You here of eternal love..I did see it happen.When a man had to bury his wife here at one of the graveyards close to my home,For years he came by & tended her grave site..planted flowers,Put up a little fence and a stone bench..would just sit there for hours each day..Sometime a friend would come & join him at some point. But for the most part he sat alone.But alas..He stopped coming so oft,He got sickly I guess,Then not at all.til the day they laid him beside her.where he would never have to leave her side again...

I have!!!! I dont go out anymore.......I hide in my house......much safer there!!!

I told myself there would never be another ewe....But with a smile like that

both men and women grieve... they just grieve differently. It's not at all fair to say one or the other hurts more or less.

NOW "THATS" what im talkin bout and livin for...lol GREAT thought of real love of two hearts.

I agree Jill,we just grieve,in different ways,and handle it differently,in our actions...Some have more strength then others..But it works both ways ying & yang

thanks IAM.. I love the song by Shenandoah-I want to be loved like that..this was both sad & beautiful to see at the same time,,Just like he couldn't or didn't want to go on without out..

That is a beautiful song, and I love almost any love song good or bad,lol...

aw yes thats mostly what I listen to..

I think it depends on the reason the relationship ended, as to who grieves more and not gender based. Either way it's sad but in time most move on. Note to self--get moving on.

ya and looking at me......

I must admit I've been doing that too, but I'm going to make myself go out..just want to start slowly.

To courage, hope and moving on.

spring is a great time to break the hermit cycle....

I don't like to go out much when its so cold....

spring thru fall...I love being out...

My daughter is having surgery next month, so after her recouperation process, I'm making myself go. Spring feels promising. Well nite, it's some extremely late or almost morning here.

i think that it depends on what emotional connection each person has to the relationship. if you have already decided it's done and you need to get out, then it doesn't hurt so bad than if you are deeply head-over-heels in love.

it also depends on personality and the many other things going on in your life...

i've never grieved overly much; maybe because i've always instigated the break-up.

Well Id say the men do more grevin. Just past experience.

I don't know who greives more, But from what I have seen I would be inclined to beleive that women have more options to get past their greif.
After all (in my opinion of course) if a woman doesn't Want to be alone, she won't.
Be it hanging out with freinds at a club or finding a rebound relationship, or something to that effect.
Personally, my way of coping has always been reclusion and work, which for some reason I guess that sooths me.


[EDIT]Geez that sounded sexist, I hope you ladies don't hold this against me.

Love hurts ..PERIOD...
Although I wish the males hurt worse than we as women do. But everyone has a heart.

Tear jerker!!!

I would agree with this. The one initiating the break up has mentally and emotionally prepared more for it than the one being left behind.