If you want to see
others then split up go your own ways it does nothing but leave someone
in the end hurt!

Damn, Sluggo.....you,re not even Married, and already talking about
divorse....?

Divorce is with a "C" (not and "S" Divorse ;-) ...lol

You're at the age now Ontario where you'll see your friends getting
married left and right and notice over a bit of time that half of them
shouldn't have.....

Yes....the Bachelor Core is down to 2 now....I can,t be the last
Bachelor....how bad would that be....?

hey ont

Hey wego....are you drunk yet.....?

nope, haven't had anything to drink

Well you should....!

might a little bit later.. it's still early. what about you you drinking
yet?

I was in an aweful marrage 11yrs. ago. My ex was an ass.....still is! I
tried to do everything to save our marriage down to the counceling- my
daughter was 3 when I kicked him out but because of her age, she
doesn't remember him living with us.........you don't miss what you
don't know! And we are soooo much better off!

Sugargirl....you should down a couple of drinks and let the good times
roll....and and wego....no I have,nt started drinking yet...just put the
champagne on ice...!

that is something that i don't drink.. i drank that and ate a bunch of
chocolate and they just don't mix well

No....try chardonay next time...it goes great with chocolate cake....!