My guy best friend, Mike, has a brother, Dan, who I have a crush on. Here are the most recent situations:

At a bar, a few of us, including Mike and Dan. Dan and I really had a great intelligent, fun conversation - quite refreshing!

Last weekend he came out with me and some friends to dinner. I was sitting next to him, and the flirting definitely increased. First of all, he thinks I'm HILARious which is incredibly awesome. :) We were scooting into our seats and I sort of ran into him 'cause I thought he was going to keep scooting and he was like "no, it's okay. you can sit right here" as he was patting his lap! It was obvious in the joking manner, but I still said "Don't you have a girlfriend?". Yes, he has a girlfriend. LAME. Let me tell you the rest though. So the rest of that night we were having a blast with each other and even shared a dessert. That was the jist of that night.

Last night, a group of us went out to dinner again. By the end of the night, he invited me to go fishing in a couple of weeks, go out to this 80s dance thing next week, and go out this weekend to go shopping for the 80s thing. He's buying one of our friend's tickets to the dance thing, and I was joking about if he feels generous he should buy my ticket, too. And he was like "Do you really want me to? 'Cause if I did, it would have to be a date." See? How can he NOT like me?

Obviously there is good and bad here. I definitely wouldn't go about anything with him still having a girlfriend. Plus, I would double-check with Mike to make sure he wouldn't care. It's just so rare to find an intelligent, funny, good-looking guy that you just get along with so greatly.

Any thoughts? I need some guidance!

-Becki

home wrecker!

i vote for bad idea...

mention this little tidbit of info to him and see how much attention you get after.

unless he's gay, he doesnt want to JUST be your friend no matter how much he says otherwise. he might settle for friendship, but i guarantee you its not plan A.

aside from the obvious problem of him already being in a relationship, if youre not going to give him any, dont waste your collective time.

this has alot of potential to get ugly, as well as alot of potential to be really hot and fun.

I say go out with him AFTER you are sure hes done with the girlfriend.

Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. Since we'll be seeing each other a few times just us, I'll be able to feel him out more. And perhaps get a chance to talk to him. I definitely don't want to give him the wrong impression. I'm absolutely not the "other woman" type.

"feel him out"?

you mean, see if he'll break up with his girlfriend for you?

think for a moment about how much he's flirting with you now... WHILE HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND. why would he show his new girlfriend (you) any more respect?

I wouldn't see him on a one to one basic,not as long as he has a girlfriend. On the other hand, continue with the 'group' situations and let him "see" you in that light. It may make him realize just how special a person you are. You never know.....

I didn't even have to read the post... just from the title I can tell you... it's a bad idea

I agree he shouldnt even be inviting or otherwise unless he is SINGLE

intelligent, funny, and good looking is why he has a gf in the first place let him be... you don't want to interfere in that.
What does your friend think? Does he like his brother's gf?

If you are willing to lose your best friend, then I say go for it.

Such things never end well for anyone. I'm afraid in this situation, the angst will most likely overide the happiness. You know it in your heart or you'd have not posted.

We can't give you permission to do what you know deep down, is wrong.

Good luck,

just have awesome secret sex and then act like it never happened.

no one is going to call you a slut except jealous women.

wow, I can't believe you're single

lol

You know this is a dating site.. right...? And that single women will be reading this sort of post?

Good luck, you're off to a stellar start, dude!

lmao i dont want to date women who will make snap judgements about my character over a 2 sentene post i made on an internet forum. so everyone wins

I mean just see if he's even interested in me like that. For all I know, he won't even call. Or perhaps when we go shopping this weekend he invites his friends including his girlfriend. I don't want to completely write him off as a bad guy before I really know what's going on. You know what I mean?

Ok whats wrong with this He has a girl and your playing with him. Where is the respect on your part? I hate to be the one to be an ass. But this is why **** goes wrong in relationships.