whoa!
I got bleeped!!!

that was D*i*c*k*h*e*a*d...lol...M.

just pickin' don't bann me!

Some of the crap they are censoring sucks.

Sorry to say that you CAN NOT TEACH RESPECT to your children if you do
not respect yourself. And it seems like the ex does not know what that
is - self respect.

Nerves, it seems that you are going to have to become more active in
your children's education and monitor their activities more.... and if
push come to shove, possibly take charge of them. Have you talked this
over with them.

Oh yes izzy! O so much!

Humm well first of all sounds like the girls was snooping were they
should not have been. There is nothing wrong with her having her toys as
you said you have them too and at least they do know now Mom uses
condoms. But the girls was wrong on the snooping part in the first place
hummm I say either suggest her go buy a small toolbox that has a key or
go buy her one yourself tell her it's a late x-mas gift and to please
hide the toys and while your at it get one for yours too. Now as far as
the Mom seems she is bringing more than one guy around cause she is
still looking for a certain one well, there is nothing you can do about
that but she should have more repect for herself an her girls not to do
that. I myself never let my kids meet any of the guys I dated untill I
had dated them for at least 2 months cause I did not want differnt men
in and out of my kids life but everyone is differnt about that. All you
can do is sit down and talk to her and explain how the girls feel about
her actions around them with other men. But... when it comes right down
to it there is nothing you can do but possible if you talk to her she
might actually see what she is doing to the girls and how they feel.

your children may also need to go to a socilogist or phsychiatrist, for
they may be confuse by the behavor patterns they have seen from their
mother.... remember "we are what our parents taught us." Don't know just
how much it has already affected them.

Their coming to you and telling you all this may be a cry for help!

then why would you wanna prove her unfit if she's not? and at certain
ages they can decide where they want to live. I have mine luckily my ex
IS unfit and she's always let them decide so I have never had to prove
it although I have tons of evidence I have hung on to just in case.

THE PROBLEM WITH KIDS THESE DAYS IS LACK OF MORALS, DUE TO THE LACK OF
COMMUNICATION AT THE FAMILY TABLE. IF I HAD A DAUGHTER SHE WOULD BE VERY
INVOLVED WITH SCHOOL AND CHURCH AND FAMILY.

JUST SAY NO TO RUBBER SCHLONGS.

I will have to say that my ex's morals were probably higher than mine,
when we were together. She was also involved in their scholastics too.
She even headed the bible quizzings for the church, of course I was
working 24/7 to keep up. But now I beleive my morals are at a much
higher standard than hers. Txs, true about the lock boxes. But, if I
have this conversation with my ex, the daughter is sure to catch hell,
no doubt. Everytime I try to tell the ex something' some what like this,
they catch hell. When first considering taking them from their mom,
their life was hell because they told her they wanted to live with me!
Damn memory getting short, thank god it's just my memory!!!!
Hahahaha

gettin old nerves... lol

Well nerves not sure about the laws were you are but in Texas once the
kids have reached a certain age you can go back to court and if they
want to live with the other parent the judge will award it you don't
have to prove the other unfit which is hard to do it comes down to what
the kids want but they have to be willing in front of a judge say they
want to go live with the other parent they do not have to discredit the
parent they don't want to live with the judges will ask them in chambers
and make his decisions so if you can not talk to her with out it coming
back on the girls I would say contact a lawyer if money is the issue
then you can call the DA's office they are the ones that handle the
child support and you can go through them for a cheaper cost they will
send you the paper work to fill out and they will after receiveing the
paper work back will get with you and have the case brought to court. In
order to use the DA's office you must not be in contact with a lawyer
ahout the same case. Other than that you will worry yourself to death or
step up to the plate and get the ball rolling. Wish you well in what
ever your decision is

Spay
What is with all the Yelling on here are you taking lessons from IAM on
that or did you just figure out that typing in all caps is just that
much more annoying?

NO KEVIN IM JUST TRYING TO BUGG YOU. I'M ON THIS WEBSITE AT WORK AND I
HAVE TO USE CAPS AT WORK

Nerves Talk with them to see what their understandins are in the matter
and talk to them about morals, and responsibuility as well. They will
always have their own opinion and it is not up to you to change it but
you may be able to explain it to them in a way that you don't say
anything bad about their mom yet they see the path thier mom taking is
not the same as the path you have chosen not that either is wrong even
if you believe the ex 's path is it is not for you to judge. At that
age a child should be focused on school but rarely are. That is the age
where kids are curious and start to become sexually active. Stay
involved and close with your children and always keep the communication
open no matter what the topic is. Be honest with them but never say bad
things about the other parent. Even if you believe they are true then
just dont say it at all.

Spay,
So you use caps for work. That doesn't mean you can't type normal as
your not actually working then if your talking on here anyhow. How hard
is it to press the key under the tab key when your going to be on this
site and tab over to yoru work if need be and hit that key one more
time. I mean heck it doesnt seem that hard to me. Oh BTW if your at work
what kind of an example are you showing for the others in here anyhow.
By stealing your time that your being paid for by the company for non
work related purposes. HE HE HE

KEVIN I GET PAID TO TYPE ON JSH

Oh so JSH is in your Job Description. I find that hard to believe.
Unless Vanchau is your boss. If that was the case you would already have
more athority on this site then a Moderator which is a Volunteer job
from what I read.

KEVIN CAN U BE QUIET ?

THANK U FOR YOUR COOPERATION

Ok.. I do not think that the SEX TALK to girls should be left just to
the MOTHER. What if the poor things do not HAVE a mother??? I think if
you are honest with them about sex and set your standards to your
children, you will be just fine.

As to your ex, I would tell her about what the girls found and to ask
her to put them in a different place. And then ask how come the girls
are snooping. There had to be a reason they went snooping in the first
place.

Then I would write everything down that happened. I do not think that
parents who are single, should exployt (SP) their sexual activies around
their children.... (just my opinon)They had to of seen or heard
something.

T

Having Toys does not make a person a HO, My daughter found mine when we
were moving and she opened the wrong box. Yes I turned red but I delt
with it as best as I could.