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Edited by
celticpride0280
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I find the worlds biggest turnoff is to take someone on a dinner date and she feels comfortable enough to ruin the dinner and the mood by dumping all her overdramatized problems she's ignorantly gotten herself into her whole life and is not smart enough to get herself out of. Even worse is if she starts talking about her freinds problems who are people I don't know, don't care to know, are irrelevant to the conversation at hand and in most aspects make no sense. I live in the now tangible real world. I want to know what positive accomplishments and contributions you've made in your life and what ones you will make in your future. I could give a flying f*ck rats as* less about your girlfreinds cousins husband cheating on her and his drinking problem. Drama? No thanks. Biker~ I had a date not so unlike that...with a guy. He talked all night about how everyone had done him wrong, friends, family, exes. He also talked about why he refuses to have a cell phone, that he is paranoid to check his personal e-mail at work, people are too materialistic, and too judgmental, blah blah blah. He whined and bytched for so long I wanted to stab myself in the eye with my fork just to end it. And then when I told him, via e-mail, that we were so not right for each other, he bashed me too in a series of long bytch fest style streams of verbal diarrhea, until I finally had to block him. I feel you on that one. Seems like they might have a love match?  |
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I have changed my whole life so I can live in a drama free zone and I love it! And I deserve it! And I enjoy it! But I will always be one to lesten and try and help someone in my life who is LIVING OUT A DRAMA. But with my kids grown and living very happy with life NOW, another one who is depressed, over reactive, BI-POLAR, Manic, or TWO people,...I would rather STAY,,where im at,,alone and hassle free...   
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Celtric~ Nope. Not one inkling. Happy and cheery as could be. But he was a local, so really I did not spend too much time with him on the phone. His profile was all about music, art, his passion for reading and his open-minded loving personality... blah BS blah blah blah...
I prefer to meet people right away (Or rather I did when I was single) so that I got a sense of who they really were. As we all know, the Internet gives people the ability to hide things. After awhile, I had so many bad dates I viewed them as entertainment for my friends. But this one in particular was pretty excrutiating. But hey, I got this story, right? 
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Edited by
Winx
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Mon 02/25/08 09:57 AM
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I find the worlds biggest turnoff is to take someone on a dinner date and she feels comfortable enough to ruin the dinner and the mood by dumping all her overdramatized problems she's ignorantly gotten herself into her whole life and is not smart enough to get herself out of. Even worse is if she starts talking about her freinds problems who are people I don't know, don't care to know, are irrelevant to the conversation at hand and in most aspects make no sense. I live in the now tangible real world. I want to know what positive accomplishments and contributions you've made in your life and what ones you will make in your future. I could give a flying f*ck rats as* less about your girlfreinds cousins husband cheating on her and his drinking problem. Drama? No thanks. Biker~ I had a date not so unlike that...with a guy. He talked all night about how everyone had done him wrong, friends, family, exes. He also talked about why he refuses to have a cell phone, that he is paranoid to check his personal e-mail at work, people are too materialistic, and too judgmental, blah blah blah. He whined and bytched for so long I wanted to stab myself in the eye with my fork just to end it. And then when I told him, via e-mail, that we were so not right for each other, he bashed me too in a series of long bytch fest style streams of verbal diarrhea, until I finally had to block him. I feel you on that one. Seems like they might have a love match? I actually started dating someone like that this summer. He fooled me at first. Very nice and attractive. Then a month into it...complain, complain, negativity. He liked me and still was nice to me. But...the phone conversations  . He was getting serious about me. But..I always look at the glass as half filled.
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My favorite personal experience was the gal who told me over dinner about watching a news report on a truck wreck. Her ex husband drove tanker truck and as she watched the footage of the cab blazing: "I kept trying to see the name on the side of the truck. I was hoping and hoping it was his!" I made light of the comment then referenced it a moment later saying something about "We joke about things like that but..." She assured me she was VERY serious. Yeah, I didn't give her my forwarding address. |
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I discovered a long time ago what cures drama and the need for senseless stressful drama in your life. ANSWER? Serve in combat in the armed forces. When you return home after combat you really could give a flying f*ck rats as* less about someones girlfreinds sisters husband cheating on her. The world becomes clearer. Your drama becomes I wonder where all are the fish biting at? Your drama becomes hey I bet all the girls would like dairy queen after their girl scout meeting. Your drama becomes hey I bet those people could use an extra hand at the soup kitchen for a few hours. You enjoy life a little more and respect it a lot more.
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Yeah, I didn't give her my forwarding address. AD.... dating is so uplifting at times, isn't it? On the positive side we get these hysterical moments to share.
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Drama to me is having an ex wife that can't let go. Or maybe you can't let go of an ex wife or a girlfriend. If someone constantly calls you or comes over and you argue, thats drama. Who really wants drama in their life when you can have a nice quiet life?
So listen up, if you think its great that women can't get over you and they actually keep calling you...its not great at all!! Get rid of the past baggage before you move on to the new relationships. Why should the new woman have to deal with the old one??? 
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I'm glad I'm not the only one who has had these drama experiences. I've got male freinds who do the same and strive for drama and attempt to put me in the middle. I can't do it. And I'm not kidding about the drama free zone. I don't even own nor will own a television. Sorry. I'm a hands on person. I'm never bored. Life is so full of grand things to see, do and experience. Drama is a senseless obstacle.
