it's a ying and yang thing. she yinged and you yanged.

Johnny Cochran says,

"if the ying don't fit that's the end of it"

I was playing a little game. And it completely back fired on me. I know why i did it but didn't think about being 31 and not 15 again . It was immature and childish for me to do that. But, I was stressed out about a situation also and had less then 4 hours of sleep to. I wasn't thinking ...like I said.

One thing you said that kinda bothers me. You said you went out of your way and said that like you were trying to hard. Women do not like that. There is a thing called to much giving and that can turn a women away. As far as just getting up and moving on one a small situation, I would of talke first and actually see where you stand. I guess it's the old think befoe you take action...

You "played a little game" because you didn't get your way. You need to accept that part of it. You removed your stuff because she was doing her own thing..and wouldn't see you when you wanted her too. I realize you gave her everything and expected this "little" thing in return...but seriously....I feel that the error was on your part..not on hers. How can she count on YOU to still be there when something major happens when you leave at something so minor. Yes....you apologized..but actions scream...while words just whisper.

well i wasn't going out of my way at the time...I was just doing stuff that made me feel good. Because i was doing them for her and she liked it. I didnt start saying I went out of my way for her until after .I realized how much I had actually done for her . It is a after thought, not a thought I was thinking at the time.

Learn and move on

So now you know it's not cool to play those games... I think the ball is in your court to make a second try or to walk away and move on...

See this is whr her thought is....... MAN it is not that... It isn't that she wouldn't see me!! It is because she said I wasn't any diffrent from any other guy. That no guy was coming between her and her friend. I didn't want to ruin the night .I didn't even want to leave . But i was far from normal and I didn't feel apreciated about the situation. And I wasn't worth her stopping by for 5 minutes. I was stressed out .My Tax lady had made huge mistake .It was far from little to me. I thought i was going to jail saturday night. I needed her and she let me down!!!

You said that you were game playing? In a real loving relationship, games can not be played my friend because they will back fire on you and then you will loose!
Heres my opinion on the whole matter....You were the one who totally freaked out, not her. To me, you reacted like a spoiled child running and getting all of your stuff out of her house. If I can't be with you then I don't want to play with you anymore..you can't act that way, you are suppose to be in a loving relationship. What the hell is wrong with you?
Now she sounds like a witch that is not willing to give back in the relationship. She sounds like someone who is only taking, and you are giving and giving!!
BOTH people have to be willing to give, no relationship is going to survive if its one sided. You can not keep trying to make this relationship better because your other relationships failed. Just be you!! If she can't love you for the way you are, then its never going to work...you can not keep doing the things you are doing UNLESS this is really how you are.
DON'T MAKE SOMEONE A PRIORITY WHO ONLY MAKES YOU AN OPTION! If you are not number one on her list, then she is not really worth your time.

How often did she go out with her friends .. and your tax lady made a mistake .. a lot of men control with all kinds of little things .. Something always happens when the woman is out having a life ..

No....you let yourself down. You "expected" her to stop what she was doing just for you. And she didn't. You "expected" it because of all you had done for her in the past. 5 minutes of her time...would not have saved you from your stress. And...frankly...listening to you whine about your troubles may have put a damper on her fun evening.

I personally would be smothered, why knowing she had plans do you want 5 mins??? during the time she was going to spend w/friends. jmo

I work in accounting and truly doubt a mistake would warrant such rapid response from the IRS to jail you that Saturday. Think maybe you may be exaggerating just a tad.

You didnt "need" her, you "wanted" her, big difference.

jmo

owell I will chalk it up as a loss.. because I have tried to talk to her. I don't know what to do . All you ladies say the same thing she said. if i react that way to that .How am I going to react to something big?

Well ok ladies ...What do i do to fix it ??? I don't want to give up..Do I have a choice??

Why would you go to jail over a mistake by your tax lady? In the heat of the moment people say things.. She said you were like every other guy and you packed your sh!t and left.. All heat of the moment reactions.. The thing is a stable/mature relationship people don't do that.. they may yell, say things whatever but if they REALLY love each other it doesn't end just b/c of those small things.. But a couple of months isn't enough time to build something that strong unless both are serious about how they feel and willing to work on it... I think you need to take a bit of time and think about how you contributed to this situation rather than just feeling let down.. It takes 2 to make things work and usually in one way or another 2 to ruin things..

it was from 2006 and it was a 25,000.00 tax right off. I do not know the details but . I had a phone call from them . If your in acounting you know how big of a offense tax evasion is.

You can't "fix" a relationship. There's no magic band aid. You need to admit to her that you may have been the one at fault. Then...give her time and space. If she really loves you and wants it to work, you'll know. If not..there's nothing you can do but chalk it up to a learning experience and move on.

not getting into ur tax offenses (nmb) but I do find it very convenient that, on that particular day she had plans just so happens was the day you were to be arrested... very convenient

listen I wish you luck in getting back w/her; not getting back with her; with the IRS; you posted and I responded, mind you I did mention it was my opinion. Good luck

ok i will do that .thank you all for your advise. Iam glad their are people like you around to smak me in the head when I have really messed up .

Oh there are lots of us...

You have to understand something, maybe she feels that you are like other men? You are the one saying that you are not like other men...ask her how she feels about you! Women are very funny about men invading their space..I have seen that many times. Now if I was dating someone and they called, I would go and be with them...BUT my friends are the kind that would say HEY ITS GIRLS NIGHT OUT, DON'T CALL AGAIN!!!
Have you ever thought that maybe she felt like you were being selfish? Men do have that tendency to be selfish and think me, me, me!! Sometimes it not just about you..and obviously she thought that way that night.