Topic: Web relationship
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Fri 03/07/08 03:45 PM

I have a question for everybody,and i am thankfull for your time.
Do u believe in relationship through chat?
Does anybody experinced it,and what can you tell me about it?:smile: :smile:


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Fri 03/07/08 03:46 PM


True,but still u have the feeling of in secure,and u dont want do get hurt or betrayed (again),so any advices with that?


I know this wasn't to me....sorry...

The only advice I offer is do not hold prior bad experiences against yourself or any other. That's a setup for failure. If you're not ready to take the risk, you're not ready to get in a relationship.


Its ok,i agree with u.
:smile:

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Fri 03/07/08 03:48 PM
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Fri 03/07/08 03:50 PM
like Someone else Mentioned On Here. Its Not As Good As It Used To Be. Awful Lot Of People Get Enjoyment From Pretending To Be Someone else! Game! Teenagers Smarter And Can Be A very Good 35 Year old Nowadays! Multiple Picts. Maturity. Its become Too Hard Nowadays To really Tell! Unless Meet! But Have Be Cautious. Like The gentleman Mentioned. Not Like It Used To be!

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Fri 03/07/08 03:54 PM
WOW! I Just Realized, The Times Listed Are 3 Hours Earlier Than Here! I,m On East Coast! Already Into The Evening With Good Drink!
Times Listed Are Central/pacific Time! Thanks Guys At JustsayHi!!!

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Fri 03/07/08 03:55 PM

I have a question for everybody,and i am thankfull for your time.
Do u believe in relationship through chat?
Does anybody experinced it,and what can you tell me about it?:smile: :smile:


I was friends with someone online for a year and a half. In that time, we developed feelings for each other because we were talking online and on the phone for 4-10 hours each day. We wrote letters as well. In that year and a half, I flew to visit him twice (he paid half, I paid half). He was a perfect gentleman and we enjoyed each other's company.

After visiting the second time, we talked about me moving out there so we could be together. When I did get there, it lasted 6 months. The romance was gone once I got there. We had already talked about pretty much everything possible to talk about before I ever got there, so there was almost nothing left to say. Being long distance helps to fantasize about how it could be if someone were to be in a relationship. Your expectations are grand and when reality comes to fruition, it can be a big letdown. The thrill is gone, because it was all wrapped up in thinking about it.

Chat "relationships" are dangerous ground, because it could be absolutely wonderful but completely flop in real time. I'd say don't base much at all on "online feelings."

Tantza's photo
Fri 03/07/08 03:56 PM

like Someone else Mentioned On Here. Its Not As Good As It Used To Be. Awful Lot Of People Get Enjoyment From Pretending To Be Someone else! Game! Teenagers Smarter And Can Be A very Good 35 Year old Nowadays! Multiple Picts. Maturity. Its become Too Hard Nowadays To really Tell! Unless Meet! But Have Be Cautious. Like The gentleman Mentioned. Not Like It Used To be!



VERY,VERY TRUE...
i am rehreting with u along,but the point im honest and i dont know is the other person honest...

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Fri 03/07/08 03:58 PM
We had already talked about pretty much everything possible to talk about before I ever got there, so there was almost nothing left to say.


How is this even possible?

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Fri 03/07/08 03:58 PM
Edited by EtherealEmbers on Fri 03/07/08 04:00 PM

We had already talked about pretty much everything possible to talk about before I ever got there, so there was almost nothing left to say.


How is this even possible?


Have you ever talked to A MAN for a year and a half for 4-10 hrs every single day?

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Fri 03/07/08 03:59 PM
Edited by LadyOfMagic on Fri 03/07/08 04:02 PM
I've done the internet relationship thing..they worked out well til I tried to make then REAL relationships..I talked with a guy for over a year then we talked about meeting..I told him that he needs to know first that I am in a wheelchair then decide if he still wants to meet me..I never heard from him again.

lilith401's photo
Fri 03/07/08 04:02 PM


We had already talked about pretty much everything possible to talk about before I ever got there, so there was almost nothing left to say.


How is this even possible?


Have you ever talked to A MAN for a year and a half for 4-10 hrs every single day?


