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DTHRomeo
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Sun 03/02/08 04:31 AM
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Do what it feels right to you
 Good luck girl  
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(((babygirl))) You need to do what your
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Everything in life is risky & takes effort.
Listen to that inner voice. Let your brain run your actions. (for men... the big brain) 
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And I'd like to try and break it. See when I start having deep feelings for someone. I start getting scared about the feelings and start thinking how I don't want to end up hurt. So what do I do? I try and break things off with the person.  This has been happening to me and I thought about this person all week and friday I sent him a message here telling him that I think we should not hang out anymore. He called me and told me to rethink things, cause he really liked me too. I just can't grasp this and I am terrified if I just let go and go with it, that I will wind up with a broken heart. What should I do? I kinda do the same thing but i don't let it get that far where i start feeling things i just get scared and RUN!! My mother mentioned this the other day and i denied it but at least i know i'm not alone.
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And I'd like to try and break it. See when I start having deep feelings for someone. I start getting scared about the feelings and start thinking how I don't want to end up hurt. So what do I do? I try and break things off with the person. This has been happening to me and I thought about this person all week and friday I sent him a message here telling him that I think we should not hang out anymore. He called me and told me to rethink things, cause he really liked me too. I just can't grasp this and I am terrified if I just let go and go with it, that I will wind up with a broken heart. What should I do? Welcome to my world...at least you don't find something wrong with every guy you go out with....  I've been told, for what it's worth...stop over thinking things and just have fun.... hahahaha right
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Thank you all for the advice. I'm going to screw my feelings and go for it.
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therapy?
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Do what I'm doing.... hang on to your hat, be completely honest, like you have here, and go with it... Worst than can happen? A broken heart... but it isn't broken, just a little bent... and they mend... true be that ............. love is a roller coaster ride for sure. Just keep your hands inside woot woot  |
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therapy?  Therapy for what? 
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therapy? Therapy for what? to help you discover why you are afraid of having someone love you...I had a similar "bad habit", as soon as someone got too close I would do something to make them leave and then boohoo about always being dumped, left, feeling rejected, etc.... Found a decent therapist, talked out some $hit, discovered stuff about myself I didn't really know was there and then was able to make better choices in my relationships and how to handle them. |
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therapy? Therapy for what? to help you discover why you are afraid of having someone love you...I had a similar "bad habit", as soon as someone got too close I would do something to make them leave and then boohoo about always being dumped, left, feeling rejected, etc.... Found a decent therapist, talked out some $hit, discovered stuff about myself I didn't really know was there and then was able to make better choices in my relationships and how to handle them. Well I understand what your saying, but I know why I have this bad habit. I don't need to spend money to know that. I just need to let go and break it and let this person in my life. I'm gonna try it.
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good luck...you deserve happiness....
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Thank you.
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ya Ive been there!!! Even tried to sabotage relationships all because I was scared of being "hurt".......hmmmmmmmm which is better??? being alone and not "hurt" or being with someone and the possibility of real love? You will have to weigh that one yourself....
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I wish there was a magic remity for truth and love,lol.
But we will NEVER find love if we don't TRY. And to TRY is to be at risk of hurt, BUT, what would you rather do? Try and be hurt, or NOT TRY and NEVER KNOW? ME, I don't ever want to PASS BY, the one who would be my all. So I will ALWAYS try, and be hurt, and try and be hurt,lol KNOWING that each hurt, allows me to learn, be held, and experience the spirit of another person. To LIVE, LAUGH, and TRY to LOVE. No one can SAVE another person's HEART from being HURT..  And no one can KNOW if its LOVE except YOU.
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If you don't give someone else the chance to break your heart, you are just breaking it yourself.
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i think you already know what to do....
some of the best poetry and songs were written from a 'broken (i like the bent idea someone posted) heart' still, keep in touch with your feelings cause they usually tell you how your thinking....in the meantime let that heart of yours flutter away... or time will tell.... |
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Nothing wrong with being cautious, but do not let FEAR make your decision for you.
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I think he is amazing. Luckily he is out of town and not posting on the board so he wont see this.  TY for the advice. Actually, I was thinkin ya might oughta talk to him about this little habit, let him know ya don't want it to happen with him. I think letting him know what's goin on inside your head might help you get passed it. Good Luck!
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