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Topic: what can i say to my ex bf?
scatter111 Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 12	Wed 02/27/08 05:02 PM
after my ex and i broke up a few weeks later we started hanging out/sleeping together, this lasted quite a few months until he decided it was time to go our seperate ways because he felt i was just using him for sex rather than trying to fix things up between us although he was the one to say he didnt want a relationship and out of all the options i layed out he only chose the sex......so now hes trying to talk to me again and wants to forgive and forget and try and move on and find a future for us......but i kinda feel like its going to slip into the same routine as last time considering he texts me at 11 at night asking me if i want to come over??? what can i say nicely in the best possible way that i wont sleep with him not at least i can see some kind of commitment happening or what can i say to suggest the possiblity of starting at the begginning and maybe date a while first to see if we should be trying to fix things at all this time????

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Wed 02/27/08 05:04 PM
Yikes!!

Derek_03 Joined Wed 01/02/08 Posts: 576	Wed 02/27/08 05:04 PM
uhhhhhhh.....Anyone??

irad8you Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 8261	Wed 02/27/08 05:04 PM


blondguy42 Joined Thu 12/13/07 Posts: 317	Wed 02/27/08 05:04 PM
Tell him how u feel, be honest and up front with him.

brian325 Joined Fri 10/05/07 Posts: 4132	Wed 02/27/08 05:04 PM
just tell him you've found another blue box

irad8you Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 8261	Wed 02/27/08 05:05 PM
buy a jeep lol

curios789 Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 3156	Wed 02/27/08 05:05 PM
Buy a gun.

Derek_03 Joined Wed 01/02/08 Posts: 576	Wed 02/27/08 05:05 PM
buy a jeep lol yea... and a sombrero... that usually fixes stuff....

irad8you Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 8261	Wed 02/27/08 05:06 PM
buy a jeep lol yea... and a sombrero... that usually fixes stuff....

consumer1346 Joined Mon 12/31/07 Posts: 5	Wed 02/27/08 05:06 PM
Maybe you could tell him that you will give it a try for a period of time without any sex involved. This way you all can get to know each other without sex complicating the situation. If he won't go for this, you will know he is between relationships and just wants you as a late night butty call. If you want to end it, just tell him nicely that you don't think this is going to work and you want to be friends only.

fall2grace Joined Wed 02/13/08 Posts: 100	Wed 02/27/08 05:06 PM
after my ex and i broke up a few weeks later we started hanging out/sleeping together, this lasted quite a few months until he decided it was time to go our seperate ways because he felt i was just using him for sex rather than trying to fix things up between us although he was the one to say he didnt want a relationship and out of all the options i layed out he only chose the sex......so now hes trying to talk to me again and wants to forgive and forget and try and move on and find a future for us......but i kinda feel like its going to slip into the same routine as last time considering he texts me at 11 at night asking me if i want to come over??? what can i say nicely in the best possible way that i wont sleep with him not at least i can see some kind of commitment happening or what can i say to suggest the possiblity of starting at the begginning and maybe date a while first to see if we should be trying to fix things at all this time???? unfortunately I feel that an ex is an ex for a reason - going back is going back to the same thing ... sorry!

Derek_03 Joined Wed 01/02/08 Posts: 576	Wed 02/27/08 05:07 PM
buy a jeep lol yea... and a sombrero... that usually fixes stuff.... Dude.... we are AWESOME help!!!

Derek_03 Joined Wed 01/02/08 Posts: 576	Wed 02/27/08 05:07 PM
buy a jeep lol yea... and a sombrero... that usually fixes stuff.... Dude.... we are AWESOME help!!!

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Wed 02/27/08 05:07 PM
after my ex and i broke up a few weeks later we started hanging out/sleeping together, this lasted quite a few months until he decided it was time to go our seperate ways because he felt i was just using him for sex rather than trying to fix things up between us although he was the one to say he didnt want a relationship and out of all the options i layed out he only chose the sex......so now hes trying to talk to me again and wants to forgive and forget and try and move on and find a future for us......but i kinda feel like its going to slip into the same routine as last time considering he texts me at 11 at night asking me if i want to come over??? what can i say nicely in the best possible way that i wont sleep with him not at least i can see some kind of commitment happening or what can i say to suggest the possiblity of starting at the begginning and maybe date a while first to see if we should be trying to fix things at all this time???? weird...........

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Wed 02/27/08 05:07 PM
GUYS!!!! You should be able to see thru your own gender's BS ..... why you actin' so dense. I'm disappointed here ................. waiting for the men to help this chica

fall2grace Joined Wed 02/13/08 Posts: 100	Wed 02/27/08 05:07 PM
Tell him how u feel, be honest and up front with him. yes honesty is the best policy

irad8you Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 8261	Wed 02/27/08 05:07 PM
buy a jeep lol yea... and a sombrero... that usually fixes stuff.... Dude.... we are AWESOME help!!! yes we are lol

Pjinkysmom63 Joined Tue 11/13/07 Posts: 331	Wed 02/27/08 05:08 PM
Tell him you're allergic.....to him

Derek_03 Joined Wed 01/02/08 Posts: 576	Wed 02/27/08 05:08 PM
sorry.... im asham ed....