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Topic: I need a break
cutelildevilsmom's photo
Sun 02/24/08 03:02 PM
I think sometimes being a single parent can be disillusioning.We all have this idea of what we want things to be and when they don't meet our expectations we feel let down.
like when the child crys thru their birthday party or acts like an ass in public.I have raised my son alone for the last6 yrs and my break is work.My son has ADHD and never shuts up or stays still.I'm usually too pooped to pop most days
I will say though the best thing ever invented was gameboy!!only thing that keeps him quiet for a time.
try joining parents without partners.they have field trips and such.chapters all over too.If all that fails slip the kid some benadryl..jk laugh

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Sun 02/24/08 05:21 PM
Kitten I would watch him for a day if I could, but it would take me 2 days to get there. All moms feel like this at times, even the ones who won't admit it. I didn't have anyone to give me a break either. A hot bath was a vacation in those days!

Mine is 25 now & I just bought a red sports car yesterday! Your day will come sweetie. :heart: flowerforyou *big hug*

cherryxxangel89's photo
Sun 02/24/08 06:47 PM
for me when i was a baby i slept during the day making me want to wake up durring nights wont you not let the baby have naps and he will sleep alnight

Shaden's photo
Sun 02/24/08 06:54 PM
Edited by Shaden on Sun 02/24/08 06:55 PM
Been there, still there. Due to health problems my daughter hasn't slept through the night, once, in her 16 and a half years of life. I've gotten used to it, but every once in while it's a hair pulling one. She's such a sweetheart, it's easy to just laugh at it most times, thankfully.

flowerforyou

DJicey's photo
Mon 02/25/08 02:49 AM
u sill awake

hellkitten54's photo
Mon 02/25/08 03:08 AM
Thank you all for your support and encouragement. When I go to bed at night and look at him sleeping, I know it is all worth my stressed out life. He is an angel and Im very lucky to have him.:heart: :heart:

hellkitten54's photo
Mon 02/25/08 03:08 AM

u sill awake

huh huh

hellkitten54's photo
Mon 02/25/08 10:13 AM

for me when i was a baby i slept during the day making me want to wake up durring nights wont you not let the baby have naps and he will sleep alnight


There are reasons children take naps. :wink:

franshade's photo
Mon 02/25/08 10:19 AM
Raising and caring for children is a 24 hr job; but it does get better.

What is the reason he gets up at 3am? bathroom, scared etc.

We all need to get away every-so-often for our own sakes; wish I could help, hell i'd babysit for a couple of hours flowerforyou


hellkitten54's photo
Mon 02/25/08 10:28 AM
He is 11 months old and wakes up to play or eat. ohwell

franshade's photo
Mon 02/25/08 10:30 AM
sorry to hear that, never had that problem mine slept all thru the night since birth (now 22).

hellkitten54's photo
Mon 02/25/08 10:32 AM
he was sleeping through the night, til he started getting sick back in November. I feel as though he hasn't had a good night's sleep since then, so he might be used to it. I have tried everything to get a better schedule, but no matter what time I put him to bed ( 5 pm or 10 pm) he still wakes up.yawn

1956CLEO's photo
Mon 02/25/08 10:35 AM
Edited by 1956CLEO on Mon 02/25/08 10:42 AM

Hello, I am new to this thing, but...
I have two girls and have had the same problem as you.
how old is he?
you know I tried everything. First of all, relax.
You love him and he knows that. sometimes if you give them a little of the unexpected it can go a long way.
When one on mine would cry and need so much all the time, I sould sometimes catch her completely off guard. I would start crying too. And I would get louder, and louder and louder. She would look t me like I lost my mind. But, she stopped. I would smile at the and cuddle her and told her we both needed that. Then lay down and hold her till she went to sleep. Usually, it was all three of us going to sleep. You can always move him to his place later. Do what you have to, to get some rest.

Another thing you may try is to find someone who has a child close to his age, and start visiting them. Hopefully, you both with hit it off and can provide child care for each other. If only for 1 hour a day. That is what I did, I went out looking for mothers in my neighborhood and started talking, asked if they would be interested in arranging a play date and then go from there.

Good luck to you and my prayers are with you. It is not easy alone, and it will never be easy. If you want to talk and exchange ideas. I am here, I will help in any way I can.

Good Luck and let Calgon take you away anytime you get a minute.



So beautiful and such great advice, this is the best way, empathize with your child. They don't fully understand, but it makes them think, mommy has tears too! Laying together and cuddling is the best!!! Try to keep up a good attitude it pays off later, abundantly!!! Life's hard on everyone and we have to help younger children to keep a good attitude when the chips are down, it could prevent some serious problems in the future. CHIN UP!!!:heart:

I am currently assisting my daughter raising my grandaughter and I'll tell you I don't feel like it everyday! I know our young ones need a break and I wish there were someone to help all in need. These babies are our future, what you put in (or not), you get back exponentially. So be very careful!

scotty1964's photo
Mon 02/25/08 10:51 AM

i love hellkittenn

madamx7316's photo
Mon 02/25/08 10:54 AM
feeling overwelmed is a normal feeling. i dont care what anyone says, unless they have walked a mile in your shoes, they've no room to judge. i love my daughter with every ounce in me. she is going on 20. i did it all alone!!! no family, friends, father, etc.... hard? hell yes!!! times i wanted to give up? hell yes!!! times i wanted to freak the hell out? oh hell yes!!! we as women (and men in the same situation) do what we have to do because .... we have to! i wish you luck darlin...hold you head high and definately seek some support group! xoxooxoxo

Shaden's photo
Mon 02/25/08 12:24 PM

feeling overwelmed is a normal feeling. i dont care what anyone says, unless they have walked a mile in your shoes, they've no room to judge. i love my daughter with every ounce in me. she is going on 20. i did it all alone!!! no family, friends, father, etc.... hard? hell yes!!! times i wanted to give up? hell yes!!! times i wanted to freak the hell out? oh hell yes!!! we as women (and men in the same situation) do what we have to do because .... we have to! i wish you luck darlin...hold you head high and definately seek some support group! xoxooxoxo


A lady who speaks the truth..been there, still there & everyone deserves a bit of a bad day syndrome here and there. Sleep deprivation changes perspective. Most kids grow out of the sleepless times, but then there are the teens. Those are the real fun ones. grumble Gotta take more peeks of them, whilst sleeping.
flowerforyou

madamx7316's photo
Mon 02/25/08 01:18 PM


feeling overwelmed is a normal feeling. i dont care what anyone says, unless they have walked a mile in your shoes, they've no room to judge. i love my daughter with every ounce in me. she is going on 20. i did it all alone!!! no family, friends, father, etc.... hard? hell yes!!! times i wanted to give up? hell yes!!! times i wanted to freak the hell out? oh hell yes!!! we as women (and men in the same situation) do what we have to do because .... we have to! i wish you luck darlin...hold you head high and definately seek some support group! xoxooxoxo


A lady who speaks the truth..been there, still there & everyone deserves a bit of a bad day syndrome here and there. Sleep deprivation changes perspective. Most kids grow out of the sleepless times, but then there are the teens. Those are the real fun ones. grumble Gotta take more peeks of them, whilst sleeping.
flowerforyou



shaden i just love you darlin! xoxoxo flowerforyou

Shaden's photo
Mon 02/25/08 01:48 PM
Thanks, Madamx
Back at cha flowerforyou

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Mon 02/25/08 02:38 PM
Put an add in the paper for respite care(and check references).

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