Shadow, I'm sorry. We both mean that we make it clear we are not single and the guys that send mails don't care. Women send mail to my BF all the time, asking him to define just how unavailable he is.... Both genders do it.

Look up a couple post

Yes I know what your saying The internet is a little much when it comes down to men...

maybe I should put that I am taken in my profile and I will get someone interesting responding to mine ..

whatever happened to taking it as a compliment

and sending an e-mail saying

thanks but i am not available and then click the block button

not that hard is it

Its alright shadow. I understand.


Im also on okcupid.com... as is my beau.. and he also gets women messaging him asking which hours I work or if he's available to "host" an affair... like ahem, no. lol.

I also get a loooot of men interested in unfaithfulness since I have funky work hours, im home virtually all afternoon, while my bf works 8-4:30. its the perfect cheating scenario... and I find myself more irritated than flattered when a man says to me "You're really pretty.. why are you single?"

I just want to yell back "Dont pretend to be interested. you didnt even take the time to read my profile.. jerk face!" lol

Now lets get back to reality How many men actually read profiles and is just sending a compliment? out of 10 mayby 3

Want to have me privately send you some of what you might think is interesting?? Warning... very little puncuation is involved most of the time...

I actually firmed up my profile yesterday and hope it will help. I reply to the mails I do get with..."I'm sorry, you must have not read my profile. Please read it, and have a great day. "

that is not what i meant shadow

i meant that

they are interested in you

and think yer hot

that is a compliment

even if misguided

note the hit the block button in the post

it is how you take something that sets the tone

you can say cool a compliment

be happy

or

what a fn jerk can't they read

and be mad

either way it is up to the reader

i know you understand it Shadow, i was stating it to try to elaborate on someone else's post..to defer an arguement (it's lost now tho lo)



if YOU (in gerneral) knowingly persue or enter into a relationship (whether it be sexual or not) then YOU (again in GENERAL) are just as guilty as the person doing the 'cheating' and THAT is (or should be) considered MORALLY WRONG

If you are confidant in the relationship why worry about it!

Unless it is her/his flirting in return that bothers you, and you just find it easier to blame the stranger than the SO's flirtatous behavior.

Life is full of advantages to flirt while away from ones spouse. If it happens in front of you, you have a little awareness of it, but how many times does it happen while they are at work or the grocery store, etc.

If your friends do this I would just say what someone else said,
Get new friends...or respect the old-fashioned way.

When I hear folks worry about something like this I always think the same thought.
That person is not secure in their relationship.
Maybe its a Trust issue.

Shoes -- I'm not sure if that works -- I put that I'm taken in mine, and all I get are the same lookyloos and a bunch of walking sedatives....

I agree

well shadow you hit the nail on the head there love..it happens too much in my eyes..i hate deceitful people,liars,and fakes!! if your not happy in a relationship then walk away dont stay and be unfaithful to your partner!! i cant understand people doing this..i for one wouldnt and have never been unfaithful in my life..yet ive had it done to me!! my husband and i split up after being together for 7 yrs we were only married for 3 of those..its a long story but we split because hes ill and he didnt want me to be his carer..it was very sad and a decision that hurt us both.but during the last 3yrs of our marriage we had seperate beds because of his illness..therefore we didnt even have a marriage..but not once did i cheat or look else where..i just wouldnt out of respect for him!! even after we split it took me nearly 4 yrs to even kiss another man.i just cant understand players and liars..why do it..if your not happy walk away and let them find someone who will make them happy etc!!

I get tired of seeing the post where someone is asking if it's ok to pass the line in someone elses relationship. I mean WTH is wrong with you... In my life time i have to put a couple girls in there spot and made them feel like ****. Don't ever come to me and think ill disrespect my friends because ill make you look like a fool...

sounds like shes hanging around taking advantage of his kindness

I think we all kinda do that, but not meaning to or sometimes not knowing were doing it. They been friends for a long time and he knows where she stands. If you want her to know how you actually feel, as i told him. Then have a talk with her and if nothing becomes of it. At least you have the chance to express yourself and get it out of your system.

A dawg is a dawg is a dawg.........some people have no morals.....men and women!!! But then again if person A were doing that to person B with C then A and C will one day find......that they are both cheating on each other with other people........again!! ok did that make sense???

Yeah it did