Yes... when I was married, or in relationships. It was in person. However, I would think that in that eighteen months, you would have discussed your everyday lives, quirks, etc. And while you were together, gotten a sense of who and how they were. If there is love, true love, you're never all talked out. It takes a lifetime to get to know a person, as we change every day. JMO

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Fri 03/07/08 04:06 PM


I have a question for everybody,and i am thankfull for your time.
Do u believe in relationship through chat?
Does anybody experinced it,and what can you tell me about it?:smile: :smile:


I was friends with someone online for a year and a half. In that time, we developed feelings for each other because we were talking online and on the phone for 4-10 hours each day. We wrote letters as well. In that year and a half, I flew to visit him twice (he paid half, I paid half). He was a perfect gentleman and we enjoyed each other's company.

After visiting the second time, we talked about me moving out there so we could be together. When I did get there, it lasted 6 months. The romance was gone once I got there. We had already talked about pretty much everything possible to talk about before I ever got there, so there was almost nothing left to say. Being long distance helps to fantasize about how it could be if someone were to be in a relationship. Your expectations are grand and when reality comes to fruition, it can be a big letdown. The thrill is gone, because it was all wrapped up in thinking about it.

Chat "relationships" are dangerous ground, because it could be absolutely wonderful but completely flop in real time. I'd say don't base much at all on "online feelings."





i really apriciate your post,and have to say thats a fact,but i have that feeling.
Should i let them go?
Or should him put it to test?
Plus how do i know if this guy speaks the truth?

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Fri 03/07/08 04:07 PM

i really apriciate your post,and have to say thats a fact,but i have that feeling.
Should i let them go?
Or should him put it to test?
Plus how do i know if this guy speaks the truth?


Why not go with your feelings? Meet him, and see if he is honest. You'd want them to give you that chance, right?

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Fri 03/07/08 04:07 PM



We had already talked about pretty much everything possible to talk about before I ever got there, so there was almost nothing left to say.


How is this even possible?


Have you ever talked to A MAN for a year and a half for 4-10 hrs every single day?


Yes... when I was married, or in relationships. It was in person. However, I would think that in that eighteen months, you would have discussed your everyday lives, quirks, etc. And while you were together, gotten a sense of who and how they were. If there is love, true love, you're never all talked out. It takes a lifetime to get to know a person, as we change every day. JMO


Aha! But that's if both people are actually in love... and are both committed to the relationship. Unfortunately, you cannot judge these things online because the only thing they're committed to is words...

Tantza's photo
Fri 03/07/08 04:07 PM

I've done the internet relationship thing..they worked out well til I tried to make then REAL relationships..I talked with a guy for over a year then we talked about meeting..I told him that he needs to know first that I am in a wheelchair then decide if he still wants to meet me..I never heard from him again.




well u never know what does the true face looks like.

Tantza's photo
Fri 03/07/08 04:10 PM


Why not go with your feelings? Meet him, and see if he is honest. You'd want them to give you that chance, right?


ok,i will, but now there is another problem he lives two countrie far away so i think he should fly here first,right?
but he said he cant cause hes running the family business .
so what should i do?

LadyOfMagic's photo
Fri 03/07/08 04:10 PM
You wanna know the REAL kicker about him not wanting to date me after finding out about my wheelchair?..His brother is in a wheelchair too!

EtherealEmbers's photo
Fri 03/07/08 04:12 PM

i really apriciate your post,and have to say thats a fact,but i have that feeling.
Should i let them go?
Or should him put it to test?
Plus how do i know if this guy speaks the truth?


It's a risk. Any relationship is a risk... but when you connect online and everything's great, you cannot assume that it will be like that in real life. It is foolish to assume that. Meeting online is a good way to find someone, sure... and maybe you can get to know them, sure... but you only know what they tell you... and not everyone sees things the way they really are.

Never EVER expect to go from online straight into a full blown relationship. That is assuming WAY too much. Get to know them offline first.

lilith401's photo
Fri 03/07/08 04:13 PM

ok,i will, but now there is another problem he lives two countrie far away so i think he should fly here first,right?
but he said he cant cause hes running the family business .
so what should i do?


The fairest way is you both meet on uncommon ground, that makes it fair for you both. [Of course, this is not what I did, but really is the best option] If he is not willing to take time to meet you? That is your answer right there.

LadyOfMagic's photo
Fri 03/07/08 04:18 PM
I met one guy online that wanted to teach me to play pool as a date..I told him that b4 we actually WENT OUT..We should meet face to face first..so I had him come to my house..he got half-way out of his car..saw me..got back in and left.laugh..Do you see what I mean about me being a "Mr. Wrong" magnet?..lol