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I took him shopping, and bought him two new pairs of jeans with his permission. I explained gently that someone was going to say something mean if he continued to dress like that. I told him that it was physically unhealthy (tight pants can lead to epididymitis *which he once had*, back problems, and decreases blood flow to vital organs. Very set in his ways, the next time I saw him, he was wearing the jeans that I bought for him, but the were pulled up right next to the "boys" and his belt was cinched to make his waistband resemble a purse string. When I said something about it, he said "drop it". I dropped the relationship.
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The moment you feel as though he misrepresented himself and was not receptive to your feedback. That is long enough. 
Hiya lilith, question re your comment, receptive to your feedback, what did you mean? while I admit his attire may have been a little amusing to say the least, were you referring to his inability to change due to suggestions? just asking Fran~ Let me explain? What I was referring to the OP's comment about dropping subtle hints. I was taking her post to mean hints about the ex, his self-esteem issues, and most importantly his being under the impression he possessed traits he did not have and was therefore misleading to this nice lady. His inability to discuss these issues with her, and to be openminded, is where I draw the line. In my relationships, I like to talk about such things. I'm not perfect, I'm not an island, and I appreciate feedback both positive and constructive. To start a relationship in defense and fantasy mode isn't the best. Self-awareness and the willingness to be self-aware is what I mean, I suppose.
Did that make sense? I agree and it definitely made sense - sorry I thought you like some on this thread were only referring to his outer appearance and attire. Figured the only way to know was to ask. Thanks
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Anytime Fran- always a pleasure to post with you.
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LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO THIS THREAD IS KILLING ME!!!
<-------FALLS OUT OF HER CHAIR!!!
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I took him shopping, and bought him two new pairs of jeans with his permission. I explained gently that someone was going to say something mean if he continued to dress like that. I told him that it was physically unhealthy (tight pants can lead to epididymitis *which he once had*, back problems, and decreases blood flow to vital organs. Very set in his ways, the next time I saw him, he was wearing the jeans that I bought for him, but the were pulled up right next to the "boys" and his belt was cinched to make his waistband resemble a purse string. When I said something about it, he said "drop it". I dropped the relationship. Oh, what a vision - "Pants pulled up to the "boys" and belt cinched to make his waistband resemble a purse string."
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Edited by
Monier
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Mon 02/25/08 11:52 AM
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gatorgirl,
Some people just are'nt receptive to suggestions and take offense easy, even if the advice is in their best interest. I've been in those situations before when a close friend would nag about seeing a doctor for a sprain etc. Maybe I wanted to 'tough it out' or some other male reason, but I just did'nt want to deal with talking about it, let alone being told by somebody I just met. It's being pretty stubborn, but it's an uncomfortable area. I'm sure this guy needed some good friendly advice, but at that point, his ego may have been embarassed, and friend was as far as it was going. |
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False advertisement!! That's like fake boobs..
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I took him shopping, and bought him two new pairs of jeans with his permission. I explained gently that someone was going to say something mean if he continued to dress like that. I told him that it was physically unhealthy (tight pants can lead to epididymitis *which he once had*, back problems, and decreases blood flow to vital organs. Very set in his ways, the next time I saw him, he was wearing the jeans that I bought for him, but the were pulled up right next to the "boys" and his belt was cinched to make his waistband resemble a purse string. When I said something about it, he said "drop it". I dropped the relationship.  I Don't blame you...DROP-IT, is cold to say to someone even if joking...little demanding to me....
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I'm feeling some tight pants in here......
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Now I'm wondering if he wore a thong, too...?
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I realize that everyone thinks this is very funny. Perhaps if it had not happened to me, I would as well. The amount of pointing and laughing that has gone on here is just what I feared would happen in reality while we were out, requiring me to go on the defensive if someone disrespected my guy.
My friends met him and the first thing they said was please take him shopping, and slip him a mickey so that he loosens up. I found all of that very shallow. My friends know me to be someone that is very accepting of the differences in people. My last boyfriend needed "Garanimals in order to dress appropriately. (You know, Monkeys match monkeys and giraffes match giraffes) I was with him for 8.5 years. It was a running joke amongst our friends and he too found it funny. That's not why I broke up with him though. No amount of clothing can cover the fact that someone is an ass****. I am not a shallow person, as evidenced by the fact that he got 4 months of my time. Everyone has, I think, an idealized view of themselves. It takes time for things to come out. Insecurity, battering behaviors, and things like this are not apparent at first glance. Some people are very crafty at disguising such things. Eventually, our true characteristics come out. |
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tiger print!!!
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Gonchies!!!ahahaaaaaaaaaa!!!
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Edited by
Monier
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Mon 02/25/08 12:08 PM
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I could never do the tight pants thing, Khakis all the way.
Comfort > Image |
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" Banana Hammock "...
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" Banana Hammock "...
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Well there is ALOT to be said about SPANDEX JEANS.....
And TOPS,,,,,wow,,,,,lol  
I like to COVER their eyes with my personality. And uncover their hearts with their minds. But, im a little nuts to...  
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He was hung up on numbers. He wanted to have a 32 inch waist because he said the norm is an ten inch drop between chest and waist measurements. His view of himself was askew. My son, who is 6'1" and weighs 180, athletic build, and not into the whole droopy pants thing can't wear a 32 inch waist.
I threatened to go buy my very own camel toe if he was so set in his ways. Pretty juvenile I know. |
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He was hung up on numbers. He wanted to have a 32 inch waist because he said the norm is an ten inch drop between chest and waist measurements. His view of himself was askew. My son, who is 6'1" and weighs 180, athletic build, and not into the whole droopy pants thing can't wear a 32 inch waist. I threatened to go buy my very own camel toe if he was so set in his ways. Pretty juvenile I know.
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