This online thing leaves everyone with so many options!

What are your views on declining meeting with someone you're somewhat interested in, in the hopes of meeting the "perfect" one?

What about ruling out someone you feel a connection to who lives "far away" hoping for the potential match in your area?

Gambling ...

that's very deep..........have to thin about that one

think i mean

last time I gambled I lost $10 and my GM keychain..

that is a female virus called "bbd" bigger better deal

There really isnt anyone around me.
Im going for distance.

This is one of the reasons I dislike internet dating. Toooo many options. Most people usually get online after the end of a relationship (maybe not right away, but before they're ready to date) and they find someone who is.

What happens next is a weird. They spend a lot of time talking, emailing, texting, blah blah blah, and they meet. Well, that person who isn't ready didn't feel the earth move, or the prospect of being in a relationship scares them, and they back off (they try to do this slowly, usually unsuccessfully) leaving the other party wondering 'what the hell did i do wrong??'.

The other phenomenon is the guy or girl who has 'attention overload'. The moment a new wink or email pops up, they can't seem to tear themselves away from the dating site.

I used to run a couple of dating sites, and I saw it all the time. A guy or girl would be carrying on deep 'getting to know you sessions' with 3 or 4 people, telling them all completely different versions of their lives.

After the date, they'd be on to the next 2 or 3. It's a never ending cycle.

People, if internet dating worked, there would only be two or three sites. They'd never make any money. I hate to sound cynical, but it's possibly the worst thing to happen to human relationships.

For me, the secret is to keep all options open. I am communicating with a wonderful gentleman who lives quite far away from me. I do not anticipate anything to come of it, besides a really good friendship.

However, this means I can talk to him about anything. And, who knows, maybe, slim chance, it could lead to something. If nothing else, I am gaining a wonderful friendship.

I do date men in my area though. I would prefer to find someone nearby.

There is no such thing as perfection. Otherwise the world would blow up.

Rtaylor is my new Messiah..thanks

why.....

does someone want to meet me????

how do you know they arent the perfect one if you dont meet them?

what does it hurt to try all the ones you're interested in... kinda like a salad bar.

If you're not fully interested in someone, it's not nice to let them think you think they're all that. I think if you're with someone, you should think they're awesome... and if you don't, figure out why and fix it! If it's not an easy fix, are they or were they ever right for you to begin with?

This isn't true for ALL internet dating, I've heard of a few real success stories outside of advertising... but yes, people that have been on the internet sooooo long have a hard time breaking from it and having face to face relationships... sad

Because when men try all the ones they're interested in, they become players, and then women tend to shy away from them.

Likewise when women tend to do it they become "whores" or "sluts".

If only our society wasn't the way it is, then maybe that could work.

<---just here for the free chips and dip.......and if something comes of it then fine but Im not actively looking..........maybe I should?

jeez I didn't say screw all of them.. lol I meant have a date with them!

Ohhh.... I wouldn't ever say anything is 'universal' but it's overwhelmingly true. If you could only be in a position to be a nosy ass landlord (as I was when I operated those sites) and saw the lies, deceit and general deception. Believe about 5% of what you hear.

Far away is far away... If neither can or are willing to move then meeting or not you'll have nothing in the end...