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Yep, A bigger boat and a dog are sounding better all the time. Now the only drama.......one down riggor or two? Electric or manual? Hummmmm and the dog? Shall I go with a Lab/ Golden retriever mix like my last dog? Or something else?
I think Ghostrider hit the nail on the head. Drama is only caring about what is going on in your life and not any thing else. Well, who would want to be with a person that doesn't care what is going on in their life? I thought the reason you want a mate is so you have emotional support and all that other stuff. If you can't handle drama you just don't want to open your heart to others. |
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to me drama is just someone wanting to cause trouble or chaos. People that crave drama have little or no lives and have to create their own Jerry Springer Show...I'm just here for the beads
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Hear Hear Biker~
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And now you know why when in the movie 'The 40 year old virgin' they had the scene where he was speed dating all those colorful women characters I was on the floor, pissed my pants, tears pouring out of my eyes, laughing hysterically. Because I can relate to the psycho drama. I've been there.
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Yeah Lilith, I've heard some dating stories that were hysterical and terrifying at the same time. Now THERE is an idea for a great thread huh? Hey LHB, did you see the link to the youtube video I posted the other day? Thread title something like "I don't normally do this" What you were saying earlier about priorities reminded me of that guy. Maybe I'll find it and bump it back to the top. It's worth a watch. And your comment about being dragged into the middle? Isn't it funny how irate those people get when you refuse to participate? Somehow now it's become YOUR fault. |
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Yes my phone call last night was an aggrivation of futility. She was unable to understand why laws are in effect to protect others and deter lawlessness. Selling meth to an undercover cop, losing her children, her job, her car, her home, going to prison, huge fines, court ordered rehab didn't help her attitude. She's mad and upset because she's on parole and can't leave the state without the judges written consent (whom she's played so much and argued with that he can't stand her) to go to her sons high school graduation. She feels its unfair to be on parole and she doesn't deserve it and that she's going to go anyway against the judges orders because she's right an the judge is wrong. I told her that there is a pattern here of 'I fought the law and the law won' your whole life and until you change your mindset and follow the rules and laws you are stubbornly wasting your life away intentionally getting in trouble to the point of being downright ignorant and that if you are not going to take advice and keep doing this "its not fair so I'm going to do whatever I feel like doing" mentality you have doomed yourself from the start. Then she made a comment out of anger and hung up on me.
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Edited by
Danette_Giavanna
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Mon 02/25/08 11:14 AM
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Mine is I don't want no baby mamma drama, or deal with that nutty ex-wife or ex-girlfriend...Don't need my car keyed again and my tires slashed...
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It's a little amusing how the farther out in the deep water they are the more they blame the people on the beach. |
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And this same woman asked me why I won't be in or consider being in a relationship with her. I told her "Because you are a f*cking idiot whose life revolves around self inflicted drama and I don't want to spend the rest of my life bailing you out of jail, paying fines and court fees, lawyer fees, and all your other bullsh!t because you feel you were right and everyone else was wrong little miss felony. I have a life to live and celebrate and love."
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Yes my phone call last night was an aggrivation of futility. She was unable to understand why laws are in effect to protect others and deter lawlessness. Selling meth to an undercover cop, losing her children, her job, her car, her home, going to prison, huge fines, court ordered rehab didn't help her attitude. She's mad and upset because she's on parole and can't leave the state without the judges written consent (whom she's played so much and argued with that he can't stand her) to go to her sons high school graduation. She feels its unfair to be on parole and she doesn't deserve it and that she's going to go anyway against the judges orders because she's right an the judge is wrong. I told her that there is a pattern here of 'I fought the law and the law won' your whole life and until you change your mindset and follow the rules and laws you are stubbornly wasting your life away intentionally getting in trouble to the point of being downright ignorant and that if you are not going to take advice and keep doing this "its not fair so I'm going to do whatever I feel like doing" mentality you have doomed yourself from the start. Then she made a comment out of anger and hung up on me. When they don't understand the consequences - it's all about denial. Was she using meth? The re-wiring of a brain from meth might be causing her to not understand. It takes a long time to get the brain functioning correctly again and still not might get 100% of it back. I ask that because using addicts and addicts in early recovery have the "I'll do whatever I feel like doing" mentality. |
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Yes my phone call last night was an aggrivation of futility. She was unable to understand why laws are in effect to protect others and deter lawlessness. Selling meth to an undercover cop, losing her children, her job, her car, her home, going to prison, huge fines, court ordered rehab didn't help her attitude. She's mad and upset because she's on parole and can't leave the state without the judges written consent (whom she's played so much and argued with that he can't stand her) to go to her sons high school graduation. She feels its unfair to be on parole and she doesn't deserve it and that she's going to go anyway against the judges orders because she's right an the judge is wrong. I told her that there is a pattern here of 'I fought the law and the law won' your whole life and until you change your mindset and follow the rules and laws you are stubbornly wasting your life away intentionally getting in trouble to the point of being downright ignorant and that if you are not going to take advice and keep doing this "its not fair so I'm going to do whatever I feel like doing" mentality you have doomed yourself from the start. Then she made a comment out of anger and hung up on me. I guess I would consider that not under drama but more under someone being irresponsible .. another good reason to not date people that do drugs or that have been in prison ... |
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