As many of you have seen i had no answer on whether i was married or not. Yes i am married but right now my marriage is going down hill. I have been married for almost 6 years now.The first four were ok. When i met my husband i had just got out of bad relationship with my childrens father. I feel i just jumped into a relationship without giving a thought first. Sometimes i feel trapped in a marriage that i cant get out of. I love him but im not in love with him. I feel i didnt have the time to fall in love with him. Cause he moved in with me a month later. I think we took it to fast. and im unhappy and dont know what to do. I dont want to leave because hes been with my kids since my daughter was 2. Somebody please give me advice.

you know in your heart what you should do

I 've been separated for 4 years now, have not talked to her Or seen her , nor do I care.... You could say this has been the best years of my marriage

People can offer you all kinds of advice,but you and you only can decide what to do for yourself and your kids....

I'm only going to say that no one comes out of a divorce without scars. If you're unhappy, evaluate why and if it can be fixed. Don't make rash decisions but make the decision that's right for you. I wish I had a clear cut answer for you. Good luck and I hope you find your happiness,whatever it may be.

DON'T go on a single dating site.
Go to family, friends, and a marrage counselor.
BECAUSE here men will hit on you and THATS NOT what you NEED right now.. GOOD LUCK...

I think a person should do everything they can to make a marriage work..but what do I know....I have been divorced 2 times

Get off a dating site for starters!! If you were separated thats one thing but to with each other, living together, you being on a dating site can't be helping matters..

I agree with this completely two wrongs does not make a right. If two people are unhappy and there is no way to fix it then at least get out of the situation and learn to be on your own before bringin another into your life. Yeah it is tough but it can be done.

Listen to iam4u. This is real good advice. But I will also ad my own......don't rush right out and get a divorce. You might regret it later. Also, don't do anything that will make your husband suspect that there is something going on. Like having a provile on a dating site.
It looks to me like you are just giving him a reason to divorce you so you won't feel guilty about divorcing him.

Work on your marriage and find out why you are unhappy.

Good Luck.

This is the reason im unhappy, 1 hes too controling he wants to know when, what, where, why, its like he has to every move i make. I cant even go to the dam bathroom. He calls me three to five times a day wanting to know what im doing and i cant stand it. Hes jealous of me going back to school and persuing my education. No im not on here trying to jump in a relationship. Hes crowding me and its out of control. Even when im at school he wants to know what im doing. Yes he is older than me by 8 yrs,

how about just not answering the phone thats what i'd do

if im at home then he will call the house phone.

I personally wouldn't put up with this but that's just me and might not be right for you. I'd probably explain to the person why I needed more freedom. If they would not agree to give me the freedom I needed I'd leave. Again this is what I would do it might not be right for you.