ok, i am not going to bore with with the sad details of my life. I will say that after my last hurtful divorce, i was determined not to date. I had settled in and was peaceful in just raising my kids. My dating stories all go the same way. I meet someone, like them, we have a great time, whether it b 1 date or a marriage, they walk away without any consideration 4 MY feelings. They begin seeing someone or get lonely, the next thing i know my phone is ringing. I hear the same thing over and over, I am sorry, did'nt relize what I had. In the end we become friends, talk often, because i am just the type that once u hurt me, and treat me like i am not important, i will forgive u, but forget a second chance. I am friends with every man i have ever dated. I talk daily to the man I just divorced. He calls last week and says we just had the wrong timing, calls 2 days ago 2 tell me he loves me. I feel sometimes he is trying 2 get me 2 wait on him to do what ever he wants until he is ready 2 settle down.

Anyway, i began talking to this guy, e-mail, phone, text(constantly). i was not sure i was ready 2 date agian, but i was just seeing what happened. We met, had a wonderful time, there was chemistry, we laughed, it was a great night. still the calls and messages continue. He is very sweet. I on the other hand, have a problem showing my feelings, til i really trust someone. I think sometimes i am often misunderstood. 3 days ago, we messaged all day. he talked about wanting 2 c me, and the usual sweet things, then all of the sudden i don't hear from him at all. I text a few times no response. I say he is probaably busy or something, then stil no response, so now i feel stupid for texting him, if in fact he just doesn't want 2 hear from me. But i dont know if that is it, because i have heard nothing. I think I have gotten myself back in anothr situation. Could he just be busy? Why is it that if a guy wants u to leave him alone, he cant just say, not interested, and just b honest. Not all women are physho. I am an adult, i can handel the truth. Is it wrong to believe i deserve the respect of someone being open and honest?

Hello and welcome...

Is it possible, his girlfriend got hold of his phone, and read the messages, and now he is not game to return them?

You just answered your own question!!! Youre a doormat!!! sorry!! and unless you get some self esteem.......everyone will treat you this way.

You can still be nice though......but there is a knack of being nice and being stupid.......

You should know for certain that the other person care andvice versa. If there is no real communication it is never going to work no matter how hard you try. Careing an communication are the two most important things.

Oh goddddddddddd!!! The rubbber band!!!

............Or maybe he ran out of phone credit!! Or dropped his phone in a lake!!! Or an elephant stepped on it!!!


It may not be anything more terrible than his phone is f*cked, and your number is on there...

one day they are all lovey dovey........the next day they are distant..........blah!!!! Im sick of the rubber band!!!!

Thank u so very much Gypsy41 for your honesty, it is very refreshing. I do think very highly of myself, i just dont think people take the time 2 see my attributes. I have often told myself that I am 2 nice, that people just see it and take advantage. I guess i need to start thinking more about myself and my feelings than others

Huh?????

Rubber band????

You got me bamboozled there Gyps.....

(Not hard to do)

This is just a guy's perspective but us guys just don't want to hurt feelings or make an attempt at saying we're not interested because of feelings. Most of us know only one emotion and that is anger. When hurt we're mad, when sorry we're mad, when in love, yep you got we're mad.
YOu're very attractive but maybe you're attaching to the things in a guy you don't want. Then if you do find someone you like, you may be opening up too quickly. Lord knows, I've been called down on that many times. I hope this helps.
T mie

Am I invisible??? Or just give ****e advice???

Whatif's don't mater. If someone cares they will make sure you know no matter what is going on. If time with you is important they will find it somewhere

ohhhhhhhhhh the men are from mars sequel.........I dont understand them.........they dont understand me.......omg If I looked good in a mullet I would become a lesbian!!!

Do you read that crap????

No way!!!!

or maybe the guy was a jerk and a player

Am I invisible??? Or just give ****e advice???



i am sorry, just cant type fast enough, yes another girlfriend crossed my mind, i really dont think it is phone problems

Alot of men just get confused and are not sure what they want so they just try to get away for awhile to let their mind from racing so fast. then when it slows back down they think long and hard and think they have figured out what they want. Then they make the choice to be with someone and are with them for a little while before they realize that they still don't know what they want. Either that or he is really a jackazz and don't have the balls to tell you straight up that he isn't really interested. and in his mind what he wont tell you is that he just wants some sex and that's all.

Sorry, wasnt trying to be mean but there is a fine line between being too nice........Ive seen many a friend go through this......Im starting to think its a in born defect!!!

If you were a guy I would tell you to grow some balls!!!

I read all sorts of crap!!! I like crap!!!

Omg !!! you read that book too????